Marriage of Jesus 3 Listening women

In the previous posting we saw that it was not uncommon to chose for celibacy. There were even leading Jewish thinkers who praised such men for their choice.

Also years and centuries after Jesus had died some major teachers wanted to stay unmarried. Several people who thought it was their duty to spend most of their time to study the Word of God, considered it not practical to go into a marriage covenant. Matrimony would take up more time than they wanted to lose to study Gods Word.

Jesus carried God His Word in his heart, but he was not afraid to loose to much time spending it with ordinary people. There were several Jewish teachers at the time of Jesus who secluded themselves from women accompany. Jesus was not afraid to come close to children and women. By the followers of Christ there were also some women in their company who had been healed of various evil afflictions and illnesses: Mary, the one called Magdalene, from whom seven demons had gone out;  Joanna, wife of Chuza, Herod’s manager; and Susanna—along with many others who used their considerable means to provide for the group. Those women serving the men from their possessions, let us known that they had a good relation with them all, but that they really believed in the cause of that Nazarene man Jeshua (Jesus Christ) (Luke 8:2-3)

“2 and a number of women who had been healed from evil spirits and illnesses—Miryam (called Magdalit), from whom seven demons had gone out; 3 Yochanah the wife of Herod’s finance minister Kuza; Shoshanah; and many other women who drew on their own wealth to help him.” (Luke 8:2-3 CJB)

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Martha on the left, Jesus at the house of Mary and Martha, Harold Copping. – Virgin, Myrrhbearer, Wonder Worker of Southern Gaul

From the gospels we also get to know that Jesus not always travelled on his own. He had his followers around him and there were women like Martha, the sister of  Mary, who welcomed him into her home. The sister Mary sat at the rabbi’s feet and listened to him talk. Jesus considered Mary having made the right choice, listening to him. By listening to Jesus preaching many women learned from him and where able to give his teachings to others. Mary from Bethany, the sister of Martha and Lazarus, was also such a woman eager to learn form Jesus, who praised her for that. (Luke 10:38-42) Several of these women are mentioned by name in the New Testament gospels, including, Mary Magdalene, Joanna, and Susanna, who together helped to support Jesus and his other disciples financially. But nothing in the New Testament suggests that Jesus was ever married to any of these women, or to any other woman, for that matter.

Magdala Archaeological site near the Sea of Galilee

Miriam or Mary was a very common name. Many women with that name are mentioned in the biblical gospels, including Jesus’ mother and Mary from Bethany. The other “Mary” who gets a lot of attention is the one from Magdala, also called “Magadan” at the coast. Dalmanutha, as it was also called, was on the shores of the Sea of Gallilee where Jesus went to after he fed the four thousand. (Mark 8:10) the place would later also play a role during the Jewish Revolt.

We can not tell if this place was Mary her home or her birthplace, but most Christian scholars assume that she was from the place the Talmud calls Magdala Nunayya. We do know that this “Magdalene,” which means “from the village of Magdala,” accompanied Jesus on his preaching mission and helped to support him financially (Luke 8:1-3).

The apostle Luke talks about seven demons that had been cast out of her, presumably by Jesus (Luke 8:2). Nothing in this passage suggests that there was anything unusual about Mary’s relationship with Jesus, other than the very unusual fact that she was included among Jesus’ retinue. Having this woman prominent present during Jesus’ last days, may indicate she really was a serious follower, and that she might have some special affection for him. But we may not gallop and think this would mean they had a sexual relationship.

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The Penitent Mary Magdalene as Thaïs, fragment – José de Ribera, Prado Museum, Madrid

Mary Magdalene was probably one of more women who where close to this teacher. Though Jewish teachers in Jesus’ day usually didn’t teach women or include them as followers, Jesus involved them in his spreading the Good News. Perhaps such an inclusive practice may have been virtually unique, and his relationship with Mary and her female counterparts quite counter-cultural. She and some other women were there supporting Jesus in his final moments and mourning his death. John the Beloved and she were the courageous ones who stayed with Jesus at the stake after the other disciples  had fled. She was also present at his funeral and when she with a couple of female companions went to the tomb of Jesus, found it empty. She is the only person that all four Gospels say was first to realize that Jesus had risen and to testify to that central teaching of our faith. This makes her also so special, because it was as if it was meant that she would be the first contact of the resurrected Christ.

Just because she was there at the

“beginning of a movement that was going to transform the West” {“Mary Magdalene, the clichés”}

many want to give her a special place of interest. In several countries she is even honoured as a saint and receives such devotion like she is a goddess. She is often called the “Apostle to the Apostles”, an honorific that fourth-century orthodox theologian Augustine gave her. {Doyle, Ken. “Apostle to the apostles: The story of Mary Magdalene”. Catholictimes, 11 September 2011}

We may assume she really was a young woman to have been of leadership among the women following Jesus.

Several centuries after the biblical gospels were written, Mary became associated with the prostitute or harlot who bathed and anointed Jesus’ feet (Luke 7:36-50). But there’s nothing in Scripture that makes this connection. We have no reason to believe that Mary had ever been such a girl of light virtue. In case she would have been a girl with loose or lax morals, that would only prove that already in Jesus time those could become converted and take a whole different attitude in life, worthy to their master and in honour to God.

