Running away from the past

Being born, growing up. Days which start and days which finish. Days and nights, working hours, moments of rest and relaxation. From baby, encountering lots of difficulties in our will to try to find out and to try to do things. when times come before our eyes and we see them go past, we can only see that somehow we keep carrying them with us for the rest of our life. We sometimes we think we forget them, but suddenly they reappear. Sometimes we can not let the past  for something what is gone. It may have been fortunate or may have been awful.

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Students look at a section of the exposed Wasatch Fault, a classic normal fault located in North Salt Lake, Utah. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

How many people do we not know who are trying to run away from their past? Sometimes we meet people who do not want to be remembered of their past. Several people do everything they can to get all remembrances of their past out of their way. Others only want to keep certain pictures going around to show the better part of their passed moments. As such they can get the less nice moments into oblivion.

Nobody wants to remind those painful moments of their life. We all want to dream of better moments and of miraculous and magical life. If things happened in our lives which we did not like, we prefer to put the fault to something or some one else. Mostly we do not want to see the fault by ourselves, and when we see that we ourselves where at fault often we do not want to admit it. Most of us do not want to have the pain to be remembered at those bad things that happened in our lives.

We would love to see that no bad things would happen to us. As soon as everything seems to go so smoothly, then with a finger snatch everything seems to go wrong. Moods change so easily.

Many of us do not like it when things go wrong or when we are brought in a bad mood. Most of us do not want to be angry or in a bad mood, but the anger and bad mood come again and again.

What can we do against it?

One moment everything looks to go enormously well, the other moment everything turns out to go terrible. The world has seen times were people had peace with each other and at other moments they seemed not to be able to cope with each-other. At times people had difficulty to survive and had to face thirst and hunger. Sometimes even the same people could find more than enough of it all. Often the might have found abundance, but really did not appreciate it or did not know they had so much, until they had lost it.

All of us probably have seen times of joy but also times of sorrow.

We are just a ball in the game of life, rolling from one side to the other.

How often we do like it to be rolled from one place to the other in case it could bring us something better (we think)? But how often did we not make the wrong choice, did we choose for the wrong party? How many times did we want to blame ourselves when it did not turn out like we had hoped?

In certain religions, people created somebody they could blame for what went wrong. Some like to think on their left shoulder is sitting a bad ‘ghost‘ or ‘devil‘ which lures them in the bad situations. It is that devil which makes them to have bad choices, doing things wrong, having bad or making them cross with others. Is that not easy to blame such a devil?

Like the pendulum of the always ticking clock we are pulled form the right to the left, from the good to the wrong or to the bad, and than there are others who want us to choose. Is that not difficult?

Why do so many people want to make it so complicated whilst life can be less complicated?

When something happened, why do we want to forget it and leave it in the past like it never happened. Why do we not want to take the opportunity to learn from it and to keep it in our mind to remember ourselves how we next time should not do it that way or should not let it turn out like it did previously?

It is impossible to turn back the time. What happened happened. How many times did we give the excuse we needed more time?

Did we ever think that if we would have accepted our own strength and would have shared it more with the other we could have reached much more? How many times did we want to hear the other for the good of us growing and did we want to work together to make everything better without having ourselves in the picture as the one who could make everything better? So often people do not want to hear the voice of an other in their mind, telling them to do what they should do. But when they did something others do not like, they are the first one to tell tit was somebody else his idea, or somebody else’s fault something went wrong.

Lots of people do enjoy it to look at others their mistakes or failings. How many do not like to listen to gossip and rumours and evil insinuations? when we hear people talking around us talking about others, how many do not derive pleasure from the shortcomings of others, especially those who have previously appeared to be models of uprightness or have been in the footlights?

Have you tried to hear the voice which comes over all the din of the market, the buzz of social gossip, the stamping and mirth of the pleasure spots?

How often we feel that wrong is done to us and do we want to have revenge? How many of us when we long to retaliate for wrongs done to us, hear again that calming voice penetrates our hurt and our angry frustration?

We should come to know that vengeance only belongs to the Supreme Being. It is not up to us to take the law into our own hands, for God has allowed the justice system and He will repay.  (see Romans 12:19). Anger is a great bungler, and it has well been said that we get at odds when we try to get even.

It Ain't My Fault

It Ain’t My Fault (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We can all remember moments in our life where we were angry, with or without reason. Many times in our life we had moments we could not pretend that nothing was happening that we did not like. More than once we got to the point we had to do something to make it better or to change the situations so that we could find a better way to handle or to deal with the situation or person in a non-attached way. We had moments in our life where we had to take care of what needed to be done, responding with patience and understanding, and moving on.

