33 Laat niettemin ook een ieder van U afzonderlijk zijn vrouw zo liefhebben+ als zichzelf; de vrouw daarentegen moet diepe achting+ voor haar man hebben.
liefhebben:
(Kolozensen 3:19): 19 GIJ mannen, blijft [UW] vrouw liefhebben+ en weest niet bitter toornig op haar.+
(Efeziërs 5:25): 25 Mannen, blijft UW vrouw liefhebben,+ evenals ook de Christus de gemeente heeft liefgehad en zich voor haar heeft overgeleverd+
(1 Petrus 3:7): 7 GIJ mannen, blijft insgelijks+ bij haar wonen overeenkomstig kennis,+ door haar eer toe te kennen+ als aan een zwakker vat, het vrouwelijke, daar ook GIJ met hen erfgenamen zijt+ van de onverdiende gunst des levens, opdat UW gebeden niet worden verhinderd.+
diepe achting:
(1 Petrus 3:5,6): 6 zoals Sa̱ra A̱braham placht te gehoorzamen en hem „heer” noemde.+ En GIJ zijt haar kinderen geworden, mits GIJ het goede blijft doen en geen enkele oorzaak van verschrikking vreest.+
of eer toekennen: (Efeziërs 5:25)
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Laat een ieder van u afzonderlijk zijn vrouw zo liefhebben als zichzelf; de vrouw daarentegen moet diepe achting voor haar man hebben. — Efeziërs. 5:33.
Gezin onderdeel van de gemeenschap. – Portret van Idzert Jacobus Johan met zijn vrouw Margot Döderlein de Win en Tonny Launo met haar dochter
De Bijbel vergelijkt de relatie tussen Christus en de gemeente (of congregatie) met die tussen een man en zijn vrouw. Christus’ voorbeeld helpt de man te begrijpen dat hij zijn vrouw leiding moet geven, van haar moet houden en voor haar moet zorgen. En het helpt de vrouw te begrijpen dat ze onderworpen moet zijn aan haar man (Efeziërs 5:22-32). Wat bedoelde Paulus toen hij schreef:
„Aldus behoren mannen hun vrouw lief te hebben als hun eigen lichaam”? (Efeziërs 5:28)
Met „aldus” verwees hij naar wat hij even daarvoor had gezegd over de manier waarop „Christus de gemeente heeft liefgehad en zich voor haar heeft overgeleverd ( … ), haar reinigend met het bad des waters door middel van het woord.” Een man heeft dus de verantwoordelijkheid zijn gezin geestelijk te voeden. Dan werkt hij mee aan Jehovah’s voornemen om alle dingen weer bijeen te vergaderen in de Christus. w12 15/7 4:15
Vrouw met haar kinderen, zittend op de bale voor haar woning (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Een vrouw die zich door Jehovah’s Woord en zijn heilige geest laat leiden, kan veel doen om haar huis vredig en gelukkig te maken. Een godvrezende man houdt natuurlijk van zijn vrouw en wil haar fysiek en geestelijk beschermen. Zij wil dat haar man van haar houdt, en daarom toont ze eigenschappen waardoor hij haar nog meer gaat liefhebben.
„De waarlijk wijze vrouw heeft haar huis opgebouwd,”
zegt (Spreuken 14:1),
„maar de dwaze haalt het met haar eigen handen omver.”
Een wijze en liefdevolle vrouw draagt in grote mate bij aan het geluk van haar gezin. Ze laat ook zien dat ze het huwelijk echt waardeert als een geschenk van God. Man en vrouw tonen respect voor het huwelijk als ze de manier waarop Jezus met zijn gemeente omging, navolgen (Efeziërs 5:22-25). Wat een zegeningen zullen echtparen ervaren als ze echt van elkaar houden en hun huwelijk nooit laten ontsieren door trots, het kinderachtige stommetje spelen of andere onchristelijke eigenschappen! w12 15/5 1:12, 14, 15
21 Weest aan elkaar onderworpen+ in de vrees van Christus. 22 Laten vrouwen onderworpen zijn+ aan hun man als aan de Heer, 23 want de man is het hoofd van zijn vrouw,+ evenals ook de Christus het hoofd van de gemeente is,+ hij als redder van [dit] lichaam. 24 Ja, evenals de gemeente onderworpen is aan de Christus, zo moeten ook vrouwen het zijn aan hun man, in alles.+ 25 Mannen, blijft UW vrouw liefhebben,+ evenals ook de Christus de gemeente heeft liefgehad en zich voor haar heeft overgeleverd+ 26 om haar te heiligen,+ haar reinigend met het bad des waters door middel van het woord,+ 27 opdat hij de gemeente in haar luister aan zich zou kunnen aanbieden,+ zonder vlek of rimpel of iets dergelijks, maar dat ze heilig zou zijn en zonder smet.+
28 Aldus behoren mannen hun vrouw lief te hebben als hun eigen lichaam. Wie zijn vrouw liefheeft, heeft zichzelf lief, 29 want niemand heeft ooit zijn eigen vlees gehaat, maar hij voedt en koestert het,+ zoals ook de Christus dit doet ten aanzien van de gemeente, 30 want wij zijn leden van zijn lichaam.+31 „Daarom zal een man [zijn] vader en [zijn] moeder verlaten en hij zal zich hechten aan zijn vrouw, en de twee zullen één vlees worden.”+32 Dit heilige geheim+ is groot. Nu spreek ik met betrekking tot Christus en de gemeente.+33 Laat niettemin ook een ieder van U afzonderlijk zijn vrouw zo liefhebben+ als zichzelf; de vrouw daarentegen moet diepe achting+ voor haar man hebben. (Efeziërs 5:21-33)
Laat ons niet ontbinden datgene wat God samen gevoegd heeft. (Eén van de zeven sacramenten) – “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Gospel of Matthew 19:6) Matrimony, The Seven Sacraments, Rogier van der Weyden, ca. 1445. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
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Voorgaande:
Vader tegenhanger van de moeder
Vaderschap ingesteld verbondschap door de Schepper
Vaderschap complex en uniek verschijnsel 1/2
Vaderschap complex en uniek verschijnsel 2/2
Engelse versie:/ English version: Loving and having respect for the woman
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Bijkomend leesmateriaal:
- Relatie tot God
- Relatie tot Christus
- Relatie tot medemens
- Verzamelen, bijeenkomen, samenkomen, vergaderen
- Congregatie
- Een samenkomst of meeting
- Vergadering – Meeting
- Openbare Samenkomsten
- Bezieling gemeente
- Dagelijks helpen in het geloof
- De verdwijnende heerlijkheid
- Structuur -structuren
- Leiderschap gevonden in dienen van anderen
- Het eerste op de lijst van de zorgen van de heilige
- De Wet van de Liefde, basis van alle instructies
- Wie niet liefheeft, kent God niet, want God is liefde
- Doe het passende voor een vriend
- Opdracht om anderen lief te hebben
- Liegen omtrent liefdeszaken doodzonde
- Liefde maakt een persoon tot twee en twee in een
- Eenheid in Jezus en Jezus in ons en God in hem
- Liefhebben en winnen
- Wees druk bezig met het belangrijke teken van geloof
- Op zoek naar spiritualiteit 1 Inleiding
- De nacht is ver gevorderd 24 Studie 4 Zorg voor de naaste
- Redding, vertrouwen en actie in Jezus #9 Omgang met anderen
- De geboden observerend, uitvoerders wordend van het Woord
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