For some it might be a nice asset to have  a serious man, full of love for God, having also the love for such degenerated person. The moralists would love to see the story being true having like in a fairy tale, the bad becoming good and marrying the prince. Having Jesus as the prince of light and Mary Magdalene as the human being from the darkness. Those who suggest that, because of her previous ‘profession’, Jesus had a sexual relationship with her outside of marriage, do not know very well the teachings of Jesus and do not understand what Jesus tried to bring over to the people. He would not do something where he knew his Father would be against such attitude. In case they would have been free of anything of which they could be accused off, to be against the Will of God, and they would have felt very much for each other, they could have made their vows. But then Jesus would have known his responsibility for his wife and would have taken care that somebody would take care of her after he would have been taken from the living. Before he would have died he then would have entrusted her into the care of somebody like the Beloved Disciple, just as he did with his mother. The absence of this action could suggests that Jesus and Mary were not married.

We may assume that Jesus may have held Mary in the highest regard, though not as his wife. Ironically, the efforts to turn Mary the disciple of Jesus into Mary the wife of Jesus actually minimizes how truly extraordinary she was as a central follower, supporter, and witness of Jesus.

In the next chapter we shall see that such marriage claims only rely on the evidence of non-canonical “gospels”  of which I mentioned already in the previous chapters that they have to be considered as a sort of fiction.

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Preceding articles:

Marriage of Jesus 1 Mary, John, Judas, Thomas and Brown

Marriage of Jesus 2 Standard writings about Jesus

Next article: Marriage of Jesus 3 Listening women

  • Magdala on Sea of Galilee (israel-tourguide.info)
    Magdala Nunayya (Magdala of the fishes) was an important Jewish city on the western shore of the Sea of Galilee established during the Hasmonean period, centuries before neighboring Tiberias. In Christian tradition, it is the birthplace of Mary Magdalene and where Jesus went after he fed the five thousand (Mark 8:10).
  • LISTEN: Mary Magdalene: The First Person to See the Risen Christ (The Unsung Heroes of Easter #8) (blackchristiannews.com)
    The first reason why Jesus appeared to Mary Magdalene before anyone else could be because Mary Magdalene represented a direct triumph over the devil and his plan. Mark 16:9 states, “Now when Jesus was risen early the first day of the week, he appeared first to Mary Magdalene…” Of course, we can be content to know that Christ simply appeared to Mary Magdalene first because he chose to do so. But I believe it is safe for us to say that Christ appeared to a woman first as a symbolic expression that the curse of sin that had been brought on humanity by the actions of a woman had been completely removed.
  • First Century Synagogue at Magdala – Did Jesus Worship Here? (holylandphotos.wordpress.com)
    The site of al–Majdal (Arabic for “tower”) is located 4 mi. northwest of Tiberias, along the western shore of the Sea of Galilee.  This is evidently the site of New Testament Magdala (from migdol “tower”) that is the same as Taricheae (“the place of salted fish”) mentioned by Josephus where a bloody naval battle took place between the Jews and Romans during the first Jewish Revolt (ca. A.D. 66–70; War 3.10.1–10 [462–542]).
  • Archaeologists: Bible town possibly found (mobile.wnd.com)
    Archaeologists say they’ve discovered an ancient town mentioned in the New Testament, and it could be the location to which Jesus sailed after miraculously feeding some 4,000 people by multiplying a few fish and loaves of bread.
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    Experts believe Magdala is the modern-day town of Migdal, slightly inland near Israel’s Ginosar Valley. Magdala is perhaps most famous for being the hometown of Mary Magdalene, a female disciple of Jesus who was the first person ever to see Christ after He rose from the dead.
  • Magdala on Sea of Galilee (lavenderturquois.wordpress.com)
    The original excavations at the site were done by the Franciscan, Corbo in the 1970s. Paved streets and a large colonnaded square typical of a Roman city were found, along with buildings with mosaic floors. On the floor of one urban villa, an image of a sailing ship, a type of Mediterranean vessel modified for the lake, was found in mosaic.
  • 14. Hike the Bible – Mary Magdalene (biblescienceguy.wordpress.com)
    It’s possible that Mary “was called Magdalene” (Luke 8:2), because she was very tall. Magdala means tower in Aramaic as does Migdal in Hebrew. It would distinguish her from others named Mary, just as today we might distinguish one Tom from another by calling one Big Tom. Contemporary slang translations might be “Mega Mary” or “Mary the Tall” or “Mary the Great.” In early Christian art Mary was often depicted as taller than the apostles.
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    The prominence of Mary of Magdala is further underscored by calling her simply “Magdalene” without connecting her to a family. Frequently women in the Gospels were identified by husbands, such as “Joanna the wife of Chuza” (Luke 8:3) or “Mary the wife of Clopas” (John 19:25) and by sons, such as “Mary the mother of James and Joseph” (Mat 27:56; Mark 15:40, 47; 16:1), Salome “the mother of the sons of Zebedee” and sister of Mary the mother of Jesus (Mat 27:56; Mark 15:40; Mark 16:1; John 19:25).
  • Mary of Magdala; Tenth in a Series “Chosen Women in the Life of Christ” (asistershugs.wordpress.com)
    Mary Magdalene seems to have shared the spirit of Peter; she saw, questioned, believed, and then followed through!  We see her mingling with the Apostles and the other disciples of Jesus; caring for their need of food and domestic care.  I can almost imagine the women washing clothes, fetching water, preparing meals; all the while listening to the men as they questioned Jesus and heard His teachings.  I can hear them singing along with the group as they walked from town to town; sharing stories between themselves as women always do.
  • Festival of Saint Mary Magdalene (brvanlanen.wordpress.com)
    Following the assumption (possibly quite misguided) that Mary Magdalene truly had been a spectacular sinner whose penitential sorrow was deep and complete — and possibly because John described her as crying at the tomb of Jesus — artists often portray her either as weeping or with red eyes from having wept. This appearance (and a slight corruption in translation) led to the English word “maudlin,” meaning “effusively or tearfully sentimental.” Magdalen College at Oxford and Magdalene College at Cambridge (note the different spellings) — both pronounced “Maudlin” — derive their names from this Saint Mary.
  • Mary Magdalene – What’s in a name? (christiantoday.com)
    “None of the historians, people like Josephus or any of the other Greek or Latin texts of that period, reference a town called Magdala,” she said at a lecture at King’s College last night.This is a rather large stumbling block for the traditional theory. If this town was called ‘Magdala’, why wasn’t it mentioned in the writings of the time?There is another problem too. The word ‘Magdela’ is the Aramaic word for ‘Tower’.