In our life we should come to a point realising we do have to move on. Than we should try to break the habit of a lifetime and should want to try and reinforce a new approach to how we view ourself. How we look at our self and what happened in the past is something we only ourself can change. With time we can slowly try and retrain our thinking to no longer be so hard on ourself.

We have to stop giving others but also ourselves the fault. We have to stop thinking the others are bad but also have to stop thinking we are bad. At times we might have taught we were the reason we were hurt and that it was our fault. When we were ridiculed at school or did fail to get top marks (sometimes finding 9/10 in a test wasn’t good enough and anything less than an A+ was a fail in our parents eyes).  How many people are not surrounded in their youth with negativity, blame and ridicule just kept heaping one on top of the other and that made them feel absolutely worthless.

But in the creation of the Most High nobody is worthless. Nobody is guilty for his total life. A person may have stolen bullied, not having told the truth, having sexual and other escapades, it might even be someone may have brought damage to somebody else or even murdered some one, there is hope for that person.

There has been a man in history who made arrangement than any evil person can be pardoned for the atrocities he or she might have done. Every person on this planet has his past, which can be seen as the past that has been but is also gone. We do not have to carry the past with us as a burden or like a ball of plumb hanging at our legs, like by the prisoners in the old times. All chains are broken today by one person to whom we may look up.

Today there are still lots of people who say it is impossible that there could exist a man of flesh and blood who would be willing to swipe over the faults of other people, forgive what they have done, and would not mind taking them in a reign where everybody is considered equal and live together in peace for ever.

But a barrister is provided who works pro-deo. At no cost for us that advocate will take counsel for anybody of the world who is willing to accept him to be his solicitor. He does not charge anything. The only thing he demands is that we recognise his Father and his position and that we would like to try to do the Will of his Father like he only wanted to do the Will of his Father and not his will.

When you are willing to accept that man in your life and understand what he has done for mankind, than you may forget all your previous life and start all over again. With a new slate you may start afresh. Is that not great? Would that not give any hope?

Yes you may forget your past in such circumstance, but you shall have to run away from your past also. That solicitor will require from you that you really want to turn over the page and start anew.  He will be a mediator between you and his Father, who he wants that you shall accept also as your Father in heaven. Turning over the page shall require that you run away from your past, let it be what it was, but not without forgetting to learn your lessons from it.

All people should come to see that they are fortunate and that they are saved, valued, loved and accepted for whom they are and for what they have done but even more for what they shall try to do. They all should try to see and find the good persons around them, their family who love them and care for them, and their good friends who support them, and those who are willing to accompany them to better pastures.

Let this be your time also to value yourself and to challenge and change the habit of a lifetime.

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Find to read:

  1. Malefactors becoming your master
  2. The first on the list of the concerns of the saint
  3. Doest thou well to be Angry?
  4. Be ye angry and sin not
  5. She who sows thistles will reap prickles
  6. The mistake is the one from which we learn nothing
  7. Never making mistakes because never doing anything
  8. He who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger
  9. The business of this life
  10. Be holy
  11. God does not change
  12. Singing gift from God
  13. Unconditional love
  14. No good thing will he withhold
  15. Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience
  16. Change
  17. A Living Faith #8 Change
  18. Only I can change my life
  19. Wishing to do the will of God
  20. One mediator

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Please do find also to read:

  1. Simplicity, Clarity, Beauty
  2. Tiny Seed Within
  3. Touching Peace
  • Who’s fault is it anyway? (wenonachad.wordpress.com)
    He can be dramatic and take offense at little things if he’s in the right mood. He goes from one mood to the other very quickly sometimes and he has a very anxious personality at times. Lily is the only girl. She is artistic and crafty. She is also the most spiritually minded. She has been asking questions and talking about Jesus pretty much since she learned to talk. We already feel like she had a ministry calling on her life. But she is also bossy sometimes and demanding. She likes things done her way and she will tell you that! I absolutely love my kids and daily they teach me some kind of lesson.
  • My Fault (shruti14.wordpress.com)

    Cant forget those black days you gave to me / those stains aren’t easy to wash off / Which keep me reminding of our dusk / Never can I forget that bitter words which pierced my heart

