Loving and having respect for the woman

33 Nevertheless, each one of you must love his wife+ as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.+

33 Nevertheless, also, let each one of YOU individually so love his wife+ as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect+ for her husband. (Ref.B)

each one of you must love his wife:

(Collosians 3:19): 19 You husbands, keep on loving your wives+ and do not be bitterly angry* with them.+

(Ephesians 5:25): 25 Husbands, continue loving your wives,+ just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for it,+

(1 Peter 3:7): 7 You husbands, in the same way, continue dwelling with them according to knowledge.* Assign them honor+ as to a weaker vessel, the feminine one, since they are also heirs with you+ of the undeserved favor of life, in order for your prayers not to be hindered.

honor:

(Ephesians 5:25): 25 Husbands, continue loving your wives,+ just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for it,+

have deep respect for her husband:

(1 Peter 3:5,6): 5 For this is how the holy women of the past who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, subjecting themselves to their husbands, 6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord.+ And you have become her children, provided you continue doing good and do not give in to

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Let each one of you individually so love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband. — Eph. 5:33.

I Think I Love My Wife (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Husband and wife (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The Bible compares Christ’s relationship with the congregation to that of a husband with his wife. This should at once impress on us the direction a husband should give and the love and care he needs to exercise — as well as the subjection the wife should manifest — within the marital union. (Ephesians 5:22-32) When Paul wrote:

“In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies,” about which “way” was he speaking? (Ephesians 5:28)

His preceding words drew attention to the way in which

“Christ also loved the congregation and delivered up himself for it, . . . cleansing it with the bath of water by means of the word.”

Indeed, to work in harmony with Jehovah’s purpose for gathering all things together again in the Christ, a husband must be alert to feed his family spiritually. w12 7/15 4:15

A wife who is guided by Jehovah’s Word and his holy spirit can do much to make her home a place of tranquillity and happiness. It is natural for a God-fearing husband to love his wife and protect her physically and spiritually. She yearns for his love, and that requires that she be lovable.

“The truly wise woman has built up her house,”

says (Proverbs 14:1),

“but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands.”

A wise and loving wife contributes greatly to the success and happiness of her family. She also shows that she really appreciates God’s gift of marriage. Husbands and wives who base their union on Jesus’ example in dealing with his congregation show gratitude for God’s gift of marriage. (Ephesians 5:22-25) What blessings spouses enjoy when they truly love each other and never let pride, the childish silent treatment, or other unchristian traits mar their marriage! w12 5/15 1:12, 14, 15

21 Be in subjection to one another+ in fear of Christ. 22 Let wives be in subjection to their husbands+ as to the Lord, 23 because a husband is head of his wife+ just as the Christ is head of the congregation,+ he being a savior of this body. 24 In fact, as the congregation is in subjection to the Christ, wives should also be to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, continue loving your wives,+ just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for it,+ 26 in order that he might sanctify it, cleansing it with the bath of water by means of the word,+ 27 so that he might present the congregation to himself in its splendor, without a spot or a wrinkle or any of such things,+ but holy and without blemish.+

28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself, 29 for no man ever hated his own body,* but he feeds and cherishes it, just as the Christ does the congregation, 30 because we are members of his body.+ 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and he will stick to* his wife, and the two will be one flesh.”+ 32 This sacred secret+ is great. Now I am speaking about Christ and the congregation.+ 33 Nevertheless, each one of you must love his wife+ as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.+ (Ephesians 5:21-33)

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Previously:

 Father and motherhood

Father counterpart of the mother

Dignified role for the woman

Gender roles and Multitasking parents

Dutch version: Nederlandse versie: Beminnen en pespecteren van man en vrouw

I Love My Wife (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Additional reading:

1. Our relationship with God, Jesus and eachother
2. A Living Faith #10: Our manner of Life #2
3. Companionship
4. Let not sin reign in your mortal body
5. Having children interferes with work
6. For attractive lips, speak words of kindness
7. Better loaves when the heart is joyous
8. Do not forget the important sign of belief
9. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love
10. The task given to us to love each other
11. Do the appropriate for a friend
12. Lying in the senses in matters of love
13. Love turns one person into two; and two into one
14. Being one in Jesus, Jesus in us and God in Jesus
15. To be chained by love for another one
16. Love and win
17. Work with joy and pray with love
18. Gathering or meeting of believers
19. Observing the commandments and becoming doers of the Word

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