    Professor Taylor says this challenges the traditional theory as the name is “not distinctive” and “seems rather odd”.

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Real marriage

To come to an inner relationship people have to take time. Today not enough time nor thoughts are given to build up such a good relationship. The sanctity of the covenant has lost its value today. The bond between one man and one woman is no important issue any more. Sacrilege or the profanation of anything holy is the favourite matter of these days.

In the Bible we do find the word “helper“, as God provided the partner for the first man (the 1°Adam). How many wives and husbands do consider themselves helpers in good and bad days, like they had their vows when they went in matrimony?

Question is what humankind wants to consider a ‘marriage‘ and what a value they want to give to the vows made when two people want to live with each other and share the same bed.

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Additional reading:

  1. Marriage vows and Divine vows
  2. Bible Guidelines for a happy marriage
  3. Father counterpart of the mother
  4. Father and motherhood
  5. Dignified role for the woman
  6. Gender roles and Multitasking parents
  7. Loving and having respect for the woman
  8. What shall I render unto the Lord for all His benefits
  9. Forced marriage and Islam
  10. New Thinky Things
  11. Manifests for believers #2 Changing celibacy requirement

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  • Marriage: do you take this total stranger to have and to hold? (telegraph.co.uk)
    Who said romance was dead? Jay Hunt, it would seem. Not content with giving us the man with 10-stone testicles and the woman with balls of steel (Benefits Street’s White Dee), Channel 4’s chief creative officer this week announced plans for a new show in which six strangers are married off live on television. Married At First Sight, explained Hunt, would see participants matched up with the help of a crack team of psychologists, psychotherapists, and social anthropologists. It will be a “groundbreaking experiment”, presumably in the same way that Big Brother was a great experiment in how to drag a section of society into the gutter, or Sex Live was an experiment in how to increase viewers by serving up prime-time porn.
  • Man Tries to Marry His Laptop Because It’s His ‘Preferred Sexual Object’ (thestir.cafemom.com)
    A man ostensibly trying to protest same-sex marriage has filed a lawsuit because he claims he’s being denied the “right” to marry the one whom he loves. The object of his affection being his porn-filled MacBook. Head meet desk.Amateur model and Army veteran Chris Sevier argues that if same-sex couples are allowed to marry, then he should be allowed to wed his computer because it’s his “preferred sexual object” and he prefers sex with his machine more than sex with “real women.” When he tried to file for a marriage license in Utah, it was rejected on the grounds of “sexual orientation.” Apparently “you’re a numbskull” isn’t an official response to this sort of thing.
  • Same-sex marriage: coercion dolled up as civil rights (mercatornet.com)
    It’s six weeks since Javascript inventor Brendan Eich was hounded out of his job at Mozilla by a virtual mob of intolerant tweeters and campaigners. His crime? Failing to genuflect at the altar of gay marriage, which is now the closest thing our otherwise godless, belief-lite, morally vacuous societies have to a sacred value. For refusing to bow down before this new sainted institution, and for having the temerity to donate money to a campaign group opposed to it, Eich was found guilty by the mob of sacrilege and was hounded out of public life as a modern-day heretic.
  • Marriage in the social media age (diaryofadysfunctionaldomesticdivablog.com)
    Marriage has never been easy kids.  Historically, marriage has been hard work.  Adam and Eve even knew it was tough to be married.  Sin has always been a dividing factor in marriages.  The bible tells us stories of deceit, adultery, even murder in marriage so this is obviously not a new trend.  But now, thanks to technology, it seems marriages have a whole new set of hurdles to jump.
  • Marriage Is Changing – Get Over It! (therightisalwayswrong.wordpress.com)
    Last month Stonewall published a draft gay marriage bill which removes the words “husband and wife” from the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, replacing them with “parties to a marriage”. When asked to explain, Ben Summerskill, the CEO, said: “In some clauses you have to replace the words husband and wife because you cannot have two husbands or two wives.” I doubt many husbands and wives will be happy to have the legal definition of their marriages re-written in such a way.
  • Unlawful Marriages and Illegitimate Children (flindersarchaeology.com)
    Are you the product of an illegitimate marriage? You could be, especially if your ancestors were married in Adelaide in the month of May, 1842. In her book, Family Life in South Australia Fifty-Three Years Ago, Jane Isabella Watts (1890:139) writes “the glorious uncertainty of the law and the careless, slipshod way in which Acts of Parliament are constructed were seldom, perhaps, more strikingly displayed than in the drawing up of the new Marriage Act.”
  • Why Marriage? (mikehigh5.wordpress.com)
    I have the privilege of leading family ministries at our church and I am responsible for young married couples and young families in our church. Thinking about that, I asked myself a question that most of us have asked in our adult lives. Why marriage? This question is especially relevant in today’s culture – a culture where the marriage commitment is actually de-valued.
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    Our marriages picture God and His character when we live out God’s design of love.
  • The sanctity of marriage and the family (catholicjules.net)
    Faithful love between husband and wife mirrors the abiding love of God for His people; first developed by the Old Testament prophets, this imagery reached its fulfillment in Christ, Who weds Himself to the human race by becoming man, and invites us all to His eternal wedding feast in heaven.
    Husband and wife, by the covenant of marriage, are no longer… two, but one flesh. By their intimate union of persons and of actions they give mutual help and service to each other, experience the meaning of their unity, and gain an ever deeper understanding of it day by day.This intimate union in the mutual self-giving of two persons, as well as the good of the children, demands full fidelity from both, and an indissoluble unity between them.
  • Matrimony (ubiquelucet.wordpress.com)
    Faithful love between husband and wife mirrors the abiding love of God for His people; first developed by the Old Testament prophets, this imagery reached its fulfillment in Christ, Who weds Himself to the human race by becoming man, and invites us all to His eternal wedding feast in heaven.
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Temptation in matrimony