  • it is his fault (wonderlandbytatu.wordpress.com)
    One of the glorious aspects of being pregnant (again) is that I can literally blame Eeverything on the little guy inside.
  • “Its Not My Fault” (emankawas.wordpress.com)
    I have noticed a dramatic change in myself: energy is low, ambition is limited, and motivation is dissolved. It was painful to wake up to reality that “I have changed”. Now it started to become clear to me why, it’s because I have been in the defense mode for so long that I started to put it on the top my priorities and let other important things go, like (motivation, ambition, drive, humility and passion).
  • Letter to my mother (notdazedorconfused.wordpress.com)
    With no conditions. I was your baby. Then suddenly I was stupid, ugly, useless. I was nothing. Then you kept apologizing. Your temper, your mood wasn’t helping. Yelling was how you talked. I had to tolerate that. I had to hear you yelling. And believe you when you said it wasn’t my fault. I wasn’t bad in any way. I was healthy and capable. But I was also abused. Abused by the people I trusted the most. Cause I was a child. Your child. And your world. It was also mine. I can feel my heart aching as I am writing these words. So much yelling. So much pain. So much confusion. And it wasn’t my fault. As you said you were unwell. Unwell and sick.
  • Does the Truth Help or Hurt Relationships? (robertjrgraham.com)
    I really thought that if I let people know the ugly thoughts, not only would they be hurt – but they would probably become angry and disown me – betray me, talk shit behind my back. I would be the outcast.

    So I beat them to the punch! Hah! I’d banish myself to my own room (or apartment, as I got older). I’d banish myself to silence.

    You can either have a N.I.C.E. (Not Interested in Connecting Emotionally) relationship… where you hide what is true out of fear. Or you can have an alive, real relationship with intimacy, compassion and understanding.

  • S for Sorry (saikounikkou.wordpress.com)
    I’m sorry for being too selfish / sorry for always blaming / and forgot where I stand and where you stay
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Wired to Connect?

Wired to Connect?

Once born we have to make a connection with the world and have to learn to associate with it and to react in the right way with those around us.

 

Step by step we have to reach out but also take hands which are offered to us. We do have to notice those who would like to help us to advance in the community where we are living in.

 

Having the three neural networks within our brain that promote our social connection we have to learn how to properly use them.
The one that gives us the ability to feel social pain and pleasure is often one we would like to ignore or not foster, but that is just the one we should give much more attention to. When we do grow up we should train our part of the brain which allows us to read others’ emotions and predict their behaviour.
Newt we do have the elements in us which can help us to absorb cultural beliefs and values, thereby linking us to our social groups.

 

Each network involves brain structures and neural pathways that have been mapped using fMRI technology and studied via psychological experiments, some of which make for fascinating and provocative reading.

 

We should be thankful to the Divine Creator He has provided us with a magnificent tool that can brings us further in life and make us able to connect in different ways.

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  • Brain circuits multitask to detect, discriminate the outside world (eurekalert.org)
    A new study found that neural circuits in the brain rapidly multitask between detecting and discriminating sensory input, such as headlights in the distance. That’s different from how electronic circuits work, where one circuit performs a very specific task. The brain, the study found, is wired in way that allows a single pathway to perform multiple tasks.

    “We showed that circuits in the brain change or adapt from situations when you need to detect something versus when you need to discriminate fine details,” said Garrett Stanley, an associate professor in the Wallace H. Coulter Department of Biomedical Engineering at Georgia Tech and Emory University, whose lab performed the research. “One of the things the brain is good at is doing multiple things. Engineers have trouble with that.”

    The research findings were published online in the journal NEURON on March 5. The research was funded by the National Institutes of Health (NIH) and the National Science Foundation (NSF).

    The distance at which a person can discern two headlights from a single light is controlled by the acuity of the body’s sensory pathway. For decades neuroscientists have assumed that the level of one’s acuity is controlled by the distance between areas in the brain that are triggered by the sensory input. If these two areas of the brain closely overlap, then two sensory inputs — two headlights in the distance — will appear as one, the thinking went. The new study, for the first time, used animal models and optical imaging to directly assess how acuity is controlled in the brain, and how acuity can adapt to the task at hand. One neuronal circuit can do different things and do them in a robust way, the study found.
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    Learning more about how circuits in the brain multitask could lead to a better understanding of disease, therapeutic applications or to potentially improving how the brain functions. Stanley said that down the road engineers might be able to experimentally manipulate brain circuits to perform a desired task.

    “Can we make individuals better at doing something? Can we have them detect things more rapidly or discriminate between things with better acuity?” Stanley said. “Using modern techniques, we believe that we can actually influence the circuit and have it selectively grab one kind of information from the outside world versus another.”

     

  • Train Your Brain To Let Go Of Habits – 10 Methods For Creating New Neural Pathways (asheepnomore.net)
    You may remember the punch line “The light bulb has to want to change.”  You have to have a high intention to change as well. If there is this high intention, then creating new pathways in your brain is bound to happen.
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    To create a new neural pathway, you take the focus off the old habit, and then that old habit eventually falls away. Don’t pay attention to the donuts and cakes. Take your awareness and focus it on good, wholesome, healthy delicious foods.
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    Know you have the Force within you, and therefore you have great power. Meditation creates new pathways and brain changes. Actual studies have been done on the brains of monks to show meditation’s effect on neural circuits of the brain.

