Spreading good cheer contagious

Could spreading good cheer, especially in uncertain times, be contagious? According to Brett Westcott, a junior from Plainfield, Ill. it is. His comrade Cameron Brown, a junior from Toledo, Ohio, does also believe it can help people to get in a better mood. This Summer together they kicked off their RV road trip on Monday (July 20) in the Big Easy tour ending August 7 in Rochester, N.Y..

It is a well know fact that people can have strong effects — both positive and negative — on one another’s mental health. Today a lot of negativism is infecting the world. It goes around as a wild virus in this crisis world. Nothing seems to be sure any more, and lots of people have lost trust in their government and even in their environment, not sure any more of the bond of friends. Ordered things have shown the tendency to become disordered sooner or later, however natural. The same applies to human behaviour, however genetic. A new study by a University of British Columbia researcher finds that some people are genetically predisposed to see the world darkly.

The study, published in Psychological Science, finds that a previously known gene variant can cause individuals to perceive emotional events–especially negative ones — more vividly than others.

“The ability to regulate emotions is essential to both mental and physical well-being. Conversely, difficulties with emotion regulation have been postulated as a core mechanism underlying mood and anxiety disorders.”

It is interesting to see that the human mind which is considered to be the most ordered and conscious system in the world is not left untouched by the negative effects of the environment. Negativity is all-pervasive, it seems. today it is possible to identify and distinguish between the different emotions which go through our brains. Negative emotions helps us address the problem that led to those emotions in the first place. But while some people can tell the difference between feeling angry and guilty, others may not be able to separate the two and may become depressed, feeling they can not cope with it any more.

People around us can contribute al lot to our mood; They can make us happy, sad or even make us depressed. Those who know the blessings of the world would do better to let others also feel the goodness of this world. They’ll better share their happiness and good mood.  They better take care that the right virus contaminates their environment they’re living in. Jesus asked his follower to spread the Good News. But before people can spread that good news they themselves should feel good. They themselves should be radiant, full of sunshine. they should not be so much concerned about themselves, but should be willing to live more for the others around them. Noticing them and encouraging them. by giving compliments to others they can contribute the first step to more happiness.

When Westcott started giving compliments on the Purdue campus almost a year ago he never expected it to be so well received all over the world. Though lot of the compliments they gave where on material things that cost money. It looked a missed change to give compliments on the better and more important things in life, like having a smile on the face, feeling bright. An appropriate remark by environmentmatters was:

“I wonder how these compliments or lack of compliments affect people who can’t afford nice hoodies, shoes, bookbags, etc.?”

Dishwalla Candle does find:

“the idea maybe great, but i guess randomly complimenting on any object they could see on a person may not be a good one..what if that person hates that object? they’ll be so offended that it’ll turn to be a mockery or an insult rather than a compliment.”

The trip was undertaken to allow the two guys to share the same good feelings with people around the country that they had exchanged at Purdue.

Westcott and/or Brown stood at the heart of Purdue’s campus for two hours every Wednesday afternoon last school year giving out free compliments to thousands of passersby. Initial suspicion of their motives quickly melted in face of their enthusiasm and earnestness. The Compliment Guys’ ability to make people smile prompted Kodak to sponsor the national tour.

“There is absolutely nothing else I prefer doing than making people smile,” Brown said. “It’s amazingly easy to do if you take the very short amount of time to notice what is special about those around you.”

People may forget that it does not take big, grand gestures to make a positive impact on someone else’s day. Being around, having some smile on the face, saying “Hello”, giving a few simple courtesies, they all can contribute to making a day better for the person we pass. In ourselves we do have the power to make the difference and for ourselves and for the others. The greeting on the streets may have already gone a long time, but why should we not take up such an attitude from the old days when the villages or towns where smaller? It is true in a city we could not say to every person we pas “Good morning”, but for sure there are enough people to whom we could say “Hello”, like the porter, the man in the tube or train station, the bus driver. to others we can show them we are feeling happy, so that out smile on our face can transform their face as well. In case more people would not mind to make an effort to go out there and prove that chivalry is not dead, the world could become a nicer place to live. Being gallant and respectful, should not be things out of date. They  are traits that will never go out of date or out of style.

Be that person who will make life easier for the people around you.

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Read more about it: Purdue Compliment Guys hit the road for national tour

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Give joy to the world, keep smiling, keep giving love and Spread the Good News of the coming Kingdom of God.

Be a messenger of happiness, love and peace.

Peace Love WriteYou too may be a Blogger for peace
and join a movement willing to bring others that brotherly love and peace.