165 Abundant peace belongs to those who love your law;+ Nothing can make them stumble. {Or “For them there is no stumbling block.”}

165 Abundant peace belongs to those loving your law,+ And for them there is no stumbling block.+ (RefB)

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who love your law:

(Psalm 1:2, 3): But his delight is in the law of Jehovah,+ And he reads His law in an undertone* day and night.+He will be like a tree planted by streams of water, A tree that produces fruit in its season, The foliage of which does not wither. And everything he does will succeed.+

(Proverbs 3:1, 2):3 My son, do not forget my teaching,*  And may your heart observe my commandments,  Because they will add many days And years of life and peace to you.+

(Isaiah 32:17): 17 The result of true righteousness will be peace,+ And the fruitage of true righteousness will be lasting tranquillity and security.+

(Isaiah 48:18): 18 If only you would pay attention to my commandments!+ Then your peace would become just like a river+ And your righteousness like the waves of the sea.+

(Psalm 19:7): The law of Jehovah is perfect,+ restoring strength.*+ The reminder of Jehovah is trustworthy,+ making the inexperienced one wise.+

(Psalm 40:8): To do your will, O my God, is my delight,*+ And your law is deep within me.+

(Psalm 112:1): 112 Praise Jah!*+א [Aleph] Happy is the man who fears Jehovah,+ב [Beth] Who takes great pleasure in his commandments.+

(Matthew 5:3): “Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need,*+ since the Kingdom of the heavens belongs to them.

(Romans 7:22): 22 I really delight in the law of God according to the man I am within,+

(James 1:25): 25 But the one who peers into the perfect law+ that belongs to freedom and continues in it has become, not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work; and he will be happy in what he does.+

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Abundant peace belongs to those loving [God’s] law, and for them there is no stumbling block.—Ps. 119:165.

22 Suddenly he goes after her, like a bull to the slaughter, Like a fool to be punished in the stocks,*+23 Until an arrow pierces his liver; Like a bird rushing into a trap, he does not know that it will cost him his life.*+ (Proverbs 7-22-23)

Do not be misled: God is not one to be mocked. For whatever a person is sowing, this he will also reap;+ (Galatians 6:7)

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Woman Taken in Adultery – Harmon Foundation; National Archives and Records Administration, College Park

If you find yourself tempted to develop an improper romantic relationship, meditate on the damaging consequences of fornication and adultery. (Proverbs 7:22,23; Galatians 6:7)

Those who commit immorality displease Jehovah and hurt their spouse and themselves. (Malachai 2:13,14) In contrast, contemplate the benefits that come to those who maintain chaste conduct. Not only do they have the hope of living forever but they also enjoy the best life now, including a clean conscience. (Proverbs 3:1,2) So love the truth, and “keep strict watch that how you walk is not as unwise but as wise persons” in these wicked times. (Ephesians 5:15,16) We are well-equipped to protect ourselves from the traps set by Satan (= the evil). Jehovah has given us what we need to “stand firm” and “quench all the wicked one’s burning missiles”! — (Ephesians 6:11,16). w12 8/15 4:18, 19

10 Finally, go on acquiring power+ in the Lord and in the mightiness of his strength. 11 Put on the complete suit of armor+ from God so that you may be able to stand firm against the crafty acts* of the Devil; 12 because we have a struggle,*+ not against blood and flesh, but against the governments, against the authorities, against the world rulers of this darkness, against the wicked spirit forces+ in the heavenly places. 13 For this reason take up the complete suit of armor from God,+ so that you may be able to resist in the wicked day and, after you have accomplished everything, to stand firm.

