Not holding back and getting out of darkness

Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. We may be thrown from one side to the other, hearing much thunder and seeing lots of lightning, trying to meet the ends and finding solutions for the many problems which may arise.

Italian Family Wedding 1927 1928 20s NYC

Italian Family Wedding 1927 1928 20s NYC (Photo credit: Whiskeygonebad)

Lots of people  just take it that they are in this world and have to take it as it is. But is it so? Do we just have to let the world pass and leave it like it comes upon us?

These days it looks like many people are not satisfied or are angry with those around them and with themselves. some might find

… the majority of people you talk to on a daily basis are dicks. People push through you on the walk to work with no regard for anyone but themselves, they ash their cigarettes completely oblivious to the fact that you are walking behind them and don’t bother apologising. Get out da way! {The majority of the people you interact with are douchebags: 20 Things No One Tells You About Your 20s}

Lots of people had dreams which are chattered into thousand pieces. Many found that where they thought would end up has become a vastly different place where they did end up after lots of struggles or interferences by others.

Your first job will be an eye-opening experience that will really show you what you want to do for the rest of your life. In college, you always dreamed about having your first job, but when you finally get that job, it’s probably nada like you imagined. {20 Things No One Tells You About Your 20s}

Having found work persons may already be pleased they could get the money not feel miserable or to end up in the gutter.

Maybe it (the money) doesn’t necessarily bring you happiness, but it does surely prevent you from being miserable. If you want to move out of your parents’ house and experience what freedom truly is, well you better believe that money is your ticket out of there. {20 Things No One Tells You About Your 20s}

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Virginea Beach, Va. (Oct. 24, 2007) – Rear Adm. Moira Flanders salutes as she walks through the side boys during the change of command ceremony for the Center for Personal and Professional Development on board Dam Neck Annex in Virginia Beach, Va. Capt. William Dewes relieved Capt. Jonathan Picker as commanding officer. U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist Seaman Seth Scarlett  (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Soon, after they left school and their parents,  people learn nothing comes cheap in the post grad world.

You are going to be faced with expenses you didn’t even know existed. Guess who’s responsible for paying for these things? If you think it’s your parents, you guessed wrong, it’s you! Remember how badly you wanted to grow up? Well this is what you had to look forward to — bills, bills and more bills, bitches. {20 Things No One Tells You About Your 20s}

Many people are realising how miserable the typical 9-5 career can be and are leaving for the world of entrepreneurship. Hopefully your family knows you well enough to realise your potential is better suited elsewhere. {20 Things No One Tells You About Your 20s}

Once in the world of business, it seems that economical world is been taking us in or has sup. Many do have to work to pay for the bills. They often dream of house of their own and engage to early on the mortgage market, making them live on the cutting edge. No time for personal development any more. Not time any more for spiritual issues.

When we face this life we sometimes need to build up the the courage to claim our spiritual identity in the midst of a world full of darkness. Some people even may be afraid to face the light which others might bring in front of them. It is like they are afraid of light.Lots of people are not sure for whom or what they have to live. They keep wondering why certain things are happening to them and not to others.  Lots of people we find concentrating on those bad things that happen onto them, instead of concentrating on the good things they let pass and do not enjoy enough.

Worlds Apart

Worlds Apart (Photo credit: Sony200boy)

Lots of people are so taken by the materialism of this world and hope that will bring them luck. The spiritual is something which frightens them. They know they have to live day in day out, and look to reach a goal, which they call success. They measure it in finances and in things the world can see. But they forget to see the richness of the things unseen. They run past all the beauty nature has to offer humankind, that many do not mind destroying.

How many people are not trying to use most of their time to convince anyone else of their good reason to exist and to see their success. So many people get caught up and get lost on the path of convincing … when in reality they would be better off, by just trying to be their own.

So many people got chained by their desire to have success, they loose track of the beautiful site of the world. They work and work and forget to live, until they feel pushed in the corner and wonder what they are doing and for what.

Only when they begin to attempt to simplify their lives they realize that they are not exactly sure what it is they really want. Many even do not come to see what might be important for them and for the others around them. They want to let go of this absorbing world, but do not know how. They lost the clear view to see or understand what’s important to us,. They know that something is not working and that they or that we need to change.

And yes we all need to change before it is to late. This world is ‘going bonkers’ if we are not careful. The global warming may for many be a fairy tale, but than they would be surprised how serious it really is.

It is important that we all know that every single thing we’ve gone through in life, every high, every low, and everything in between, has led us to this moment right now. Everything that we allowed to go through or let pass, shall be of influence on our environment, on the world we live in. Too many people still think it would not make any difference when a small fish somewhere in the ocean changes something.  But when all those little sardines would come together and join forces they would be seen from far away and not only be noticed but also heard.

