Running away from the past

Being born, growing up. Days which start and days which finish. Days and nights, working hours, moments of rest and relaxation. From baby, encountering lots of difficulties in our will to try to find out and to try to do things. when times come before our eyes and we see them go past, we can only see that somehow we keep carrying them with us for the rest of our life. We sometimes we think we forget them, but suddenly they reappear. Sometimes we can not let the past  for something what is gone. It may have been fortunate or may have been awful.

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Students look at a section of the exposed Wasatch Fault, a classic normal fault located in North Salt Lake, Utah. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

How many people do we not know who are trying to run away from their past? Sometimes we meet people who do not want to be remembered of their past. Several people do everything they can to get all remembrances of their past out of their way. Others only want to keep certain pictures going around to show the better part of their passed moments. As such they can get the less nice moments into oblivion.

Nobody wants to remind those painful moments of their life. We all want to dream of better moments and of miraculous and magical life. If things happened in our lives which we did not like, we prefer to put the fault to something or some one else. Mostly we do not want to see the fault by ourselves, and when we see that we ourselves where at fault often we do not want to admit it. Most of us do not want to have the pain to be remembered at those bad things that happened in our lives.

We would love to see that no bad things would happen to us. As soon as everything seems to go so smoothly, then with a finger snatch everything seems to go wrong. Moods change so easily.

Many of us do not like it when things go wrong or when we are brought in a bad mood. Most of us do not want to be angry or in a bad mood, but the anger and bad mood come again and again.

What can we do against it?

One moment everything looks to go enormously well, the other moment everything turns out to go terrible. The world has seen times were people had peace with each other and at other moments they seemed not to be able to cope with each-other. At times people had difficulty to survive and had to face thirst and hunger. Sometimes even the same people could find more than enough of it all. Often the might have found abundance, but really did not appreciate it or did not know they had so much, until they had lost it.

All of us probably have seen times of joy but also times of sorrow.

We are just a ball in the game of life, rolling from one side to the other.

How often we do like it to be rolled from one place to the other in case it could bring us something better (we think)? But how often did we not make the wrong choice, did we choose for the wrong party? How many times did we want to blame ourselves when it did not turn out like we had hoped?

In certain religions, people created somebody they could blame for what went wrong. Some like to think on their left shoulder is sitting a bad ‘ghost‘ or ‘devil‘ which lures them in the bad situations. It is that devil which makes them to have bad choices, doing things wrong, having bad or making them cross with others. Is that not easy to blame such a devil?

Like the pendulum of the always ticking clock we are pulled form the right to the left, from the good to the wrong or to the bad, and than there are others who want us to choose. Is that not difficult?

Why do so many people want to make it so complicated whilst life can be less complicated?

When something happened, why do we want to forget it and leave it in the past like it never happened. Why do we not want to take the opportunity to learn from it and to keep it in our mind to remember ourselves how we next time should not do it that way or should not let it turn out like it did previously?

It is impossible to turn back the time. What happened happened. How many times did we give the excuse we needed more time?

Did we ever think that if we would have accepted our own strength and would have shared it more with the other we could have reached much more? How many times did we want to hear the other for the good of us growing and did we want to work together to make everything better without having ourselves in the picture as the one who could make everything better? So often people do not want to hear the voice of an other in their mind, telling them to do what they should do. But when they did something others do not like, they are the first one to tell tit was somebody else his idea, or somebody else’s fault something went wrong.

Lots of people do enjoy it to look at others their mistakes or failings. How many do not like to listen to gossip and rumours and evil insinuations? when we hear people talking around us talking about others, how many do not derive pleasure from the shortcomings of others, especially those who have previously appeared to be models of uprightness or have been in the footlights?

Have you tried to hear the voice which comes over all the din of the market, the buzz of social gossip, the stamping and mirth of the pleasure spots?

How often we feel that wrong is done to us and do we want to have revenge? How many of us when we long to retaliate for wrongs done to us, hear again that calming voice penetrates our hurt and our angry frustration?

We should come to know that vengeance only belongs to the Supreme Being. It is not up to us to take the law into our own hands, for God has allowed the justice system and He will repay.  (see Romans 12:19). Anger is a great bungler, and it has well been said that we get at odds when we try to get even.

It Ain't My Fault

It Ain’t My Fault (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We can all remember moments in our life where we were angry, with or without reason. Many times in our life we had moments we could not pretend that nothing was happening that we did not like. More than once we got to the point we had to do something to make it better or to change the situations so that we could find a better way to handle or to deal with the situation or person in a non-attached way. We had moments in our life where we had to take care of what needed to be done, responding with patience and understanding, and moving on.