  • 5 Ways to Improve Your Brain (humansarefree.com)
    Neurogenesis has been found to occur in two brain regions; the subventricular zone and the hippocampus.

    The latter part of the brain plays a key role in learning and memory, and alterations have been linked to a variety of cognitive pathologies such as anxiety, depression, addiction and neurodegenerative diseases such as Parkinson’s. A reduction in hippocampus volume has been observed in patients with depression and other cognitive disorders.

    To reverse this process we need to harness neurogenesis. In this article I will cover a wide array of things we can do (for example: meditation, Ibogaine, turmeric) and stuff we can eat to boost our brains.

  • Why Are We So Wired To Connect? (illuminations2012.wordpress.com)
    Our brains are continuously working, and in order to better respond to our environment. “This is what our brains were wired for: reaching out to and interacting with others,” writes Lieberman.
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    Why Are We So Wired to Connect?

    Schools need to encourage better social climates where students feel like they belong, writes Lieberman, since a sense of belonging is closely tied to a higher GPA. Teacher should also plan lessons that engage students’ mind-reading neural networks in order to help them learn material better, especially in the social sciences and humanities, but even in math and science courses. Assigning students to learn material in order to help another—i.e., perhaps to tutor a younger student in math—would improve academic learning too, he argues.

    But perhaps most importantly, we need to understand how vital our social connections are to our happiness and health. Lieberman points to research that shows having social connection is as important to health outcomes as not smoking. Our experience of pain is lessened by the presence of those we love and our sense of worth is connected to our social standing more than to our monetary wealth. He cautions against working so hard or remaining so isolated that we eschew social ties.

  • “Clarifying” Neural Circuitry: A New Technique to Image the Brain (lions-talk-science.org)
    Both CLARITY and optogenetics are useful brain mapping tools that may lead us towards the creation of a map of all of the connections in the human brain, allowing us to finally gain a structural understanding of the many neurological disorders out there.
  • Wiring Your Brain (integral-living.com)
    You are not your brain. The stories you tell yourself and the way you respond is in your control. You are not just and actor reciting someone else’s lines. You can rewrite the script.

    Start by focusing each morning on who you want to be and how you want to show up. Breathe. Dress for the occasion. Walk, eat, interact, think, as the best you can be, instead of an unconscious jumble of reflexes and conditioned responses. Be in charge. Believe. Shift will happen. The connections that no longer fire together will rewire and new circuits will start to form. Celebrate when it works. Recalibrate when you regress.

  • Claim: “Male and female brains wired differently” (trueorfalse.me)
    Between 2-3 December 2013, reports emerged through the Guardian newspaper, followed swiftly by the Independent, that a new scientific study had demonstrated for the first time that “the brains of men and women [are] wired differently.” The media stories were based on a study by the University of Pennsylvania (UPenn) which appeared to find that many of the connections in a typical male brain run between the front and back regions, and are mostly confined to individual hemispheres. In contrast (on average), the connections in women’s brains were more likely to run from side to side between the left and right hemispheres. The only region where men had more “between-hemispheric” neural connectivity was the cerebellum, which plays a vital role in motor control.
  • How one (well financed) startup is attempting to decode the language of the brain (news.nationalpost.com)
    There are many ways to map the brain and many kinds of brains to map. Although the ultimate goal of most neuroscience is understanding how human brains work, many kinds of research can’t be done on human beings, and the brains of mice and even flies share common processes with human brains.

    The work of Reid, and scientists at Allen and elsewhere who share his approach, is part of a surge of activity in brain research as scientists try to build the tools and knowledge to explain — as well as can ever be explained – how brains and minds work. Besides the Obama administration’s $100-million Brain Initiative and the European Union’s $1 billion, decade-long Human Brain Project, there are numerous private and public research efforts in the United States and abroad, some focusing on the human brain, others like Reid’s focusing on nonhumans.

    While the Human Connectome Project, which is spread among several institutions, aims for an overall picture of the associations among parts of the human brain, other scientific teams have set their sights on drilling to deeper levels. For instance, the Connectome Project at Harvard is pursuing a structural map of the mouse brain at a level of magnification that shows packets of neurochemicals at the tips of brain cells.

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Did you know that our brains are designed to connect socially?

Wired to Connect? brain neurons Image source: douban.com

Brain researchers are discovering how much our brains have evolved to thrive on social connections. For those of you who had close loving relationships growing up, this might seem obvious. For others who grew up without close and loving relationships, this is foreign territory. For most of my life, I have struggled with loneliness and depression. Even though I know intellectually that I need people, sometimes the hardest thing in the world is to reach out when I’m feeling lonely or depressed.