Everybody has his mouthful of “freedom” but often only thinks about his own self, not being worried how the freedom of the other person can be guaranteed. Some might also say

One of the greatest freedoms is simply not caring what everyone else thinks of you.

There is truth in it for the own self-development. To feel at ease with yourself you need to be able to step aside now and then. You should be able to look at yourself. Sometimes it also may be taken literally, leaving the office, stepping outside, getting some air, looking at the grass and the trees. Taking time to see around you and to remind yourself of who you are and what you want to be.

The best thing you can do is follow your heart.  Take risks.  Don’t just accept the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what others will think, or afraid of what might happen.  If you do, nothing will ever happen.  Don’t let small minds convince you that your dreams are too big.  They aren’t. {20 Things to Stop Letting People Do to You}

Lots of people got blinded by their own mistakes and can not see that others also make the same terrible mistakes. We should all keep in mind that we’ve all made mistakes, but we should all also allow ourselves and others to make mistakes.  it is all to easy to do nothing. If you think by doing nothing you can not do anything wrong, you are mistaken. We all have a reason to be here on this earth and we all have our responsibility, not only for ourselves and our beloved ones, but also for those who come after us.

Lots of us let people take advantage of us, and we’ve accepted way less than we deserve.

And sometimes, we too have given others way less than they deserve.  Sometimes we let our priorities and our boundaries get ravished by the chaos of the day.  But if you think about it, we’ve learned a lot from our bad choices, and even though there are some things we can never recover, and people who will never be sorry, we now know better for next time.  We now have more power to shape our future. {4 Good Reminders When You’ve Had a Bad Day}

When life gets stressful, we often forget the things we should remember, and remember the things we should forget.  Then we loose track. Danger is also that we loose not only control over ourselves but also the believe in ourselves.

Don’t settle to simply be someone’s downtime, spare time, part time, or sometime.  If they can’t reliably be there for you when you need them most, they’re not worth your time. {20 Things to Stop Letting People Do to You}

This moment is priceless, and it’s the only moment guaranteed to you.  This moment is your ‘life.’  Don’t miss it.  (Read The Power of Now.)

The tendency here is to let our emotional attachments to things, people, places, etc. overwhelm us and prevent us from making real, meaningful and lasting changes. Instead of taking hold of those who love us we endanger and isolate ourselves by taking distance or going into our own little cell or cocoon. Than is the time to take the outstretched hand of others. Than you should be not taken by those who bully you or want to get you down.

Don’t let the people who refuse to love you keep you from the people who do love you.  Spend time with those who make your world a little brighter simply by being in it.

As Gandhi once said, “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”  Regardless of how despicable another has acted, never let hate build in your heart.  Fighting hatred with hatred only hurts you more.  When you decide to hate someone you automatically begin digging two graves: one for your enemy and one for yourself.  (Read The Four Agreements.) {20 Things to Stop Letting People Do to You}

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health care (Photo credit: lu4unity)

Life is too short to tirelessly struggle with those who bring negative forces into live. We better get rid of all those negative influences and concentrate more on positive thoughts. to bring positive news into the world is not as easy as it may look at first sight. From Guestwriters would love to bring more writers together bringing good news and concentrating on the love and peace we should try to build up together. But like on this platform there are not many writers presenting them to share their thoughts and, with their writings, to help others

Life will test you to see how serious you are about pursuing a particular path.  And sooner or later you may face negative feedback from others.  When this happens, remember not to let anyone crush your spirit.  If you are passionate about something, pursue it, no matter what anyone else thinks.  That’s how dreams are achieved.

Those who love life and love the ones around them can spread that love by showing it to others, without wanting something in return. It are those who want to dream and share their dreams, who can bring some light in this world.

Anything worth achieving takes time and dedicated effort.  Period.  Honestly, I used to believe that making wishes and saying prayers changed things, but now I know that wishes and prayers change us, and We change things.  (Angel and Marc Chernoff discuss this in detail in the “Goals and Success” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.) {20 Things to Stop Letting People Do to You}

We know that many people will laugh at those with ideals and dreams. We are aware and you too should know that some people cannot stand that you’re moving on with your life and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you.

Do not help them by acknowledging their behaviour.  Keep moving forward.  Practice acceptance and forgiveness.  Letting go of the past is your first step . {20 Things to Stop Letting People Do to You}

Things which happened in the past can be told, so that others can learn from it. The things happened in the past should be a lesson for us. We have to learn from history and therefore it is important that people tell about that history. But we do have to direct our eyes to the future and to look forward.
We do not have to go through the darkness alone. If everybody carries a tiny candle, the many little points of light will give a bigger light. Getting more lights together will make a brighter light.