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Of interest:

  1. Articles on Social environment
  2. Bringing Good News into the world
  3. Do the appropriate for a friend
  • Contagious Happiness (rascoecam.wordpress.com)
    Happiness is contagious. Your smiles promote others to smile. The joy you emit is transmittable to those around you. Catchy is positive encouragement and optimism.
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    Where’s the Love?
    The love is inside of you, the love for doing what it is you do, the love for the ability to do it. Acclaim, applause and admiration may come in gallons and then drips but it doesn’t matter much if you continue to do it for the right reasons… the love.
  • Is Your Message Contagious? (veelhoedenconsulting.wordpress.com)
    Whether  you’re  trying  to  get  people  to  buy  something you provide, persuade  them  to  do  something,  or  simply  inform  your  audience  about something, one thing is certain—you want it to build momentum and carry itself forward without you having to push it non-stop.
  • The contagious smile bursts through Sizo (chefsvsangels.wordpress.com)
    Late last night Alex was released on bail . To see that beautiful contagious smile burst through the doors of Sizo was emotional to say the least.
    She was obviously overwhelmed with happiness but poised, full of strength and devoted to save the Arctic for future generations. I too am struggling to contain the joy I feel today knowing that at this very moment my lovely, brave cousin is in a hotel room,sleeping with a little relief and comfort having spoken to her family.
  • 19 Simple Things Everyone Can Do To Make Life Easier For Each Other (lifehack.org)
    You don’t have to create big, grand gestures to make a positive impact on someone else’s day. A few simple courtesies can spell the difference between an awful day and an awesome one. Unfortunately, there are days where it seems that common courtesies are not so common anymore.
  • Fat Talk Free Compliments (tiffanydawn.wordpress.com)
    Sometimes I have to ask myself — are outward appearances the only thing I compliment people on? Because they shouldn’t be.
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    Sometimes in our culture we compliment people based on weight. For example, “You are so skinny, that outfit looks great on you!” Well doesn’t that just reinforce our cultural idea that skinny is better?
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    Or are we truly encouraging and inspiring people to be a person who makes a difference in the world — not just a person who looks a certain way.
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  • Watch out! It’s contagious! (bumpbabyproducts.wordpress.com)
    It seems entrepreneurialism is contagious! Whilst it is undoubtedly nerve-wracking, terrifying and demanding on your time, energy and money, it seems that an increasing number of my friends and acquaintances are also making that leap of faith.
  • Gloomy Thinking Can Be Contagious (namisouthbay.com)
    One of the things he was interested in was how different students respond to adversity.
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    “These thinking styles were contagious,” he says. “If you came to college and your roommate had a very negative thinking style, your own thinking style became more negative.”
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    The Reason Some People Always Focus On The Negative
    In the study in Clinical Psychological Science, researchers looked at 103 pairs of college-freshmen roommates’ “cognitive vulnerability,” which is the tendency to think that negative events are a reflection of a person’s own deficiency or that they will lead to more negative events. Those with high cognitive vulnerability are at an increased risk of depression, studies have found.
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    “This is the first study to find that this genetic variation can significantly affect how people see and experience the world,” says Prof. Rebecca Todd of UBC’s Dept. of Psychology. “The findings suggest people experience emotional aspects of the world partly through gene-coloured glasses — and that biological variations at the genetic level can play a significant role in individual differences in perception.”
  • Alliance Missions and The Contagious Chain of Missionary Zeal (christeien.com)
    Christian and Missionary Alliance Missions seeks to spread the message and power of Jesus throughout the world where many others won’t go. Our passion is not just knowing and following Jesus, but helping others know and follow Him. This begins with those God has placed in our spheres of influence and flows to those who are searching desperately for meaning, significance, security, and love in other cultures.
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    Even just one life burning brightly for the gospel can ignite the hearts of hundreds of others for generations to come.What a powerful thing it is to contemplate that reality in the history of missionary work! Consider, for example, the following chain of gospel influence: John Elliott; David Brainerd; Jonathan Edwards; William Carey; Charles Simeon; Henry Martyn; Anthony Norris Groves; George Müller; James Hudson Taylor; C. T. Studd; “The Cambridge Seven”; Student Volunteer Movement for Foreign Missions; D. L. Moody; Arthur T. Pierson; Amy Carmichael; Eric Liddell; Elizabeth and Jim Elliot

Preparedness to change

When we are looking for the reasons why we are here and what we have to do why, we should try to get an open mind and to look at all sorts of things, wondering what others think and why.

Today many of us are not pleased with what is going on in the world and would look to see some change. But before we can see some change we ourselves do have to be willing to change as well.

English: Matthieu Ricard in Tibet Français : M...

Matthieu Ricard in Tibet (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Matthieu Ricard, scientist turned Buddhist monk and a best selling author, translator, and photographer, who has lived and studied in the Himalayas for more than 35 years. says:

if we want to change, obviously we need to need to first act on the emotions, and this will help change our moods, which will eventually stabilize as a modified temperament. In other words, we must start by working with the instantaneous events that take place in our minds. As we say, if we take care of the minutes, the hours will take care of themselves.

To be able to act on the emotions first of all we do need to recognise these emotions and secondly should make ourselves able to distance from them to examine them properly. Mostly we are inner-bound with our own actions and reactions, guided by our way of thinking and our traditions. How we are brought up as a child is going to be the basic foundation for our analysing and feeling.

So one of the key points has to do with the way the chaining of thoughts occurs, the way one thought leads to another.

That what happened in the past, the things we encountered in previous days and years, the things we heard from our parents and beloved ones, will give us ideas of what had happened, what decisions where taken, what the consequences where.

Ricard says:

‘You can look at your experience like a fire that burns. If you are aware of anger you are not angry you are aware. Being aware of anxiety is not being anxious it is being aware.’ By being aware of these emotions you are no longer adding fuel to their fire and they will burn down.

Would it therefore not be bad to look in the past with other eyes? When we have found the Word of God and got into the readings of the Bible, would this not give an other insight? When we then would look back we should have, with our ‘other eyes’ an other viewpoint. It would not be so much a ‘staring back’ but better a ‘‘reviewing back’  and a  ‘retraining back’ .

When we instead of staring are overlooking everything ‘from outside’, with a neuter attitude, we will be able to take distance in person from the facts and the emotions. Sometimes it is better to put away the emotions to come to a better view and better understanding. Our personal feelings often blind us. By taking personal distance we would be able to let its apparent solidity melt away and let personal bounded thought vanish without giving birth to a chain of other personal thoughts.

The point is not to try to block the arising of thoughts – this is not possible anyway – but not to let them invade our mind. We need to do this again and again because we are not used to dealing with thoughts in that way. We are like a sheet of paper that has been rolled for a long time. If we try to flatten it down on the table, it will roll again the moment we lift our hands. This is where the training takes place.

says Matthieu Ricard who thinks we do need to practice Buddhism, but overlooks that in Christianity we should have the same reflection as our Master Teacher Jeshua (Jesus Christ) who looked to this world from the viewpoint of his Father, the Creator God. We also should always wonder “What Would Jesus Do” (WWJD) and “How Would Jesus React” (HWJR). How would Jesus meet with others, talk to sinners, help those in need?

What Ricard says abnout Buddhism is also true for us, who call ourselves Christian:

“We are talking about how to help society. If we aspire to contribute something to our society – to achieve a new vision of things – we need to begin with ourselves. We need to decide to transform ourselves, and that can come only through training, not through fleeting ideas.

To fulfil our life goal we do have the infallible Word of God, which can give us insight and guidance for future days. To benefit from it we only should have to open our eyes and put away our previous predisposed ideas of our own self in this world. All bias we should abandon and liberate our mind by letting the Word of God shape us in all integrity. Merging the ideas of several minds, looking into the Word of God and than using our own emotional Intelligence we can let the Holy Spirit work in us by allowing time for Him to be in us, bringing contemplative practices into our own world, the workplace and therefore into the world. To be able to become transformed by the Bible, we should be willing to take time to concentrate on the Word of God and to let it come into us personally.

Psalm 119:105 "Your Word is a Lamp to my ...

Psalm 119:105 “Your Word is a Lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” (Photo credit: UnlockingTheBible)

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Please read:

  1. Wisdom from Matthieu Ricard > original Wisdom from Matthieu Ricard
  2. and: “Destructive Emotions: A Scientific Dialogue with the Dalai Lama“, Daniel Goleman
  3. A living change
  4. Time for global change
  5. Only I can change my life
  6. We all are changed into the same image from glory to glory
  7. Character transformed by the influence of our fellowships

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English: Emotions Q-sort

Emotions Q-sort (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

  • what is the happiest person in the world saying? (hunt4truth.wordpress.com)
    A friend wants to know if I’m still Christian. Yes, I am. Everything that I’m referring to from science and new age and Buddhist teachers is complimentary with Jesus’s teachings. I posted a couple of the most important Christian practices–in my opinion, 1 John (NIV) and the Our Father prayer are essential in Christian belief.
  • change from within (hunt4truth.wordpress.com)
    Happiness and joy may stimulate compassion and compassion may stimulate happiness and joy. This is ideal. This may then be noticed to be increasing positive energy, empathy, pro-social behavior, and the change within may serve as the kernel of an evolving moral-ethical framework.
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    Starting off into a new day, there is something to learn and something to share — what that is comes to me at the end of my morning meditation — I don’t really even think about it until time comes after I remind myself, “This is my wonderful journey of self discovery. Love envelopes me and the gentle waves of peaceful waters and the light shine from my mind into the world around me.”
  • How to Argue for the Existence of God (omigassplus.wordpress.com)
    Anyone who feels God, can see and feel God inside them. They live inside God. God lives inside them. They see God as an energy that penetrates them and fills them up inside. They feel God as an energy around them and within them. They feel God touch them in their special places. They realize that God is a higher faith, a greater presence. They crave Him. They want to feel his love fill them up inside. Without God, they feel empty, unloved, lonely. Only with God inside them can they feel whole again.