The article didn’t address this, but I suspect, for those of us who didn’t have strong social connections growing up, we have fewer connections in our brains, resulting in a lower foundation for emotional health and happiness. Positive psychology calls this our set point. Science seems to demonstrate that we can change and…

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To Live Gratitude

Gratitude is also showing that you try to make the best out of life, even when you may encounter lots of difficulties.

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We should look forward and count the bad things which happen to us as a school of learning. A learning process by which we should grow. We also should keep our hearts open to reconnect which we have possibly forgotten one moment in our life. Because we are often so busy with the problems of life, we might forget to see the better things in life and the many blessings around us. For those we should be thankful, but also for the many opportunities we get to learn from and to give as more power to continue in what we do believe and in what we would love to stand for.

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All those who have the goal laid in front of us by Jeshua, Christ Jesus the Messiah, should join hands and strengthen each other, because, we know more times of trouble shall come over this world. When we can feel united we shall be able to endure them more easily. Therefore let us spread the Good News and the love of Christ and share hands with those who are willing to go on the same path to enter the small gate to the Kingdom of God.

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Additional reading:

  1. If your difficulties are longstanding, try kneeling
  2. Frank risks taking
  3. Where is the edge
  4. Your struggles develop your strengths
  5. Even in tough times remembering the blessings
  6. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  7. Life in gratitude opens glory of God
  8. Looking forward to God’s faithfulness
  9. By counting our blessings we not only feel good, but we multiply our good
  10. 20 Best Gratitude Quotes
  11. Thanksgiving wisdom: Why gratitude is good for your health
  12. Wednesday Talk: Favorite Scripture: Rejoice always
  13. Remember there’s a light in the next day
  14. The soul has no rainbow if the eyes have no tears
  15. Preaching to an unbelieving world
  16. Making church
  17. A Living Faith #4 Effort
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  • Gratitude (dorthahisedevelops.wordpress.com)
    I count you as one of my connections via my blog as a blessing and I am grateful that you continue to follow me here.
  • Gratitude (adesaanusegun.wordpress.com)
    Maybe you’re thinking to yourself that there’s particularly nothing to be thankful for; you’re thinking, “After all, I’m sick” “I’m unhappy”; “I have bills to pay.” Well, if you’re a Christian, your life ought to be radiant and full of thanksgiving.
    Ephesians 5:20 says, “Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Your prayers must be filled with gratitude, irrespective of what you feel or what you’re going through. Do not only acknowledge what you can see, rather acknowledge what God has done, because that is what keeps you living a life of gratitude.
  • Some thoughts to help deepen our gratitude. (adw.org)
    True gratitude is a grace, or gift from God which proceeds from a humble and transformed heart. In such a case we do not render thanks merely because it is polite or expected, or because God commands it, but because it naturally flows from a profound experience of gratitude. The “command” of Scripture to give thanks is not a moralism, but a truth and description of a transformed heart.
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    We are contingent beings who depend on God for our very existence. He holds together every fiber of our being: every cell, every part of a cell, every molecule, every part of a molecule, every atom, every part of an atom. God facilitates every function of our body: every beat of our heart, every organ and movement of our body. God sustains every intricate detail of this world in which we live: the perfectly designed orbit of this planet so that we do not cook or freeze, the magnetic shield around the planet that protects us from harmful aspects of solar radiation, every intricate visible and hidden process of this earth, solar system, galaxy and universe. All of this, and us, are contingent and thus sustained by God and provided for by Him. The depth, height, length and width of what God does is simply astonishing. And he does it all free of charge. As we ponder such goodness and providence we are helped to be more grateful. All is gift.
  • More Than a Little Bit of Gratitude (myanswertohiscall.wordpress.com)
    I praise God every day that I crossed paths with so many people willing to support my act of faith and give me what I now know to be a summer that changed everything. It’s not like I’m implying that by not sending cards they think that I am ungrateful, I just feel like the gesture shows how deeply moved I am by their generosity. It’s taking the time to go the extra mile and say very specifically that I appreciate their sacrifice for the sake of my summertime adventuring.
  • Giving Thanks (elderfieldsblog.wordpress.com)
    In Alma 34:48, it says, “That ye contend no more against the Holy Ghost, but that ye receive it, and take upon you the name of Christ; that ye humble yourselves even to the dust, and worship God, in whatsoever place ye may be in, in spirit and in truth; and that ye live in thanksgiving daily, for the many mercies and blessings which he doth bestow upon you.”  This would suggest that gratitude makes us humble and brings us closer to the Spirit.  After all, it takes humility to admit that all the good things which we have are blessings from the Lord.
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    If you feel depressed, discouraged, or like the challenges of life are too much, take a moment to be grateful for the things you have, then “[f]orget yourself and go to work.”
  • You can’t find happiness (ridethewavesblog.wordpress.com)
    If you just stopped your stories and had a good look around your present moment you would see that there is nothing to fear, there is nothing trying to get you or take advantage of you or that there is nothing that is trying to hurt you . . . and you may see that your want to “find” happiness doesn’t exist because happiness is a choice.  It is only a way of looking at things and acting with gratitude in every single moment.
  • gratitude 18february14 answered prayers (llpeltier.wordpress.com)
    i have begun to make different choices about the way i pray. first, i get raw and real with my God. The One and Only i can ultimately trust to not repeat my inner most thoughts. i have also started to pray with the thankful spirit. along the lines of the way i give gratitude every day in my journal and here. rather than praying “God, i hope you will ..” i now pray “God, thank you for ..”
  • The Magic of Thanksgiving: A Harvest from the Seeds of Gratitude. ~ Syma Kharal (elephantjournal.com)
    For a while, I did not actually embody the feeling of gratitude even as I wrote the things I was thankful for. But knowing that I had to write things I was grateful for forced my doom-and-gloom primed mind to notice the blessings it otherwise would have missed or dismissed.