On From Guestwriters as on this site, we do invite those who have something to share, to join us to bring positive news on From Guestwriters and to bring important things to be aware of or to think about, even when they may be shocking, or upsetting others, on this site, which for that reason is also called “Stepping Toes‘ because sometimes we do need to step on someone’s toes, before he comes to notice something.

We don’t need to flaunt our spirituality, argue about it, or attack anyone who does not see or agree with it; we just need to live it. The path of mastery does not require us to convince anyone else of anything; it simply asks us to remember who we are and be it. {Alan Cohen, Dare To Be Yourself}

May we look forward to meeting you as a regular reader or as a contributor or guest-author on one of the two sites?

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Find also to read:

  1. Live …
  2. Luck
  3. Choices
  4. See the conquest and believe that we can gain the victory
  5. If we view the whole world through a lens that is bright
  6. Don’t Envy the World
  7. Right to be in the surroundings
  8. To be chained by love for another one
  9. No man is free who is not master of himself
  10. Looking to the East and the West for Truth
  11. World Agenda for Sustainability
  12. Welfare state and Poverty in Flanders #3 Right to Human dignity
  13. Men as God
  14. A risk taking society
  15. Some one or something to fear #2 Attitude and Reactions
  16. Science, scepticism, doubts and beliefs
  17. Trusting, Faith, Calling and Ascribing to Jehovah #4 Transitoriness #1 Prosperity
  18. The Spirit of God brings love, hope and freedom
  19. Peace Takes You
  20. Happy International Happiness Day!
  21. By counting our blessings we not only feel good, but we multiply our good
  22. Never making mistakes because never doing anything

Find the sites and articles:

  1. Marc and Angel Hack Life
  2. 30 things to start doing for yourself – #6 is vital.
  3. 20 Things No One Tells You About Your 20s

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  • Keeping the Darkness Out (arturo57.wordpress.com)
    I was struck immediately by how angry everyone on the channel seemed. And how it seemed to permeate every word said. They sneered as they read the news. I guess they were sneering at Democrats in general and the president in particular. But I think they also were sneering at the audience.
    What they were really doing, of course, was sneering at the truth as they fanned the flames of racism, homophobia, and every other form of hate they could think of. That’s what they really preach on that channel – unabashed hatred. Hatred for what you don’t have. Hatred for what you don’t want. Hatred for everyone and everything that doesn’t fit a narrowly defined agenda.
  • [Classic RPG Realms] What Do You Keep Coming Back To? (classicrpgrealms.blogspot.com)
    Always coming back to something. He said that was a sure sign that something was really a part of you, something you couldn’t put down. Your life would be incomplete without it. He felt that way about horses. Obviously I didn’t, and neither did my daughters–we own no horses now.
  • Ready to Fly (sincerelyamie.wordpress.com)
    I remained there, in the dark silence. I stayed there and almost drowned myself in all my tears. I hid there and let sadness strip me down. And in staying there, I slowly began to drift down the wrong path.
    But then, He spoke to me. [He never fails.] He told me I was going to live. He told me I could do more than just survive. He told me to dream again. He told me to give my life for His, and I would know peace. And the darkness fell away, and my heart began to beat again, and I knew that I would really be okay.
  • Are You Afraid of the Dark? (writetolive7.wordpress.com)
    So many of us hide the things that most need to be shared. Regrets. Mistakes. Shame. I’ve kept many of my memories, experiences that I fear to relive, hidden beneath a blanket of shadows. Over the months and years, they’ve gathered dust. Like a dark basement, I’ve been terrified to venture back there, afraid that they’d jump out at me when I wasn’t ready to see them again. I’ve always been afraid of the dark, afraid of being blind to what’s coming my way.
  • Who’s Afraid of Identity Access Management? (cloudentr.com)
    IT managers, do you ever feel like you’re the Big Bad Wolf? When you try to rein in your users, even just to enforce good password policies, they sometimes act like you’re trying to blow their house down. When in fact you’re the one trying to convince them to move into a house made out of bricks.

    You don’t have to be the bad guy. Using some gentle persuasion — and the right technology for Identity Access Management (IAM) — you can steer your users in a better direction. The key is to make it easy for them to do the right thing, even when their instincts tell them to huddle in their houses made out of straw and sticks.