In our life we should come to a point realising we do have to move on. Than we should try to break the habit of a lifetime and should want to try and reinforce a new approach to how we view ourself. How we look at our self and what happened in the past is something we only ourself can change. With time we can slowly try and retrain our thinking to no longer be so hard on ourself.

We have to stop giving others but also ourselves the fault. We have to stop thinking the others are bad but also have to stop thinking we are bad. At times we might have taught we were the reason we were hurt and that it was our fault. When we were ridiculed at school or did fail to get top marks (sometimes finding 9/10 in a test wasn’t good enough and anything less than an A+ was a fail in our parents eyes).  How many people are not surrounded in their youth with negativity, blame and ridicule just kept heaping one on top of the other and that made them feel absolutely worthless.

But in the creation of the Most High nobody is worthless. Nobody is guilty for his total life. A person may have stolen bullied, not having told the truth, having sexual and other escapades, it might even be someone may have brought damage to somebody else or even murdered some one, there is hope for that person.

There has been a man in history who made arrangement than any evil person can be pardoned for the atrocities he or she might have done. Every person on this planet has his past, which can be seen as the past that has been but is also gone. We do not have to carry the past with us as a burden or like a ball of plumb hanging at our legs, like by the prisoners in the old times. All chains are broken today by one person to whom we may look up.

Today there are still lots of people who say it is impossible that there could exist a man of flesh and blood who would be willing to swipe over the faults of other people, forgive what they have done, and would not mind taking them in a reign where everybody is considered equal and live together in peace for ever.

But a barrister is provided who works pro-deo. At no cost for us that advocate will take counsel for anybody of the world who is willing to accept him to be his solicitor. He does not charge anything. The only thing he demands is that we recognise his Father and his position and that we would like to try to do the Will of his Father like he only wanted to do the Will of his Father and not his will.

When you are willing to accept that man in your life and understand what he has done for mankind, than you may forget all your previous life and start all over again. With a new slate you may start afresh. Is that not great? Would that not give any hope?

Yes you may forget your past in such circumstance, but you shall have to run away from your past also. That solicitor will require from you that you really want to turn over the page and start anew.  He will be a mediator between you and his Father, who he wants that you shall accept also as your Father in heaven. Turning over the page shall require that you run away from your past, let it be what it was, but not without forgetting to learn your lessons from it.

All people should come to see that they are fortunate and that they are saved, valued, loved and accepted for whom they are and for what they have done but even more for what they shall try to do. They all should try to see and find the good persons around them, their family who love them and care for them, and their good friends who support them, and those who are willing to accompany them to better pastures.

Let this be your time also to value yourself and to challenge and change the habit of a lifetime.

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Find to read:

  1. Malefactors becoming your master
  2. The first on the list of the concerns of the saint
  3. Doest thou well to be Angry?
  4. Be ye angry and sin not
  5. She who sows thistles will reap prickles
  6. The mistake is the one from which we learn nothing
  7. Never making mistakes because never doing anything
  8. He who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger
  9. The business of this life
  10. Be holy
  11. God does not change
  12. Singing gift from God
  13. Unconditional love
  14. No good thing will he withhold
  15. Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience
  16. Change
  17. A Living Faith #8 Change
  18. Only I can change my life
  19. Wishing to do the will of God
  20. One mediator

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Spreading good cheer contagious

Could spreading good cheer, especially in uncertain times, be contagious? According to Brett Westcott, a junior from Plainfield, Ill. it is. His comrade Cameron Brown, a junior from Toledo, Ohio, does also believe it can help people to get in a better mood. This Summer together they kicked off their RV road trip on Monday (July 20) in the Big Easy tour ending August 7 in Rochester, N.Y..

It is a well know fact that people can have strong effects — both positive and negative — on one another’s mental health. Today a lot of negativism is infecting the world. It goes around as a wild virus in this crisis world. Nothing seems to be sure any more, and lots of people have lost trust in their government and even in their environment, not sure any more of the bond of friends. Ordered things have shown the tendency to become disordered sooner or later, however natural. The same applies to human behaviour, however genetic. A new study by a University of British Columbia researcher finds that some people are genetically predisposed to see the world darkly.

The study, published in Psychological Science, finds that a previously known gene variant can cause individuals to perceive emotional events–especially negative ones — more vividly than others.

“The ability to regulate emotions is essential to both mental and physical well-being. Conversely, difficulties with emotion regulation have been postulated as a core mechanism underlying mood and anxiety disorders.”

It is interesting to see that the human mind which is considered to be the most ordered and conscious system in the world is not left untouched by the negative effects of the environment. Negativity is all-pervasive, it seems. today it is possible to identify and distinguish between the different emotions which go through our brains. Negative emotions helps us address the problem that led to those emotions in the first place. But while some people can tell the difference between feeling angry and guilty, others may not be able to separate the two and may become depressed, feeling they can not cope with it any more.

People around us can contribute al lot to our mood; They can make us happy, sad or even make us depressed. Those who know the blessings of the world would do better to let others also feel the goodness of this world. They’ll better share their happiness and good mood.  They better take care that the right virus contaminates their environment they’re living in. Jesus asked his follower to spread the Good News. But before people can spread that good news they themselves should feel good. They themselves should be radiant, full of sunshine. they should not be so much concerned about themselves, but should be willing to live more for the others around them. Noticing them and encouraging them. by giving compliments to others they can contribute the first step to more happiness.

When Westcott started giving compliments on the Purdue campus almost a year ago he never expected it to be so well received all over the world. Though lot of the compliments they gave where on material things that cost money. It looked a missed change to give compliments on the better and more important things in life, like having a smile on the face, feeling bright. An appropriate remark by environmentmatters was:

“I wonder how these compliments or lack of compliments affect people who can’t afford nice hoodies, shoes, bookbags, etc.?”

Dishwalla Candle does find:

“the idea maybe great, but i guess randomly complimenting on any object they could see on a person may not be a good one..what if that person hates that object? they’ll be so offended that it’ll turn to be a mockery or an insult rather than a compliment.”

The trip was undertaken to allow the two guys to share the same good feelings with people around the country that they had exchanged at Purdue.

Westcott and/or Brown stood at the heart of Purdue’s campus for two hours every Wednesday afternoon last school year giving out free compliments to thousands of passersby. Initial suspicion of their motives quickly melted in face of their enthusiasm and earnestness. The Compliment Guys’ ability to make people smile prompted Kodak to sponsor the national tour.

“There is absolutely nothing else I prefer doing than making people smile,” Brown said. “It’s amazingly easy to do if you take the very short amount of time to notice what is special about those around you.”

People may forget that it does not take big, grand gestures to make a positive impact on someone else’s day. Being around, having some smile on the face, saying “Hello”, giving a few simple courtesies, they all can contribute to making a day better for the person we pass. In ourselves we do have the power to make the difference and for ourselves and for the others. The greeting on the streets may have already gone a long time, but why should we not take up such an attitude from the old days when the villages or towns where smaller? It is true in a city we could not say to every person we pas “Good morning”, but for sure there are enough people to whom we could say “Hello”, like the porter, the man in the tube or train station, the bus driver. to others we can show them we are feeling happy, so that out smile on our face can transform their face as well. In case more people would not mind to make an effort to go out there and prove that chivalry is not dead, the world could become a nicer place to live. Being gallant and respectful, should not be things out of date. They  are traits that will never go out of date or out of style.

Be that person who will make life easier for the people around you.

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Read more about it: Purdue Compliment Guys hit the road for national tour

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Give joy to the world, keep smiling, keep giving love and Spread the Good News of the coming Kingdom of God.

Be a messenger of happiness, love and peace.

Peace Love WriteYou too may be a Blogger for peace
and join a movement willing to bring others that brotherly love and peace.

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    Sometimes I have to ask myself — are outward appearances the only thing I compliment people on? Because they shouldn’t be.
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  • Gloomy Thinking Can Be Contagious (namisouthbay.com)
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    “These thinking styles were contagious,” he says. “If you came to college and your roommate had a very negative thinking style, your own thinking style became more negative.”
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    The Reason Some People Always Focus On The Negative
    In the study in Clinical Psychological Science, researchers looked at 103 pairs of college-freshmen roommates’ “cognitive vulnerability,” which is the tendency to think that negative events are a reflection of a person’s own deficiency or that they will lead to more negative events. Those with high cognitive vulnerability are at an increased risk of depression, studies have found.
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    “This is the first study to find that this genetic variation can significantly affect how people see and experience the world,” says Prof. Rebecca Todd of UBC’s Dept. of Psychology. “The findings suggest people experience emotional aspects of the world partly through gene-coloured glasses — and that biological variations at the genetic level can play a significant role in individual differences in perception.”
  • Alliance Missions and The Contagious Chain of Missionary Zeal (christeien.com)
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    Even just one life burning brightly for the gospel can ignite the hearts of hundreds of others for generations to come.What a powerful thing it is to contemplate that reality in the history of missionary work! Consider, for example, the following chain of gospel influence: John Elliott; David Brainerd; Jonathan Edwards; William Carey; Charles Simeon; Henry Martyn; Anthony Norris Groves; George Müller; James Hudson Taylor; C. T. Studd; “The Cambridge Seven”; Student Volunteer Movement for Foreign Missions; D. L. Moody; Arthur T. Pierson; Amy Carmichael; Eric Liddell; Elizabeth and Jim Elliot