    Then, one day, the black hole I felt in my chest started feeling less heavy. As I continued to give thanks for the ever expanding lightness, weight of depression lifted completely and every part of my life transformed.

    During that dark night of the soul, gratitude became a sprit-saving ray of light. I learned, as inspirational author Louise Hay writes, that “gratitude brings more to be grateful about. It increases your abundant life. Lack of gratitude or complaining brings little to rejoice about.”

    I had allowed myself to become stuck in self-pity, and in doing so, kept attracting experiences that reinforced my pessimistic inner monologue.

  • 28 Days of Gratitude (debbiepresnell.wordpress.com)
    I put up a bulletin board in the hallway outside my classroom entitled, 14 days of Gratitude, the number of weekdays between Halloween and Thanksgiving. The instructions were simply stated beside the board:Each day write one thing you are grateful for.

    The experience was amazing.

    Students were late to class because they were still writing….

  • Six Habits of Highly Grateful People (blogs.berkeley.edu)
    I usually take for granted that I have legs to walk on, eyes to see with, arms I can use to hug my son. I forget my son! Well, I don’t actually forget about him, at least as a physical presence; I generally remember to pick him up from school and feed him dinner. But as I face the quotidian slings and arrows of parenthood, I forget all the time how much he’s changed my life for the better.

    Gratitude (and its sibling, appreciation) is the mental tool we use to remind ourselves of the good stuff. It’s a lens that helps us to see the things that don’t make it onto our lists of problems to be solved. It’s a spotlight that we shine on the people who give us the good things in life. It’s a bright red paintbrush we apply to otherwise-invisible blessings, like clean streets or health or enough food to eat.

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To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble,

but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.– Johannes A. Gaertner

I just love when God/Spirit/Universe writes my posts for me by delivering the quote of the day!  The synchronicity is not lost on me; instead I am grateful for it.  So in true form, this morning’s email produced the above quote from a book called Contagious Optimism.  It’s a compilation of many stories from different authors and everyday people who share their optimism with you.  A friend of mine is one of the contributors to this wonderful book which I highly recommend.  Thanks JAngel for all that you do for me!

I try to live in gratitude ~ remembering to be thankful, saying thank you to the person who waits an extra moment to hold the door open for me and to, in turn…

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Grow strong in weakness

On Pursuing The Passion the author got to see that life is tricky.

In life people may encounter so many loose ends, so many torn relationships that need not be knotted, but resown. {Warning: This Blog Struggles To Form Sense.} We all would like to live in nice places under good conditions, not growing weak, but becoming strong and being noticed.

The writer thinks

Life  itself doesn’t honour us with much in the way of praise for each small accomplishment. Not a lot of checked off boxes.
We usually have to go out of our way to check off those boxes. We usually have to put life on hold to cross off those boxes.

So why so obsessed sweetheart? Why so un-content? {Type/aside}

When we look around us we can find people who had bad luck in their life. There may be many where tragedy struck down and could not have their degree completed. Other may have earned some good title, but suddenly, by accident, they lost everything and have to start live all over again.

It is lovely when such bad luck comes over them that they could consider those previous years of study and work not as a waste because through it all they could be enjoying, embracing, and growing.