14 Stand firm, therefore, with the belt of truth fastened around your waist,+ wearing the breastplate of righteousness,+ 15 and having your feet shod in readiness to declare the good news of peace.+ 16 Besides all of this, take up the large shield of faith,+ with which you will be able to extinguish all the wicked one’s burning arrows.*+ 17 Also, accept the helmet of salvation,+ and the sword of the spirit, that is, God’s word,+ 18 while with every form of prayer+ and supplication you carry on prayer on every occasion in spirit.+ And to that end stay awake, constantly making supplication in behalf of all the holy ones. 19 Pray also for me, that the words may be given to me when I open my mouth, so that I may be able to speak boldly in making known the sacred secret of the good news,+ 20 for which I am acting as an ambassador+ in chains, and that I may speak about it with boldness, as I ought to speak. (Ephesians 6:10-20)

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Preceding articles:

 Father and motherhood

Father counterpart of the mother

Dignified role for the woman

Gender roles and Multitasking parents

Loving and having respect for the woman

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: Verleiding in het huwelijk

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Find more to read:

  1. No time for immorality
  2. Infidelity
  3. Don’t cut your conscience to fit this year’s fashions.
  4. What shall I render unto the Lord for all His benefits
  5. For attractive lips, speak words of kindness
  6. Father and motherhood
  7. Importance of parents 1
  8. Importance of parents 2
  9. The business of this life
  10. Doctrine and Conduct Cause and Effect
  11. Fragments from the Book of Job #3: chapters 21-26
  12. I Only hope we find GOD again before it is too late !
  13. People Seeking for God 2 Human interpretations
  14. Science, belief, denial and visibility 2
  15. Philosophy hand in hand with spirituality
  16. The Third Word: Scripture twisting is blasphemy
  17. Be Honest
  18. Sincerity not a test of truth
  19. Act as if everything you think, say and do determines your entire life
  20. Truth never plays false roles of any kind, which is why people are so surprised when meeting it
  21. Fixing our attention
  22. How to look for and how to handle the Truth
  23. The truth is very plain to see and God can be clearly seen
  24. Sincerity not a test of truth
  25. Getting to know the Truth
  26. Determined To Stick With Truth.
  27. Unarmed truth and unconditional love
  28. It is a free will choice
  29. United people under Christ

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  • A Righteous War (jehovahswatchtower.wordpress.com)
    The Bible mentions many battles that were fought throughout the ages. War has been a fact of life for mankind for thousands of years.
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    Whatever happened to Sodom & Gomorrah?
    Today’s news articles tend to show that Gays are gaining some acceptance and many people in the world today tend to believe that Homosexual people are just as entitled to the benefits, respect and rights that normal people enjoy. It appears that being Gay is gradually gaining respectability as a life style.
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    A Warning Message That Most People Will Ignore Just Like in Jeremiah’s Day
    Jehovah has sent his messengers to warn mankind of an impending destruction.   And they too were told by means of the Bible – that
    the vast majority of mankind will not listen.
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    God’s faithful messengers have never been popular. People did not appreciate them or their message. They detested and persecuted the messenger. Instead of becoming angry with God who composed the message, they poured out their wrath upon the faithful servant who delivered it. It has always been so. Therefore, it should be no surprise today.

  • How the Lord’s Advent becomes effective in the Individual Man (havau22.wordpress.com)
    The effect of the Lord’s perpetual presence is, that man is made rational, and that he can become spiritual. This is effected by the light proceeding from the Lord as a sun in the spiritual world, which man receives in his understanding; and that light is the truth by which he has rationality.
  • Psalm 34 | Bible Resources (spiceofyourlife.wordpress.com)
    The face of Jehovah is against them that do evil, To cut off the remembrance of them from the earth.
  • It’s My [Pity] Party And I’ll Cry If I Want To (laurarogers09.wordpress.com)
    The chaos, the tears, the frustration, and the unknown.  All you know is that God loves you and that He is working all things for your good (Romans 8:28), but right now it just feels like you’re an ant and God is a kid with a magnifying glass. You’re tired, desperately needing rest- physically and spiritually. You need a minute to just be still and rest in Him, but you look at your laundry list of things to do and the moment of peace slips away.
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    It may be true that “History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. Nothing under the sun is truly new… We don’t remember what happened in the past, and in future generations, no one will remember what we are doing now.” Ecclesiastes 1:9,11.  This may sound abysmal to you, but I find that it gives me confidence that I will overcome whatever hardship I face and nobody, not even me, will recall how terrible it was once it is over.  How often do we go through hardships and look back and think to ourselves “it was worth it” or “I would do it again in a heartbeat?”  It may be annoying to think that way in the midst of a difficult time, but I think that it is the right thing to do.
  • How Can God’s Guidance Bring Us Happiness Now?
    The standards and principles of human relations in the Scriptures are practical, eternal, and universal. When families apply them, homelife improves. Consider the importance of love, respect, and communication. How much happier many families would be if each member always applied the principle: “You must love your fellow as yourself”! (Leviticus 19:18) How much happier many marriages would be if mates respected each other and communicated freely and considerately, as did Elkanah and Hannah!—1 Samuel 1:8.
  • Facing the Loss of Your Mate
    what if the husband or the wife dies? Then that bond, unbreakable in life, is broken. The surviving widow or widower is often left with a blend of heartache, loneliness, and maybe even some anger or guilt. During her marriage of 58 years, Daniella knew many who lost their mates. * But after her husband died, she said: “I never understood this experience before. There is no way to comprehend it until you go through it.”
  • Is premarital sex wrong?
    The Bible uses the word “fornication” for some forms of sexual activity outside marriage. God expects his worshippers to “abstain from fornication.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3) Fornication is listed as a serious sin, as are adultery, spiritism, drunkenness, idolatry, murder, and thievery.—1 Corinthians 6:9, 10;Revelation 21:8.
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    When discussing immoral sexual practices, the Bible mentions not only fornication but also sexual “uncleanness” and “loose conduct.” (2 Corinthians 12:21) Clearly, there are various forms of sexual intimacy that are offensive to God when performed outside marriage, even when there is no intercourse.
  • Demon Possession and Pornography
    “The first change that happened was an addiction-effect.The porn-consumers got hooked. Once involved in pornographic materials, they kept coming back for more and still more. The material seemed to provide a very powerful sexual stimulant or aphrodisiac effect, followed by sexual release, most often through masturbation.”
    -Dr. Victor B. Cline is a psychologist at the University of Utah
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    “The second phase was an escalation-effect. With the passage of time, the addicted person required rougher, more explicit, more deviant, and ‘kinky’ kinds of sexual material to get their ‘highs’ and ‘sexual turn-ons.’ … Being married or in a relationship with a willing sexual partner did not solve their problem. Their addiction and escalation were mainly due to the powerful sexual imagery in their minds, implanted there by the exposure to pornography. They often prefer this sexual imagery, accompanied by masturbation, to sexual intercourse itself.
    This nearly always diminished their capacity to love and express affection … Their sex drive is diverted to a degree away from their spouse-and the spouse easily senses this, and often feels very lonely and rejected.”
    -Dr. Victor B. Cline is a psychologist at the University of Utah
  • Doomed to Divorce?
    Did the gloomy statistics about parenting kids with special needs mean our marriage was bound to fail?
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    many writers still suggest that as many as 80 percent of marriages with children with special needs end in divorce, recent studies don’t actually bear out this claim. In 2010, a study published in the Journal of Family Psychology demonstrated that the divorce rate for parents of children with autism is 24 percent. While this rate is 10 percent higher than that of the average family in this study, it is still a far cry from the 80 percent number that gets bandied about. Moreover, this study demonstrated a lower rate of divorce among parents of children with Down syndrome than the general population.
  • What If Your Spouse Cheats?When you married, if you’re like most couples, you made a vow pledging your faithfulness. But now you’ve discovered your spouse didn’t take that vow seriously. It doesn’t matter whether it was a one-night stand or a long-term affair, the results are the same—your spouse’s action has left in its wake fear, doubt, distrust, betrayal, hurt, and anger.Ultimately, it’s what you do with these emotions—how you process them—that makes the difference. For you and your marriage’s sake, you need to process these emotions in a positive way.
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    Retaliation is a common but negative response. Vengeful tactics include having an affair yourself to show your unfaithful spouse what it feels like to be betrayed or going to her workplace to cause a scene. Any effort at revenge is doomed to failure. Returning wrong for wrong simply makes the other person feel less guilty and stimulates him or her to return fire for fire.
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Loving and having respect for the woman