  • ‘The ocean captured us and allowed us to dream…’ (bigknickersandnursing.wordpress.com)
    ou’ve never hidden the fact that life’s hurdles have been somewhat challenging over the last year or so… Getting to grips with life as an independent women… Managing your own finances (ensuring there is still enough cash left in the bank account after payday shopping spree which always leads to buying of essential new outfits for forthcoming social events, to pay for basic food items such as wine, milk and bread)…
  • Do Not Be Afraid From “Life’s Darkness” (globalpoets.wordpress.com)
    Don’t be afraid about recent life’s dark / You are the one who govern your fate / As long you understand the “Law” / Marvelous times always will come in life / if you will act wisely as a creator God….
  • Don’t Let Growth Hacking Ruin the Customer Experience (helpscout.net)
    tunnel vision can occur when this happens. Cops forget about big busts and focus on the arrests they can get, if the required metric becomes “X arrests per quarter.”
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    If you’re going to be aggressive with your growth, you should know this: growth hacking can end up being marketing on steroids—that is, it can create artificial growth that has disastrous effects for the long term health of your business.
  • Think BigG & Live The Life You Deserve! (thinkbrilliantly.com)
    So many of us never manage to reach the level of accomplishments we could simply because we let thinking small define our lives.
    We hold back on trying to realize our dreams because we are afraid of what others will think or say.
    Still, if we´re serious about living the life we feel we´re meant to live, doing those great things we´re convinced we are capable of, then we need to step up to the challenge and learn to ignore the nay-sayers.
  • Faith Over Fear (cherilynclough.com)
    When you decide to take the road less traveled, it often means voting against the family party line. Basically if you are dealing with a narcissist, you are playing a game you can never win, so you might as well give up and go home. Fear and rejection are the bottom lines for most ACONs—Adult Children of Narcissists. I was invited to join such a group this week and my mind is still reeling from the humanity.

 

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Happy International Happiness Day!

Happiness does not come just like that. Having today Thursday March the 20th as the International Day of happiness we can look at the elements which can make happiness coming into being and having happiness being the drive to bring more happiness to all in the world.

Important in our life is that we come to understand that we will be able to do more in our own live and in the life of others when we share the Christian brotherly love and the message of the Good News of the coming Kingdom of God. Sharing the peace of Jeshua (Jesus Christ) with others we can give them a taste of happiness which can create more productivity. Happy people accomplish more.

The world has become so materialistic they think all their productivity and gains of money will bring them happiness. But perhaps they may gain temporary worldly success, it shall not be a guaranty for happiness in their own family.

Conventional wisdom may hold that if we work hard we will be more successful, and if we are more successful, then we’ll be happy. Most people would like to hold on on that and would be happy having a great job. True without some good satisfying work it would be more difficult to build up the happiness. But it is not by winning that next promotion, being in physical good shape, belonging to those praised societies, that happiness will be fortified.

Recent discoveries in the field of positive psychology have shown that this formula is actually backward: Happiness fuels success, not the other way around. When we are positive, our brains become more engaged, creative, motivated, energetic, resilient, and productive at work. This isn’t just an empty mantra. This discovery has been repeatedly borne out by rigorous research in psychology and neuroscience, management studies, and the bottom lines of organizations around the globe.

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Please find also to read:

  1. Have a real happy day today!
  2. Leaving the Old World to find better pastures
  3. If you want to go far in life
  4. Live …
  5. Being Religious and Spiritual 1 Immateriality and Spiritual experience
  6. Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness
  7. By counting our blessings we not only feel good, but we multiply our good
  8. Spreading good cheer contagious
  9. Bringing Good News into the world
  10. Bringing Good News
  11. Proclaiming shalom, bringing good news of good things, announcing salvation
  12. A Small Act Of Kindness Can Bring Smile On Million Faces
  13. Make your happiness independent of circumstances and others.
  14. Show Them How..
  15. Finally Happy.
  16. How shall the film of your life be?
  17. Rest thy delight on Jehovah
  18. Foundation to go the distance
  19. When discouraged facing opposition
  20. Be happy that the thorn bush has roses
  21. Suffering produces perseverance
  22. Partakers of the sufferings
  23. Compassion and Discipline
  24. If you have integrity
  25. Faith and trial
  26. Concerning Gospelfaith
  27. Faith is knowing there is an ocean because you have seen a brook.
  28. Everything that is done in the world is done by hope
  29. Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark
  30. Wondering
  31. The thought of losing rekindles the joy of having
  32. Joy is not in things, it is in us
  33. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  34. Better loaves when the heart is joyous
  35. Happiness is like manna
  36. Thirst for happiness and meaning
  37. Happy is the person who knows what to remember of the past
  38. Happiness an inner state
  39. Remember there’s a light in the next day
  40. A concrete picture of what is to come in the future
  41. Living in faith
  42. Self-development, self-control, meditation, beliefs and spirituality
  43. The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands
  44. The truest greatness lies in being kind
  45. Whom can we trust to govern us?
  46. Commit your self to the trustworthy creator
  47. Looking forward to the return of Jesus

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Additional reading:

  1. How Can It Get Any Better Than This?
  2. Freedom is mine and I know how it feels…
  3. Negativity Spiral
  4. Living With(out) Regret and Negative Feelings
  5. Happy/ hap.py/ ‘hape/ adj
  6. Happiness Log Technique
  7. #100HappyDays
  8. Does money buy happiness?
  9. Secret to happiness
  10. Happiness Is A Feeling
  11. Finally Happy.
  12. 60 Things to Be Grateful For In Life
  13. Elusive Things
  14. Count your blessings and take time to help others
  15. “Count your blessings, name them one by one…”
  16. As We Count Our Blessings (a Mom’s Memories post) | It’s Not All Bad…
  17. Blessed
  18. Somewhere Over the Rainbow
  19. Practicing Gratitude and Thankfulness
  20. Contagious Happiness
  21. Love
  22. Where’s the Love?
  23. Is Your Message Contagious?
  24. 19 Simple Things Everyone Can Do To Make Life Easier For Each Other
  25. My current easy dream…
  26. Watch out! It’s contagious!
  27. Gloomy Thinking Can Be Contagious
  28. The Reason Some People Always Focus On The Negative
  29. Hanging in there … Week #2 MKMMA experience
  30. Gratitude – I claim my power | faithgift
  31. Thanksgiving: Gratitude | Journey Through Recovery
  32. Sugar, Spice, and the Teenage Life
  33. Where is the edge

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  • Material-Immaterial, Physical-Spiritual — the whole of Humanity (geekborj.wordpress.com)
    Humanity is BOTH physical and non-physical.  Most of the “new age” philosophy forward either pure spiritual (idealist) or pure material (materialist).
  • Immaterialism and Spirituality (onemanversustheworld.wordpress.com)
    As you do not know the path of the wind, or how the body is formed in a mother’s womb, so you cannot understand the work of God, the Maker of all things.
  • Jehovah Shalom (joanofarc77site.wordpress.com)
    I will keep my eyes focused on You Jehova Shalom and nothing will shake me from my peace.
  • Laborers for the Harvest (viktoriaveigas.wordpress.com)
    Sometimes Christians covet their fellowship with other believers and cluster together, blindly bypassing worldly seekers who are ripened for harvest. Perhaps not realizing their divine accountability for perishing souls, they busy themselves with church engagements, civic responsibilities, building maintenance, and other worthwhile projects dedicated to preserving the status quo. These are doubtless good things. Well-intentioned members sometimes question the value of evangelism or express this sentiment: Pastor, this evangelism stuff is all right, but don’t we need programs for people who are already in church?
  • 7 signs your church could be backsliding (atwistedcrownofthorns.com)
    Is your church following the Word and ways of the Lord and abhorring all that is otherwise? Is the fear of God, the love for truth and for God’s glory, and the desire to walk according to all God’s commandments prospering among the believers? When a church begins to slip it loses track of that which it must hold to firmly, it gradually and steadily drifts. Here are a few signs your church could be backsliding….
  • The Difference Between Psychology and Neuroscience (athoughtonthemind.wordpress.com)
    Most people consider cognitive neuroscience a branch of psychology but some people (often neuroscientists) consider psychology a branch of neuroscience. So which is it? And what’s the difference anyways?

    To address these questions, we need to start with some definitions. Lets start with psychology. According to the American Psychological Association (and also Wikipedia), psychology is the study of mind and behaviour. Neuroscience, on the other hand, is the study of the biological underpinnings of mind and behaviour.

  • Why are materialists less happy? (io9.com)
    The latest word on how to be happy: be more appreciative of the things you have. Newly published research out of Baylor University finds materialistic people are less happy in large part because of their lack of gratitude.
  • How Happiness Directly Impacts Your Success (forbes.com)
    I reached out to Shawn to learn more about how our brains in “positive” mode versus negative, neutral or stressed actually give us an enormous advantage in life and work, and how we can influence our minds to embrace more happiness through our daily actions.  This Happiness Advantage as Shawn calls it can be the difference between leading a fulfilling, joyful and successful life and living far beneath our potential (see his book The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work for more).
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    What specifically impacts our happiness and how can we shift it?
    The three greatest predictors of happiness are optimism (the belief your behavior will eventually matter), social connection, and how we perceive stress (as a challenge or as a threat).  If we want to raise happiness we need to make both mindset and behavior shifts.

    What are the five key steps that we can take each day to increase our experience of happiness?

    1)      Bring gratitude to mind – Write down three NEW things that you are grateful for each day

    2)      Journal – About a positive experience you’ve had recently for 2 minutes once a day

    3)      Exercise –  Engage in 15 minutes of mindful cardio activity

    4)      Meditate – Watch your breath go in and out for 2 minutes a day and

    5)      Engage in a random, conscious act of kindness –  Write a 2-minute positive email thanking a friend or colleague, or compliment someone you admire on social media

  • Shannon Polly, MAPP, to Present at International Day of Happiness Conference Sponsored by en*theos (entheos.com) (virtual-strategy.com)
    Positive Business DC today announced that co-founder Shannon Polly, MAPP was selected to present at the International Day of Happiness free conference sponsored by en*theos, coinciding with the United Nations’ International Day of Happiness. en*theos, a popular website with over 275,000 members, was launched to help people optimize their lives and actualize their potential through providing the best content and tools on “Optimal Living.”

    The International Day of Happiness event is featuring 19 speakers with the respected Master of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) degree held by less than 300 people in the world. Those with a MAPP degree are considered experts in well-being and the application of positive psychology.

    “I am honored to be part of en*theos’ International Day of Happiness virtual conference. Their focus on empowering people to embrace their personal strengths and recognize their larger purpose in the world around them is inspiring” said Shannon Polly, MAPP.

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By counting our blessings we not only feel good, but we multiply our good

The Grove at night during the holiday season

The Grove at night during the holiday season (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

While Miriam Moreno from the island of Cuba, currently residing in Maryland has a love for God, art, family, true friendships, and just plain living, she is  grateful for family, knows that everyday new miracles are born, but we don’t even think about them as such, {Do Miracles Truly Exist?} and writes:

I am grateful for another holiday season I am able to celebrate with them. In less than a week, my parents are driving down with my niece. I am extremely excited. It’s been a while since my parents and I have been able to spend a holiday with other family members. It’s great!

Remember, if you don’t get along with someone now, it doesn’t mean it will always be like that. Time does heal all. I always had a hard time believing that, but its true. {A Conversation}

We may not forget that ingratitude is the cancer of the soul. Suncrest Highland Campus Pastor Wes Blackburn who loves Thanksgiving, the food, the family and is a big fan of the pies, writes:

I love how Thanksgiving always feels like it comes at just the right time in the year for me to take a step back, take a little bit of time off, and head back home to see some friends and family that I generally haven’t seen in a little while. For whatever reason, it just feels like a lot of stuff converges for me at this time of year and it’s always my favorite holiday. {Count Your Many Blessings}

the sexy santa assistants were there to take a...

the sexy santa assistants were there to take a photo of you in front of the xmas tree or you could just ask them to take a photo with you and pretend that your girlfriend is a sexy santa assistant See where this picture was taken. [?] (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

He continues that

in our haste to shift our focus to the buying, busy-ness, and consumerism that has become the Christmas season in America, we’ve lost sight of a valuable opportunity to reset ourselves spiritually and focus on what’s important. {Count Your Many Blessings}

It is not only in his country that people are taken by the material site of the holiday season. In all the capitalist countries people are blinded by the many things they think they should buy. The shopping has become for many their biggest concern, or the way how they can make the best supper, to show off.

How many people are there who are going to sit back, and make a list of all that they have in their life to be thankful for.

Wes Blackburn thinks what will happen when people are willing to take some 15 minutes to sit back:

In the first 2-3 minutes, you’ll list off all of the generic and general stuff that everyone lists. Then you’ll hit a block and be tempted to quit. Keep going. Keep pressing through. It’s in pressing through the “block” you’ll find some of the greatest, most unexpected sources of gratitude. You’ll find some incredible things to be thankful to God for.


If ingratitude is the cancer of the soul, thankfulness is the antidote.
It’s so easy for us to forget this.
But on this day of the year, let’s learn the rhythms of gratitude well,
and see God cultivate growth in our souls in the process.
Wes Blackburn

In a A Season of Giving Thanks the explorer writing and reaching for more joy in his life ‘muse brad’ wrote:


The path to happiness and success is built upon what is currently working in our lives.
The more that we think, talk and focus on our blessings,
the better that we feel and the more our lives will flow.
In turn, we may bless others in a grand circle of love.

Start your own season of giving thanks and see what blessings come.

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Gratitude Journal

Gratitude Journal (Photo credit: limevelyn)

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  • Practicing Gratitude and Thankfulness (kasamba.com)
    Thanksgiving is an excuse to gorge on lots of great food, watch the game and spend time with family and friends.  It is the one day of the holiday season where the trappings of gift-giving are suspended and we just spend time with one another.
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    We all know we should be thankful.  We should be thankful for the things we have and the people we love and who love us.  Yet, being “thankful” isn’t quite the same thing as being “grateful.”  Being grateful is appreciating what we have and those who are in our lives.  It’s easy to be thankful, but a bit more difficult to make the effort in expressing gratitude.

    It is easy to be thankful and express gratitude when things are wonderful.  When we have that special romantic partner in our lives, our children are being ideal, the bills are getting paid and our careers are going great.  It’s harder to be thankful and express gratitude when life gets complicated.  Yet this is exactly the right time to be grateful.

  • Great Gratitude (californiamoon.wordpress.com)
    While the historical premise leaves a foul taste in my mouth, the idea of gratitude, of giving thanks, of bringing to mind all that we are thankful for warms my insides. Throughout the year, when I am in fear or in my darkest of moments, it is through gratitude and thanksgiving that I am able to pull myself up and out and through those toughest of times, those darkest of moments in my life. When things get rocky and rough, it is through a gratitude list and memory that I find my way to joy and to sanity again. Gratitude really is magic and it has served me well in my life. I keep a gratitude journal and it has changed my life for the better in many ways. It has helped me move from mind to heart and it has helped me realize all the small but, big things I have to be grateful for. I really am tremendously blessed even when I forget it.
  • Count your blessings and take time to help others (staugustine.com)
    Those in our community who need a little help, especially during this time of the year, are many. People are proud and sometimes don’t ask for help. They shouldn’t need to. We should help our friends, neighbors and co-workers. In the spirit of the holiday season, I think now is a good time for all of us to be kinder and gentler and to make a point to help those less fortunate. We don’t always know the circumstances and we don’t need to. Spreading the holiday and Christmas cheer comes naturally for some.Maybe this holiday season we should vow to be more generous during the entire year and not just when there are daily reminders in the newspaper, on TV, radio and everywhere you turn.Being generous doesn’t mean you necessarily have to write a check. You can give time, lend your expertise or just do something special for someone. It could be as simple as bringing in someone’s mail, newspaper, garbage bins or carrying heavy objects into the house for them.
  • A Million and One Thanks (1stclasscreativity.com)
    Thanksgiving to me isThe Holiday of Gratitude. 
    The Holiday of Thankfulness. 
    The Holiday of being Thankful.
    The Holiday to Count your Blessings.So on this beautiful Thanksgiving I am counting my blessings and praying for those that might be having a hard time on this holiday because of illness, or being separated from family or other hardships, I’m praying for you today.
  • Giving Thanks (hannahbear585.wordpress.com)
    No matter what happens in life I know that I will always have my family. We support each other, we love each other, and we will always be there for each other. I don’t know what I would do without them. I am truly blessed to have the family I do. Family is forever!
  • “Count your blessings, name them one by one…” (lindseyrichhall.wordpress.com)
    When I was growing up, my mom often sang the “Count Your Blessings” song to me.  What, you mean that you don’t know that song? (insert sarcasm here…I’m not shocked). Well, the song goes something like this:“Count your blessings, name them one by one. Count your blessings, see what God has done. Count your blessings, name them one by one. Count your many blessings, see what God has done.”There are many other verses, but you get the idea.
  • Gobbles of thanks (laurenrautenkranz.wordpress.com)
    I thought today would be the perfect opportunity to take a moment to remind myself how wonderful life is. Days, months, and years pass by in the blink of an eye. It’s sometimes hard to remember to count your blessings.
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    Every day is special and today I hope we all take a moment to soak it all in.
  • Blessed (statesideuro.wordpress.com)
    In the midst of everything that seems to be going wrong, we all forget to take a step back and remember to count our blessings.  It’s great that we have Thanksgiving as a reminder to be thankful for all of the good in our lives, but unfortunately, sometimes Thanksgiving doesn’t even do that for us.  Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could have a “mini-Thanksgiving” every day?  Well, the good news is, we can!
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    Sometimes things don’t work out the way I’d planned, but they always end up being for the better.  And that’s the power of God.  He blesses us with what we need, even if it’s not what we want.
  • Why I can’t count my blessings (adventuresinsinglemommyhood.wordpress.com)
    how could I possibly select the top 10 out of all the blessings in my life? I would have to write and write and write and then choose out thousands (and yes, I think I could come up with at least 14,000 of my own) which ones were worthy of being in the top ten. It would be way too difficult, and take way too long for the purpose of this blog, but maybe I will try it some day. I have a feeling I would be surprised at what would vie for the top spots after the “biggies”, and maybe even before the biggies. Can I really say that I am more grateful for my car than I am for being able to watch the sunrise over the ocean?
  • Counting blessings (oliviabrodie.wordpress.com)
    We are all going to struggles. Life is never going to be perfect, we are always going to think of something we’d change. But we shouldn’t be focused. We should live contently with the life God has given us. He knows what’s going to happen down the road. It’s not our worries.

Some one or something to fear #2 Attitude and Reactions

Fear to use a name of a ghost, person or group

2. Not done

In certain countries it is just not done to speak with strangers about politics or religion. But in the social environment often it is not liked to have conversations about a God who would have created earth and heaven.

The ability to recognize danger leading to an urge to confront it or flee from it (also known as the Fight or Flight response) is really necessary. But in extreme cases of fear (terror) a freeze or paralysis response is possible.

3. Perceived emotions

Some psychologists such as John B. Watson, Robert Plutchik, and Paul Ekman have suggested that fear belongs to a small set of basic or innate emotions. This set also includes such emotions as joy, sadness, and anger. Fear should be distinguished from the related emotional state of anxiety, which typically occurs without any certain or immediate external threat. Additionally, fear is frequently related to the specific behaviours of escape and avoidance, whereas anxiety is the result of threats which are perceived to be uncontrollable or unavoidable.[1]

Actress demonstrating initial reactions of fea...

Actress demonstrating initial reactions of fear and panic. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

According to surveys, some of the most common fears are of: ghosts, the existence of evil powers, cockroaches, spiders, snakes, heights, water, enclosed spaces, tunnels and bridges, needles, social rejection, failure, examinations and public speaking. In an innovative test of what people fear the most, Bill Tancer analysed the most frequent on-line search queries that involved the phrase, “fear of…”. This follows the assumption that people tend to seek information on the issues that concern them the most. His top ten list of fears consisted of flying, heights, clowns, intimacy, death, rejection, people, snakes, success, and driving.[2]

4. Others thinking about us

The fear which concerns us most is the people have for the thinking of others. Because people learned that when they speak about humankind, its beginning, the reasons why, they felt they came on a dangerous slippery ground. They do not want to sink in the marsh of the unmentioned items. People develop specific fears as a result of learning, and they noticed generation after generation that you better do not speak about God. This makes that even those who love God or often afraid to speak about Him in the open.


[1] Öhman, A. (2000). Fear and anxiety:Evolutionary, cognitive, and clinical perspectives. In M. Lewis & J. M.Haviland-Jones (Eds.). Handbook of emotions. (Pp.573–593). New York: The Guilford Press.

  • Fear Only A Small Set Of Basic Or Innate Emotions (ouroboricsmallbones.wordpress.com)
    Fear is frequently related to the specific behaviors of escape and avoidance, whereas anxiety is the result of threats which are perceived to be uncontrollable or unavoidable.
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    All people have an instinctual response to potential danger, which is in fact important to the survival of all species. The reactions elicited from fear are seen through advantages in evolution.
  • Approach anxiety 2 (ivonechovski.wordpress.com)
    Approach anxiety is a fear many men have when they should start talking with unknown and attractive women. It’s a frustration due to combination of: 1)The mind subconscious thoughts; 2)False ego which gives the fear of eventual rejection.
  • The Shrink’s Links: The Plutchik Emotion Circumplex (keithwilsoncounseling.wordpress.com)
    Robert Plutchik’s theory of emotion is, my opinion, the most reasonable classification of emotions there is. He considered there to be eight primary emotions: angerfearsadnessdisgustsurpriseanticipation,trust, and joy. These ‘basic’ emotions are biologically primitive and each is the trigger of behavior with high survival value.
  • Interesting study about fear (catmoonsonia95.wordpress.com)
    Anxiety is a vague unpleasant emotional state with qualities of apprehension, dread, distress, and uneasiness. In addition it is object-less. Fear is similar to anxiety except that fear has a specific object. When some optimal level of stimulation or arousal is exceeded, one experiences anxiety. It can be an adaptive healthy response or a debilitating one.
  • Fear Factor (sarahtannerinspiredliving.com)
    We perceive a threat to ourselves such as getting hurt; failing or making a big mistake – and to protect ourselves we quickly pull away from the situation or decision and hide. Fear is a survival mechanism.Yet our survival is not as threatened as it once was. But we still have the mechanism, and our mind still finds a way to utilise it.
  • Nothing to Fear but Fear Itself (71junebug.wordpress.com)
    Nothing in life is impossible if you believe you can do it. Nothing. (Well, almost nothing. I could believe all day that I am turning into a beautiful butterfly, but that’s not going to make it happen.) It is possible to overcome fear. To conquer those things that we are afraid of we have to give them a name first; they have be tangible. It’s not enough for someone to ask “What are you scared of?” and for your reply to be “I don’t know.” When this is your reaction, you are letting fear take control.
  • Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (ritholtz.com)
    Robert Plutchik also created a wheel of emotions. This wheel is used to illustrate different emotions compelling and nuanced. Plutchik first proposed his cone-shaped model (3D) or the wheel model (2D) in 1980 to describe how emotions were related.