No day is a waste. That’s the ultimate goal. But maybe its not so much what you accomplish each day that determines whether or not time has been ‘wasted’, but rather how much you have enjoyed. Working your dream career or as an IHop hostess does it really matter?

This could be a good lesson for us. Perhaps it is not so much what we accomplish each day, what is going to determine whether we succeeded, used our time of being here well, or just wasted our time. Though many of us may waste a lot of time on our way in life, we should be continually looking, but looking for what?

We should spend time in looking for a good way to install ourselves in this world full of friction. We should try to make a “ruwe bolster” or “blanke pit”,a good strong shell. Each person in this world has to make his rough diamond into a shiny strong stone, and not being a soft husk.

Every day we do have to work at our selves. Many Christians who call themselves reborn do think that once they have found Christ, call themselves ‘reborn‘, got baptised, their work will be finished and they will be saved for ever. To my regret, I do have to disappoint them. I do have to tell them they are not yet halfway. They are only at the beginning of a new way, but luckily they have found already the best way to follow. But they should know that there are many deviations on that road as well, and they still might take the wrong turn.

The trick of life does want to lure us and wants to lead us up the garden path. We shall feel the strong winds of the trucks, the heavy lorries we pass, the many persons who want to fool us, deluding us with lovely words and promises. Every day again we shall have to make choices. Over and over again we shall have to make new decisions. It will not end until we do find an end to our life, and than everything shall be finished for us, while the others shall continue their own way.

In case we are not careful and would continuously be worried about what we should do or continue to look back “what we have done” we perhaps will not see the light behind the smog. We shall be so busy “making something of our life” that we may forget living that life. Lots of people do think they might buy time and they might buy their way to a prosperous life.

Time isn’t money. Whatever you don’t accomplish today, you can try again tomorrow, but please just remember to live.

Live today, live tomorrow, see what good happens to you and do not concentrate on the bad things that happened to you. Looking back onto what went wrong shall only make you blind, while you have the fog-lights shining in front of you. Step into the footlights, shine and be happy. Share that happiness while you count your blessings. Do not forget that you are here in this world to be yourself and to develop yourself. Make use of it and let others share you. Be the seed for yourself but also the fertiliser for others.

Know your weaknesses and use them to grow strong.

Don't be afraid to fall

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  2. Monotony of life
  3. Live …
  4. The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands
  5. A person is limited only by the thoughts that he chooses
  6. Only I can change my life
  7. If you want to go far in life
  8. Remember that who you’re being is just as important as what you’re doing
  9. Unconditional love
  10. Change
  11. It is a free will choice
  12. Your life the sum total of all your choices
  13. Thirst for happiness and meaning
  14. Suffering
  15. Suffering-through the apparent silence of God
  16. Faith and trial
  17. Suffering produces perseverance
  18. Be happy that the thorn bush has roses
  19. Just an Ordinary Day
  20. The work I do, let it be done good
  21. Frank risks taking
  22. Self-preservation is the highest law of nature
  23. Count your blessings
  24. Leaving behind the lives we have touched.
  25. Words in the world
  26. Power in the life of certain
  27. The truth is very plain to see and God can be clearly seen
  28. Choose you this day whom ye will serve
  29. Walking in love by faith not by sight
  30. No time for immorality
  31. Be Honest
  32. Honesty beginning of holiness
  33. Who are the honest ones?
  34. If you have integrity
  35. Be strong and take courage
  36. Peace Takes You
  37. Created to live in relation with God
  38. Humility and the Fear of the Lord
  39. Life in gratitude opens glory of God
  40. A Living Faith #5 Perseverance
  41. A Living Faith #6 Sacrifice
  42. A Living Faith #8 Change
  43. A Living Faith #10: Our manner of Life #2
  44. Articles about spiritual-growth on Stepping Toes
  45. Articles by Marcus Ampe concerning Life
  46. Articles About Life
  47. Articles about the Way of life
  48. The Way to life
  49. Spiritual-growth articles on Marcus’s Space
  50. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  51. Memories are important
  52. End of the Bottom Line
  53. Give your worries to God
  54. God should be your hope
  55. Ask Grace to go forward
  56. God wants to be gracious to you
  57. Cosmos creator and human destiny
  58. The redemption of man by Christ Jesus
  59. Believing in God the rewarder
  60. Being religious has benefits even in this life

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  1. Giving up on depression.
  2. the detrimental cycle I call life….
  3. Hard Lessons

Peace Love WriteMake something out of life.
Give peace a chance.
Live and let live
enjoying life.

Grow strong in weakness
and help others to become strong.