33 Nevertheless, each one of you must love his wife+ as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.+

33 Nevertheless, also, let each one of YOU individually so love his wife+ as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect+ for her husband. (Ref.B)

each one of you must love his wife:

(Collosians 3:19): 19 You husbands, keep on loving your wives+ and do not be bitterly angry* with them.+

(Ephesians 5:25): 25 Husbands, continue loving your wives,+ just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for it,+

(1 Peter 3:7): 7 You husbands, in the same way, continue dwelling with them according to knowledge.* Assign them honor+ as to a weaker vessel, the feminine one, since they are also heirs with you+ of the undeserved favor of life, in order for your prayers not to be hindered.

honor:

(Ephesians 5:25): 25 Husbands, continue loving your wives,+ just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for it,+

have deep respect for her husband:

(1 Peter 3:5,6): 5 For this is how the holy women of the past who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, subjecting themselves to their husbands, 6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord.+ And you have become her children, provided you continue doing good and do not give in to

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Let each one of you individually so love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband. — Eph. 5:33.

I Think I Love My Wife

I Think I Love My Wife (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Husband and wife

Husband and wife (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The Bible compares Christ’s relationship with the congregation to that of a husband with his wife. This should at once impress on us the direction a husband should give and the love and care he needs to exercise — as well as the subjection the wife should manifest — within the marital union. (Ephesians 5:22-32) When Paul wrote:

“In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies,” about which “way” was he speaking? (Ephesians 5:28)

His preceding words drew attention to the way in which

“Christ also loved the congregation and delivered up himself for it, . . . cleansing it with the bath of water by means of the word.”

Indeed, to work in harmony with Jehovah’s purpose for gathering all things together again in the Christ, a husband must be alert to feed his family spiritually. w12 7/15 4:15

A wife who is guided by Jehovah’s Word and his holy spirit can do much to make her home a place of tranquillity and happiness. It is natural for a God-fearing husband to love his wife and protect her physically and spiritually. She yearns for his love, and that requires that she be lovable.

“The truly wise woman has built up her house,”

says (Proverbs 14:1),

“but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands.”

A wise and loving wife contributes greatly to the success and happiness of her family. She also shows that she really appreciates God’s gift of marriage. Husbands and wives who base their union on Jesus’ example in dealing with his congregation show gratitude for God’s gift of marriage. (Ephesians 5:22-25) What blessings spouses enjoy when they truly love each other and never let pride, the childish silent treatment, or other unchristian traits mar their marriage! w12 5/15 1:12, 14, 15

21 Be in subjection to one another+ in fear of Christ. 22 Let wives be in subjection to their husbands+ as to the Lord, 23 because a husband is head of his wife+ just as the Christ is head of the congregation,+ he being a savior of this body. 24 In fact, as the congregation is in subjection to the Christ, wives should also be to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, continue loving your wives,+ just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for it,+ 26 in order that he might sanctify it, cleansing it with the bath of water by means of the word,+ 27 so that he might present the congregation to himself in its splendor, without a spot or a wrinkle or any of such things,+ but holy and without blemish.+

28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself, 29 for no man ever hated his own body,* but he feeds and cherishes it, just as the Christ does the congregation, 30 because we are members of his body.+ 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and he will stick to* his wife, and the two will be one flesh.”+ 32 This sacred secret+ is great. Now I am speaking about Christ and the congregation.+ 33 Nevertheless, each one of you must love his wife+ as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.+ (Ephesians 5:21-33)

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Previously:

 Father and motherhood

Father counterpart of the mother

Dignified role for the woman

Gender roles and Multitasking parents

Dutch version: Nederlandse versie: Beminnen en pespecteren van man en vrouw

I Love My Wife

I Love My Wife (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Additional reading:

  1. Our relationship with God, Jesus and eachother
  2. A Living Faith #10: Our manner of Life #2
  3. Companionship
  4. Let not sin reign in your mortal body
  5. Having children interferes with work
  6. For attractive lips, speak words of kindness
  7. Better loaves when the heart is joyous
  8. Do not forget the important sign of belief
  9. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love
  10. The task given to us to love each other
  11. Do the appropriate for a friend
  12. Lying in the senses in matters of love
  13. Love turns one person into two; and two into one
  14. Being one in Jesus, Jesus in us and God in Jesus
  15. To be chained by love for another one
  16. Love and win
  17. Work with joy and pray with love
  18. Gathering or meeting of believers
  19. Observing the commandments and becoming doers of the Word

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  • Husbands and wives summarized (deepstrength.wordpress.com)
    Predictably, wives whodesire andachieve equality are unhappy and unfulfilled. Husbands who lord over their wives show no love andare unfulfilled.However, those that follow that which the Scriptures affirm represent Him as One in marriage.
  • Establishing Healthy Husband-Wife Relationships (morselsofbread.net)
    In my personal life, I always felt that it was a continual power struggle to see which of us could be the most domineering in the relationship. After some time, I soon discovered that I had missed the mark completely.
  • 3 Things Men Want (Part 1): Respect (kingkurtissmith.wordpress.com)
    We just completed the 7 part series titled “7 Things Women Want”. These include: Acknowledgment, Affirmation, Attention, Affection, Security, Communication and Care (click to read).
    In that series, we ascertained that men are totally different from women in terms of attitude, reactions, thought pattern and behavior. Men are logical beings while women are emotional beings. Men are very easy to understand but the problem women have is that they act and think like women when relating with men. To successfully relate with a man, you have to act like a woman and think like a man. I’ll repeat, men are very easy to understand, most women are just too lazy to make that effort in understanding men. To buttress this point, you can see that men only want 3 things while women want 7 things. 7 compared to 3. Comon!..lol. Get this and you will never have problems with the men all your life again.
  • If You’re Not a Good Husband, Can You Be a Good Pastor? (katashdiakoniadotcom.wordpress.com)
    Marriage for every Christian man is a call to die for the salvation and sanctification of our wives.
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    You too may have a wife that has an occasional “wicked face” (to use Wesley’s words), but never pretend that her wicked face somehow changes your responsibility to God and her. Just as Christ died to cleanse His wicked bride, you do the same. Point her to Christ through your own self-sacrificial death. May Christ be the source of your love for your bride.
  • Wives: Love Your Husbands and He Will Move the World for You (menofredemption.wordpress.com)
    There is nothing like a husband who is committed and secured in his relationship with his wife for the cause of Christ. He is sold out for doing everything he can to make sure that his wife, family and purpose in life is fulfilled when he is following the Lord Jesus Christ. It’s rewarding, and it brings so much joy and completeness to his marriage relationship. Knowing that if he totally concentrates on serving God and his wife, God will make provision and a way where it seems impossible. That’s called allowing God to order and establish our steps in life. But sometimes it can become difficult if both the husband and wife aren’t in agreement with the covenant perspective, and then direction is misunderstood. There has to be understanding and agreement between the husband and the wife so that the spiritual leader of the home, the husband, can flourish in the guidance of the marriage and the wife supporting her husband with prayer and encouragement.
  • Love, Honor,Respect and Submission Are Gifts (peacefulwife.com)
    The way a husband treats his wife is an indicator of the depth of his love, respect and reverence for God. A husband’s love for his wifeis gift to her that springs from his love, obedience and reverence for Christ. A wife cannot force her husband to obey God and to love her as Christ loves her.  It is a gift he gives willingly because He loves and honors Jesus, so he loves and honors his wife.A wife’s respect and biblical submission towards her husband are gifts that a wife gives freely to her husband out of her love, obedience and reverence for Christ, as well.   There is no qualifier that a husband must do something first before the wife obeys God or that the husband must earn his wife’s respect.  A husband cannot force his wife to respect him and submit to him. 
  • Do It When You’re Old (howtodategod.wordpress.com)
    There is something to be said about Confidence in your spouse-Why? When you have confidence in your partner then there isn’t room for you to think about anything else negative. Your partner doesn’t need to “complete you”, you need to be complete in who you re before you ever think about getting married or being in any opposite sex relationship for that matter!  Be Confident.
  • Matrimony-dom At The Met: Hubby Hov “Puts A Ring” On BeyBey Again!!! (bossip.com)
    We’ve loved watching this couple grow together over the years, but hubby Hov may have topped himself this time! The rapper showed his romantic side after wife Beyoncé accidentally dropped the ring she was sporting on her right hand. Jay Z retrieved the ring, and staged a mock proposal all in front of the cameras as his wife smiled and playfully accepted his offering. Cute right? The whole world really is their stage.
  • 25th Wedding Anniversary / 25 Aniversario de Bodas (johaophotography.wordpress.com)

    As teenagers it comes to mind thoughts and desires of wanting to win the heart of someone and it is in that moment where begins our journey in search of love.

    The journey is not always easy, on occasion we have our high and other our low. Is as if we walk in search of a hidden treasure, but when we discovered we feel great satisfaction and joy that we want to shout it from the rooftops and share our happiness with the rest of the world.

  • Importance matrimonial websites in India are quite famous and authenticate (merggercom.wordpress.com)
    There is many matrimonial website in the world, but matrimonial websites in India are quite famous and authenticated. There are many free matrimonial websites which offer interested couple to know each other through website and find the best life partner for them. Indian matrimonial websites are good advisor and advice you to choose the best matchmaker for your life. Normally match making is done in India by parents or close relatives and child get ready to get married to the person which they find for them. While searching a guy or girl takes the lot of time and research but now a day’s youngsters prefer to choose their life partner by their own choice. They prefer to take their own decision to choose soul mate.
  • Loving Ewtn.com – Amor Para Ewtn.com (elpadreluisrodriguez.com)
    I recorded a 13 part series on Marriage Prep early on and recorded various of their spots called Faith Matters for TV.
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    Son muchas las respuestas que he dado en ambos idiomas de inglés y español.  Les grabé una serie de 13 partes sobre el tema de preparación pre-matrimonial y otros temas variados de la fe.  Pero mi gran alegría es el poder ayudarles en el forum de preguntas en español que provienen de Sur y Centroamérica, Méjico, Caribe y las partes sures de USA.  Los temas son muy variadas y diría yo que tienen que ver con todos los temas de la Iglesia.
  • Establishing Healthy Husband-Wife Relationships (morselsofbread.net)
    I used to not like the scripture found in Colossians 3:18 which reads,
    Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.Ephesians 5:22-23 also teaches, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
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    Women who are in abusive marriages and relationships lack self-esteem and often feel void of the love and compassion that God offers them. As a result, many do not seek a Godly life, but rather, they turn to the things of the world to fill a chaotic void in their life. They live under the delusion that the man they are in a relationship with “loves” them, and so they often find themselves hopelessly trapped and unable to escape an explosive situation. Too often, many lose touch with reality, believing that they are worthless, and as a result, they never live their lives as the special daughters that God intended for them to be.
  • Husbands and wives summarized (deepstrength.wordpress.com)
    Husbands incorrectly believe that if they treat their wives “as themselves” that they will lose respect for him and run roughshod all over him. They fear their wives. Wives incorrectly believe that if they treat their husbands as their “head” or “lord” that the husband will abuse this authority or get an ego trip. They fear their husbands. They do not know God because God is love and perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:7-21).Thus, instead of believing what God says, they believe the lies told to them by themselves, society, and churchianity. Rather than turning to God and obeying His Scriptures they double down on the fact that the other spouse may or will treat them poorly. Rather than admit fault they continue in their own sin.
  • Wives: Love Your Husbands and He Will Move the World for You (menofredemption.wordpress.com)
    There is nothing like a husband who is committed and secured in his relationship with his wife for the cause of Christ. He is sold out for doing everything he can to make sure that his wife, family and purpose in life is fulfilled when he is following the Lord Jesus Christ. It’s rewarding, and it brings so much joy and completeness to his marriage relationship. Knowing that if he totally concentrates on serving God and his wife, God will make provision and a way where it seems impossible. That’s called allowing God to order and establish our steps in life. But sometimes it can become difficult if both the husband and wife aren’t in agreement with the covenant perspective, and then direction is misunderstood. There has to be understanding and agreement between the husband and the wife so that the spiritual leader of the home, the husband, can flourish in the guidance of the marriage and the wife supporting her husband with prayer and encouragement.
  • The Two Shall Be One Flesh (holdingforthhisword.wordpress.com)
    marriage is a huge commitment that takes a lot of love, work and forgiveness. 
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    most marriages go through seasons where there is great unity and harmony, and then seasons where there is disharmony and discord.  That covenant before a Holy God helps us to keep the bonds of holy matrimony intact during times of difficulty.
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    It is extremely sad that so many do not take seriously the covenant they have made before our Holy God with their spouse.  There are other passages in the Scriptures which give God’s truth about marriage and divorce.
  • Love, Honor,Respect and Submission Are Gifts (peacefulwife.com)
    God commands husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave Himself for her.  He also commands husbands not to be harsh with their wives, but to be tender with them.  He commands husbands to honor their wives as the weaker vessel and co-heirs with them in Christ.  There is no qualifier that the wife must do something in order for her husband to obey God or that the wife must earn her husband’s love.The way a husband treats his wife is an indicator of the depth of his love, respect and reverence for God. A husband’s love for his wife is gift to her that springs from his love, obedience and reverence for Christ. A wife cannot force her husband to obey God and to love her as Christ loves her.  It is a gift he gives willingly because He loves and honors Jesus, so he loves and honors his wife.
  • A Respectable Man (dannyandsheri.wordpress.com)
    The subject of a wife respecting her husband immediately begs the question: whyWhy do I deserve her respect?  And it was this question that I was failing to ask, so it was this answer that I was failing to see:A wife should respect her husband, as the husbandshould be a respectable man.I began to realize that respect is a two-way street.  As much as you give respect, you give respect as respect is earned.  And often, the balance of this transaction can fluctuate, in the act of giving undue respect to people who don’t deserve it, or not receiving the respect that your actions and integrity do in fact qualify you for – and this is actually ok, especially in a marriage.  But the point is, there’s a great deal of humility in this transaction that I was, up to this point, missing.

 

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