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  • Are you weak and in need of God’s strength today? (cappucinosandchaos.wordpress.com)
    the good news is that God is looking for weak people.
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    We live in a performance oriented success driven society, today our culture is self-focussed (perhaps more so than in previous generations), individualistic and independent.In our culture many of us spend the first 20+ years of our life learning how to be independent and rely on ourselves. In this age of “Do It Yourself,” we seem to value the ‘strong ones’ – those people who have the natural stamina and willpower to set their minds to any goal and see it through to accomplishment. We are surrounded by messages, that you can achieve anything you set your mind to. The “Strengths Movement” has spread its own gospel: you only have to determine your areas of strength to be successful in life. And in this day of Facebook and Twitter we are bombarded with self-help news feeds stating ‘you can do it’ Don’t let anyone stop you. Live strong. And from facebook and twitter it looks like everyone has it all together, often because people ‘facebook’ their perfect life, and their online life is the edited, polished version. You see the lovely pictures of someone finishing a marathon, or someone’s holiday or family but you don’t see the stress and the mess and the toddler having a meltdown which is the reality of life. And so we live in this success oriented society.
  • We Are Weak But He is Strong (walkonwaterministries.wordpress.com)
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  • 14 years old Charisma has a beautiful much meaning name which should not bring Bad Luck (charismaivyeverettwhite.wordpress.com) and should bring her a swing-feeling of conquering the world by feeling good, knowing that bad things can happen and can be overcome, so that we can get stronger and can survive through.
  • The Power of a Grateful Heart – Weakness Gratitude (ckisler.wordpress.com) considers that even when we may do a lot of workouts we still can be very weak in our well formed body.
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    Strength, being strong, being able to “leap tall buildings with a single bound”, having others comment on how strong a person one is, along with beauty, power, riches, etc., we cultivate the importance of being strong.
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    No amount of strength training, aerobics, Zumba–those three classes about killed me, no matter how many books I read, concerts I attend, memory exercises I complete, no extended Bible study or prayer time will turn back the clock or make me Strong!
  • ~Strength in my Weakness~ (peacefulpromises.wordpress.com)
    I don’t have to give thanks for troubles, but I do need to learn from them.  Every challenge we face is an opportunity for growth.  When I choose to wallow in self-pity, I’m wasting the chance to strengthen my faith, increase my endurance and deepen my reliance on God.
  • Where You Are Weak, He Is Strong (lynvgarcia.wordpress.com)
    The only way to overcome your weakness is to rely on God’s strength. To do that, you have to stop focusing on your weaknesses. You cannot look at everything you are not. You must look at everything God is. Focus on His strength and all He is willing to do for you.
  • Perfect In Weakness (hackingagag.com)
    the sting of conviction. I easily fall into the trap of relying on my own strength and past experience to see me through the next set of trials. A “been there, done that” attitude is often my biggest hindrance. Thankfully, God loves us too much to leave us to ourselves.
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    A primary qualification for serving God with any amount of success, and for doing God’s work well and triumphantly, is a sense of our own weakness. When God’s warrior marches out to battle, strong in his own might, when he boasts, “I know that I will overcome-my own ability and my self-confidence will be enough for victory,” defeat is staring him in the face.God will not enable the man who marches in his own strength. He who reckons on victory by such means has reckoned wrongly, for “not by might, nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the LORD of hosts.”
  • Weighing in on weakness (catchjohnfischer.wordpress.com)
    The strength is imbedded in the weakness. You don’t go from one to the other (otherwise there would be strong Christians over there and weak ones over here – just what we don’t need – a spiritual hierarchy), you experience them both at the same time. That is why Paul says he delights in his weakness, because when he is weak, then he is strong. That’s not a pathway from one to the other. That is the discovery of one In the other.
  • With a Heart so Strong and a Wound so Soft (librettolove.wordpress.com)
    I thought that I was going to make a lot of money in my life, but I don’t believe that much any more.  I think I am going to be poor and I am equating that to the reason I hand myself for whenever I don’t get to do something I want in my life – I am worth less than everyone else.  I don’t quite understand why I think this.  I don’t understand why I still think this even though I know it’s untrue.  I want to run away and never hear anyone speak ever again.  I feel like sometimes, I could die and it would be a relief.  All I want is comfort and I can’t quite create a metaphorical blanket large enough to ever feel warm.  I thought that I was going to be successful.  I’ve listened to so many interviews and talked to so many people about how they got to be where they are today, and everyone says that they never expected to have the success that they did.
  • Three Ways to Manage Your Weaknesses (cperky.wordpress.com)
    Despite what you may be tempted to say in job interviews, you have weaknesses. In real life, it’s important to acknowledge the things you aren’t good at.Once you’ve taken that hard look in the mirror, here are three things you can do about what you see: