Real marriage

To come to an inner relationship people have to take time. Today not enough time nor thoughts are given to build up such a good relationship. The sanctity of the covenant has lost its value today. The bond between one man and one woman is no important issue any more. Sacrilege or the profanation of anything holy is the favourite matter of these days.

In the Bible we do find the word “helper“, as God provided the partner for the first man (the 1°Adam). How many wives and husbands do consider themselves helpers in good and bad days, like they had their vows when they went in matrimony?

Question is what humankind wants to consider a ‘marriage‘ and what a value they want to give to the vows made when two people want to live with each other and share the same bed.


Additional reading:

  1. Marriage vows and Divine vows
  2. Bible Guidelines for a happy marriage
  3. Father counterpart of the mother
  4. Father and motherhood
  5. Dignified role for the woman
  6. Gender roles and Multitasking parents
  7. Loving and having respect for the woman
  8. What shall I render unto the Lord for all His benefits
  9. Forced marriage and Islam
  10. New Thinky Things
  11. Manifests for believers #2 Changing celibacy requirement


  • Marriage: do you take this total stranger to have and to hold? (
    Who said romance was dead? Jay Hunt, it would seem. Not content with giving us the man with 10-stone testicles and the woman with balls of steel (Benefits Street’s White Dee), Channel 4’s chief creative officer this week announced plans for a new show in which six strangers are married off live on television. Married At First Sight, explained Hunt, would see participants matched up with the help of a crack team of psychologists, psychotherapists, and social anthropologists. It will be a “groundbreaking experiment”, presumably in the same way that Big Brother was a great experiment in how to drag a section of society into the gutter, or Sex Live was an experiment in how to increase viewers by serving up prime-time porn.
  • Man Tries to Marry His Laptop Because It’s His ‘Preferred Sexual Object’ (
    A man ostensibly trying to protest same-sex marriage has filed a lawsuit because he claims he’s being denied the “right” to marry the one whom he loves. The object of his affection being his porn-filled MacBook. Head meet desk.Amateur model and Army veteran Chris Sevier argues that if same-sex couples are allowed to marry, then he should be allowed to wed his computer because it’s his “preferred sexual object” and he prefers sex with his machine more than sex with “real women.” When he tried to file for a marriage license in Utah, it was rejected on the grounds of “sexual orientation.” Apparently “you’re a numbskull” isn’t an official response to this sort of thing.
  • Same-sex marriage: coercion dolled up as civil rights (
    It’s six weeks since Javascript inventor Brendan Eich was hounded out of his job at Mozilla by a virtual mob of intolerant tweeters and campaigners. His crime? Failing to genuflect at the altar of gay marriage, which is now the closest thing our otherwise godless, belief-lite, morally vacuous societies have to a sacred value. For refusing to bow down before this new sainted institution, and for having the temerity to donate money to a campaign group opposed to it, Eich was found guilty by the mob of sacrilege and was hounded out of public life as a modern-day heretic.
  • Marriage in the social media age (
    Marriage has never been easy kids.  Historically, marriage has been hard work.  Adam and Eve even knew it was tough to be married.  Sin has always been a dividing factor in marriages.  The bible tells us stories of deceit, adultery, even murder in marriage so this is obviously not a new trend.  But now, thanks to technology, it seems marriages have a whole new set of hurdles to jump.
  • Marriage Is Changing – Get Over It! (
    Last month Stonewall published a draft gay marriage bill which removes the words “husband and wife” from the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, replacing them with “parties to a marriage”. When asked to explain, Ben Summerskill, the CEO, said: “In some clauses you have to replace the words husband and wife because you cannot have two husbands or two wives.” I doubt many husbands and wives will be happy to have the legal definition of their marriages re-written in such a way.
  • Unlawful Marriages and Illegitimate Children (
    Are you the product of an illegitimate marriage? You could be, especially if your ancestors were married in Adelaide in the month of May, 1842. In her book, Family Life in South Australia Fifty-Three Years Ago, Jane Isabella Watts (1890:139) writes “the glorious uncertainty of the law and the careless, slipshod way in which Acts of Parliament are constructed were seldom, perhaps, more strikingly displayed than in the drawing up of the new Marriage Act.”
  • Why Marriage? (
    I have the privilege of leading family ministries at our church and I am responsible for young married couples and young families in our church. Thinking about that, I asked myself a question that most of us have asked in our adult lives. Why marriage? This question is especially relevant in today’s culture – a culture where the marriage commitment is actually de-valued.
    Our marriages picture God and His character when we live out God’s design of love.
  • The sanctity of marriage and the family (
    Faithful love between husband and wife mirrors the abiding love of God for His people; first developed by the Old Testament prophets, this imagery reached its fulfillment in Christ, Who weds Himself to the human race by becoming man, and invites us all to His eternal wedding feast in heaven.
    Husband and wife, by the covenant of marriage, are no longer… two, but one flesh. By their intimate union of persons and of actions they give mutual help and service to each other, experience the meaning of their unity, and gain an ever deeper understanding of it day by day.This intimate union in the mutual self-giving of two persons, as well as the good of the children, demands full fidelity from both, and an indissoluble unity between them.
  • Matrimony (
    Faithful love between husband and wife mirrors the abiding love of God for His people; first developed by the Old Testament prophets, this imagery reached its fulfillment in Christ, Who weds Himself to the human race by becoming man, and invites us all to His eternal wedding feast in heaven.
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Father counterpart of the mother

Today we can see that our society has distorted the ideas about man, woman, relationships between people, matrimony and how humankind has to behave and take care of next generations.

Woman and Man (Alternately, Husband and Wife)

Woman and Man (Alternately, Husband and Wife) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In the old times ‘Marriage‘ was about a sacred union of one man and one woman for life. In today’s society it is more considered as a union which can be taken on for some time, between two people, who do not necessary have to love each other for always, or have to have the opposite gender. For lots of people it may be an arrangement for economical and practical reasons and should not be necessary be taken before having sex with the other person, nor does it have to mean for them they have to stay committed to that one person.

In Genesis 2nd chapter is written:

18 Then Jehovah God said: “It is not good for the man to continue to be alone. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him.”+ (NWT)

18 And Jehovah* God went on to say: “It is not good for the man to continue by himself. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement* of him.”+ (RefB)

as a complement {Or, “counterpart,” something fitting for him } of him:

(Proverbs 31:11): 11 In her the heart of her owner* has put trust, and there is no gain lacking.+

(1 Corinthians 11:8,9): 8 For man did not come from woman, but woman came from man.+ 9 And what is more, man was not created for the sake of the woman, but woman for the sake of the man.+

(1 Timothy 2:13): 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve.+

(Genesis 2:22): 22 And Jehovah God built the rib that he had taken from the man into a woman, and he brought her to the man.+


The man’s being alone is not good; I will make him a helper to match him. — Gen. 2:18, “Byington.”

In Harmony before Matrimony (1805), James Gill...

In Harmony before Matrimony (1805), James Gillray caricatured a courtship in which the couple sings together from Duets de l’Amour. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Jehovah knows everything there is to know about mankind and marriage. He implanted a sexual need in humans so that they would “be fruitful and become many.” (Genesis 1:28) God understands feelings of loneliness, for prior to creating the first woman, he said the words of today’s text. Jehovah is also fully aware of the joy possible within the bonds of matrimony. (Proverbs 5:15-18) Because of sin and imperfection, no present-day marriage is perfect. Among Jehovah’s servants, however, wedlock can result in true happiness if God’s Word is followed. For instance, consider Paul’s clear counsel on intimate relations in marriage. (1 Corinthians 7:1-5)


7 Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is better for a man not to touch* a woman; but because of the prevalence of sexual immorality,* let each man have his own wife+ and each woman have her own husband.+ Let the husband give to his wife her due, and let the wife also do likewise to her husband.+ The wife does not have authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but his wife does. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for an appointed time, so that you may devote time to prayer and may come together again, in order that Satan may not keep tempting you for your lack of self-control. However, I say this by way of concession, not as a command. But I wish all men were as I am. Nevertheless, each one has his own gift+ from God, one in this way, another in that way. (1 Corinthians 7:1-7)

It is not Scripturally required that marriage mates limit sexual relations to efforts to produce offspring. Such intimacy can rightly fill emotional and physical needs. But perverted practices certainly do not please God. w12 5/15 1:9, 10


Preceding articles:

Gender roles and Multitasking parents

 Father and motherhood

 Dignified role for the woman

 Having children interferes with work

Dutch version /Nederlandstalige versie: Vader tegenhanger van de moeder


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  1. Walking alone?
  2. What loneliness is more lonely than distrust?
  3. Companionship
  4. Creator and Blogger God 5 Things to tell
  5. Book Review: Ann Gauger, Douglas Axe & Casey Luskin, Science & Human Origins. Seattle: Discovery Institute Press, 2012.124pp.
  6. Story of Jesus’ birth begins long before the New Testament
  7. Women, conservative evangelicals and their counter-offensive
  8. Bible Guidelines for a happy marriage
  9. Manifests for believers #2 Changing celibacy requirement
  10. Poverty and conservative role patterns
  11. Being religious has benefits even in this life
  12. I started off with the little things….
  13. Three keys to a happy marriage
  14. In marriage not wounding each other
  15. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love
  16. Love and win
  17. For God loves me
  18. The task given to us to love each other
  19. The Seven Daughters of Eve


  • Is marriage just a social union? (
    In God’s eyes, marriage is much more than a mere social arrangement. It is a sacred union between a man and a woman. The Bible says: “From the beginning of creation ‘[God] made them male and female. On this account a man will leave his father and mother, and the two will be one flesh’ . . . Therefore what God yoked together let no man put apart.” *Mark 10:6-9; Genesis 2:24.

    The words, “what God yoked [or, joined] together,” do not mean that marriages are made in heaven. Rather, by pointing to our Creator as the Originator of the marriage arrangement, the Bible emphasizes the seriousness of this union. Couples who see their marriage in that light treat it as a sacred, permanent bond, thus strengthening their determination to make their marriage a success. They further increase their prospects for success when they turn to the Bible for guidance in fulfilling their respective roles as husband and wife.

  • Real marriage (
    David says that we find favor with God when we find a godly wife. God wants people to be married. But married in the way and by the definition that He has set.This is going to sound really harsh and maybe even mean spirited, but all I am doing is clearing the air about what God says about Marriage and Homosexuality. Homosexuals will not enter into the Kingdom of Heaven. Think that sounds wrong or that I am being judgmental? Nope, this comes straight from God’s Word
  • Ask John Calvin: What is a wife for? (
    There was no place for man being the “spiritual” spouse, and women being the “practical” one, created to fulfill a man’s sexual needs, produce children, and manage the home. Though this was a common philosophy of the day andcontains a bit of truth, the Scriptures—and Calvin—so obviously disagreed. A wife is the “inseparable associate of his life,” which must mean she is intelligent, companionable, talented, and fully able to comealongside or “across from” her husband to help him with his mission in life.Part of this mission may be to cuddle in bed, carry his children, cook his meals, and teach his sons and daughters how to spell. But that should not at all detract from the understanding that her mission is to inseparably associate herself with every aspect of his life in which she can prove herself helpful, be it business accounting, back massages, writing letters and making phone calls, editing books, research and writing, understanding and being able to discuss the gospel, buying land, giving to charity, making decisions he would have made when he is absent, and in every way proving herself a help. She should truly be a crown that does not diminish the glory of God in her husband, but causes it to show the brighter. Those are my thoughts, but read Calvin. His opinion is what you really want to hear. It’s a long quote, but hopefully my (added) paragraph breaks will help you to process it! Here it is:
  • Cohabitating Seniors and the Meaning of Marriage (
    An increasing number of older men and women are moving in together.  But,it appears to me that their rationale is fear-based.  Perhaps their spouse has died.  They don’t wantto be alone.  Financially, it seems practical not to marry and, instead, live together.  Perhaps it seems less complicated to keep their business affairs separate for the sake of their children and grandchildren.  Perhaps insurance coverage ora life-savings will be better protected if theyjustcohabitate.  After all, it isn’t so much about sex as it is companionship and being a couple in a “couple’s world.”So, what isacohabitating senior, especiallyacohabitating Christian senior, saying about marriage?Is marriage all about the joys ofpro-creational sex?  Or is it more?Marriage, from a Biblical worldview, is the practice of generational faithfulness.  It is the union of one man and one woman with all that they uniquely bring into partnership for the benefit of family and community.  In God’s words, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18 ESV).
  • A Mother’s Take on Intimacy (
    We’ve all heard stories or statistics about how physical intimacy effects men and women differently – usually as a warning to non-married adolescents. But this was not an accident. God did it on purpose.
    God created us women to be organizers, list-makers, Do-ers, Feel-ers, Listeners, Care-takers. He knew we would zero in on those roles that cause us to put others first, so He created man with a strong physical desire to help remind us to enjoy our husbands.
    In case you weren’t aware, it just so happens that the only way to become a mother is through physical intimacy – the very thing our husbands most desire, not from an unhealthy or dirty intention our society has sometimes made it to be, but as a way of expressing the love between one another. (I suppose in this day and age you could argue we have science that can help us, but I’m referring to the first and most natural way, before the science existed.)
  • Our Home and Environs – Part 1 (

    One of the greatest needs in the world today is proper home life, in particular, and good human relations, in general.

    Life, on a whole (which comes from God), is taken so lightly (from conception to termination) that regard and respect are no longer qualities associated with man dealing with man.

  • How a wife can defeat her husband. (
    It is better to live in a desert land, than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman. (Proverbs 21:19,
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Vaderschap ingesteld verbondschap door de Schepper


Enkele maanden geleden hebben wij hier in de Engelse artikelen het moederschap en vaderschap onder de loep gehouden.

Doorheen de geschiedenis is de rol en het begrip van “vaderschap” erg veranderd.  zelfs in de patriarchale culturen is men op een bepaald ogenblik gekomen tot het aanschouwen van het vaderschap als een minimale rol en als de zwakste persoon van het gezin en degene die niet echt nodig is.

Op 28 juni 1993 , stelde TIME magazine in een artikel over Vaderschap de vraag: “Waar zijn al de Vaders ? ” tot op vandaag zijn er massa’s kinderen die die vraag nog steeds stellen in hun leven.

Oorsprong van het Vaderschap

In het aller begin van de mensheid, na dat God een man (Adam) en en vrouw (Eva) had geschapen, verzocht de Schepper hen zich te vermenigvuldigen, wat betekende dat zij kinderen moesten krijgen. Zoals zij voor de natuur en de gehele Schepping van God zorg moesten dragen zouden zij ook zorg moeten gaan dragen over hun kinderen of hun nageslacht. Ook al zouden al die zorgen voor hen zelf en het nageslacht niet altijd makkelijk zijn, want de zwangerschap op zich zou al niet altijd zo makkelijk verlopen. Man en vrouw zouden inspanningen moet leveren om alles goed te doen verlopen.

16 Tot de vrouw zei hij: „Ik zal de smart van uw zwangerschap+ zeer doen toenemen;* met barensweeën zult gij kinderen voortbrengen,+ en uw sterke begeerte zal naar uw man uitgaan, en hij zal over u heersen.”+

17 En tot A̱dam zei hij: „Omdat gij naar de stem van uw vrouw hebt geluisterd en van de boom zijt gaan eten waaromtrent ik u geboden had:+ ’Gij moogt daarvan niet eten’, is de aardbodem om uwentwil vervloekt.+ Met smart zult gij de opbrengst ervan eten al de dagen van uw leven.+ 18 En doorns en distels zal hij u voortbrengen,+ en gij moet de plantengroei van het veld eten. 19 In het zweet van uw aangezicht zult gij brood eten, totdat gij tot de aardbodem terugkeert, want daaruit werdt gij genomen.+ Want stof zijt gij en tot stof zult gij terugkeren.”+

20 Hierna gaf A̱dam zijn vrouw de naam E̱va,*+ omdat zij de moeder moest worden van een ieder die leeft.+ (Genesis 3:16-20)

This is Eva

De Vrouw – This is Eva (Photo credit: Stuck in Customs)

Aldus kunnen wij Eva als onze aartsmoeder aanschouwen. De eerste Adam (want later zou God een nieuwe of tweede Adam voorzien) werd de eerste vader op deze aarde.

4 A̱dam nu had gemeenschap met E̱va, zijn vrouw, en zij werd zwanger.+ Mettertijd baarde zij Ka̱ïn*+ en zei: „Ik heb met de hulp van Jehovah een man voortgebracht.”*+Later baarde zij wederom, [namelijk] zijn broer A̱bel.+ (Genesis 4:1-2)

Daarop volgden nog ander kinderen en die kinderen kregen op hun beurt ook weer kinderen.

17 Naderhand had Ka̱ïn gemeenschap met zijn vrouw+ en zij werd zwanger en baarde He̱noch. Daarna ging hij een stad bouwen en noemde de naam van de stad naar de naam van zijn zoon He̱noch.+18 Later werd aan He̱noch I̱rad geboren. En I̱rad werd de vader van Mehu̱jaël, en Mehu̱jaël werd de vader van Methu̱saël, en Methu̱saël werd de vader van La̱mech. (Genesis 4:17-18)

De Schepper volgde het gebeuren en hielp hier en daar voor het voorzien van kinderen.

10 Toen zei Jehovah’s engel tot haar: „Ik zal uw zaad zeer vermenigvuldigen,+ zodat het wegens het grote aantal niet geteld zal worden.”+ (Genesis 16:10)

17 Toen A̱bram nu negenennegentig jaar oud was, verscheen Jehovah aan A̱bram en zei tot hem:+ „Ik ben God de Almachtige.*+ Wandel voor mijn aangezicht en betoon u onberispelijk.+En ik wil mijn verbond geven tussen mij en u,+ opdat ik u zeer, zeer moge vermenigvuldigen.”+ (Genesis 17:1-2)

20 Maar wat I̱smaël betreft, ik heb u gehoord. Zie! Ik wil hem zegenen en wil hem vruchtbaar maken en wil hem zeer, zeer vermenigvuldigen.+ Hij zal stellig twaalf oversten* voortbrengen, en ik wil hem tot een grote natie doen worden.+ (Genesis 17:20)

13 En wat de zoon van de slavin+ betreft, ik zal ook hem tot een natie maken, omdat hij uw nakomeling is.”+ (Genesis 21:13)

’En ik wil uw zaad vermenigvuldigen als de sterren aan de hemel en ik wil aan uw zaad al deze landen geven;+ en door bemiddeling van uw zaad zullen alle natiën der aarde zich stellig zegenen’,*+ten gevolge van het feit dat A̱braham naar mijn stem heeft geluisterd* en zijn plichten jegens mij, mijn geboden, mijn inzettingen en mijn wetten steeds in acht heeft genomen.” (Genesis 26:4-5)

17 ik u voorzeker zal zegenen en uw zaad voorzeker zal vermenigvuldigen als de sterren aan de hemel en als de zandkorrels die aan de zeeoever zijn;+ en uw zaad zal de poort* van zijn vijanden in bezit nemen.+ (Genesis 22:17)

10 Jehovah, UW God, heeft U vermenigvuldigd en ziet, GIJ zijt heden zo talrijk als de sterren aan de hemel.+ (Deuteronomium 1:10)

Maker ook Vader

Als Maker van de eerste mensen, Adam en Eva, was God hun Schepper maar ook de Vader van de gehele schepping. Hierdoor konden Adam en Eva hun maker ook Vader noemen. Zij hadden alles is hun bereik, gekregen van God de Vader.

Belangrijk ingestelde overeenkomst

Uit meerdere Bijbelteksten kunnen wij opmaken dat het vaderschap eigenlijk iets bijzonders is dat ook door God ingesteld is geworden. In verscheidene gevallen was het de Schepper Jehovah God die ook zei dat Hij deze of gene (zoals Abraham ) had gekozen. Vaderschap is een roeping, niet zomaar een baan . Het is een roeping, omdat Jehovah zei dat Hij Abraham had gekozen zodat de uitgezochte of uitverkorene zijn kinderen zou afdwingen. Het vaderschap kan aldus aanschouwd worden als een roeping die komt van de Aller Hoogste van alle werkgevers. Het is vastgesteld door God om Zijn goddelijke doeleinden te bereiken. de aarde zou bevolkt worden door mens en dier in een omgeving van aarde met begroeiing en met watervlakten. Deze roeping die ook aan Abraham werd toegekend, wordt genoemd in de Schrift een “convenant” of “Verbond” genoemd.

Meestal wordt een formele, plechtige en bindende overeenkomst of belangrijke afspraak, een “Convenant” genoemd. Hieruit zouden wij mogen besluiten dat de overeenkomst met Abraham ook door God als een belangrijke overeenkomst werd aanschouwd. Voor Hem was het een Verbond met een waarde die de verdere gemeenschap zou moeten herkennen. In het 17de hoofdstuk van Genesis is dit convenant vastgelegd in de eerste 4 verzen waarbij ons ook de gezegende leeftijd van de Aartsvader kenbaar wordt gemaakt. Op 99 jarige leeftijd verscheen God Abraham en gaf hem te kennen dat Hij God de Almachtige was die voor alles kon zorgen en met hem bereid was een verbond aan te gaan. Tussen Jehovah, de Almachtige God en Abraham stelde Hij dat Abraham “zeer zal vermenigvuldigen”. Hierop toonde Abraham zich dankbaar en getuigde dat wat hem betrof, zijn verbond ook met God was en dat Deze de Vader van vele volken zou worden.

17 Toen A̱bram nu negenennegentig jaar oud was, verscheen Jehovah aan A̱bram en zei tot hem:+ „Ik ben God de Almachtige.*+ Wandel voor mijn aangezicht en betoon u onberispelijk.+ En ik wil mijn verbond geven tussen mij en u,+ opdat ik u zeer, zeer moge vermenigvuldigen.”+

Hierop viel A̱bram op zijn aangezicht,+ en God* sprak verder met hem en zei: „Wat mij betreft, zie! mijn verbond is met u,+ en gij zult stellig een vader van een menigte natiën worden.+ En uw naam zal niet meer A̱bram* worden genoemd, en uw naam moet A̱braham* worden, want tot een vader van een menigte natiën wil ik u maken. En ik wil u zeer, zeer vruchtbaar maken en wil u tot natiën doen worden, en koningen zullen uit u voortkomen.+

En ik wil mijn verbond gestand doen tussen mij en u+ en uw zaad na u overeenkomstig hun geslachten, als een verbond tot onbepaalde tijd,+ om mij aan u en aan uw zaad na u als God* te doen kennen.+ En ik wil aan u en aan uw zaad na u het land van uw inwonende vreemdelingschap geven,+ ja, het gehele land Ka̱naän, als een bezit tot onbepaalde tijd; en ik zal mij stellig aan hen als God doen kennen.”+

En God zei verder tot A̱braham: „Wat u aangaat, gij dient mijn verbond te houden, gij en uw zaad na u, overeenkomstig hun geslachten.+ (Genesis 17:1-9)

Nederlands: Minister President Beel in huiseli...

Vaderschap en gezin. – Minister President Beel in huiselijke kring, met vrouw en kinderen in huiskamer. 2 juli 1946. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

God riep vaderschap tot een verbond en maakte het daardoor ook tot een bindende overeenkomst. Toch is vaderschap meer dan alleen dat. Vele vaders kijken soms alsof het gewoon dat is: ‘Een bindende overeenkomst’, en dat daarmee de kous af is. Maar velen vergeten dat vaderschap meer inhoud dan enkel en alleen de tittel. De bindende overeenkomst is meer dan een wettelijke bepaling. Het is een benaming voor iets dat een zeer grote lading dekt en veel verantwoordelijkheid eist.

De laatste jaren zijn ouders wel meer geconfronteerd met het legale van dat vaderschap en moederschap. doordat het ouderschap zeer lichtzinnig is opgenomen, de laatste jaren, heeft men veel ouders die elkaar de rug hebben toegekeerd en de kinderen de dupe lieten worden van hun echtscheidingsverhaal.  In vele gevallen was de eerste hoofdbekommernis van die mensen niet het wel en wee van hun kinderen, maar was hun eigen vrijheid de voornaamste bekommernis. als eerste vraag bij het uit elkaar gaan, kwam meestal de gedachte eerst op “Wat zal de rechter me aan doen?” Later komt bij velen de vraag op “Wat is mijn juridische verantwoordelijkheid?” en vervolgens “Wie zal de kinderen krijgen?” of “Wie zal er voor de kinderen zorgen?” ” Hoeveel moet ik betalen?”

Veel te laat, worden zij dan wakker geschud om ernstig over de verantwoordelijkheid betreft de kinderen na te denken. Maar toch ontgaat velen dan nog de ‘conventuele’ verantwoordelijkheid.

Vaderschap gaat over de generationele overdracht van de mandaten (eis, bepalingen, rechten) ingesteld door het Allerhoogste orgaan in het Universum, namelijk de Maker van dit alles, Jehovah God.

In een convenant wordt er vooropgesteld dat er partijen zijn die over gaan om met elkaar een verbond te sluiten in wederzijdse overeenstemming. In dat ‘Verbond’ wil men dingen vaststellen of bestatigen.  Men wil er dingen in bevestigen die duurzaam zijn en voor meerdere generaties kunnen duurzaam zijn. Dus in vaderschap, is het een beslissing voor de man om niet enkel een vader te zijn en is het niet alleen een besluit met betrekking tot zijn kinderen. Vaderschap kan trouwens enkel maar ontstaan bij een overeenkomst met een ander die voor de komst van kinderen kan zorgen. Dat kan een moeder zijn, maar ook tot adoptie overgaande ouders, of tegenwoordig meer en meer opnemende ouderrollen inhouden, als voedstervader. In alle gevallen van het kind tot zich nemen en erkennen als kind van zich, kan men het zich vader(papa)  laten noemen en geeft men het kind iets mee dat van generatie op generatie zal over gaan.

Het ‘Vaderschap’ is een roeping waarbij men de verantwoordelijkheid draagt over het desbetreffende kind, maar ook over de generatie waarin het zal leven. Want datgene wat men het kind zal mee geven zal het verder mee dragen in haar cultuur en mee geven aan haar volgende generaties.

Father and son

Father and son (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Velen zijn vergeten dat vaderschap eigenlijk een opdracht is van God. Mogen wij daarom nog even herinneren aan het begin van dit artikel en aan het begin van de mensheid. In de tuin van Eden vertelde God Adam en Eva vruchtbaar te zijn en zich te vermenigvuldigen. De reden was om het beeld van God te repliceren door de geschiedenis heen, zodat de vader een dergelijk beeld van God in hun kinderen kon zien, waarbij die kinderen het huis van hun eigen ouders zouden uitgaan om weer een nieuw thuis te creëren, een microwereld in het grote geheel, waarop God zou kunnen besluiten of het goed was of in het slechte geval, dat het niet goed was.

In het scheppingsverhaal zien wij telkens dat God het geschapene bekeek en dan Zijn mening er over uitsprak. Hij zag dat het goed was, vooraleer over te gaan tot iets nieuws te scheppen. Wij mogen er van overtuigd zijn dat Zijn Scheppingsverhaal nog niet ten einde is gekomen. Uit de geschiedenis leren wij wel dat God er voor gezorgd heeft dat er een Nieuwe Schepping verwezenlijkt werd, met de komst van de 2° Adam. Met die man heeft God een Nieuw Verbond gemaakt, en vallen wij onder deze nieuwe regeling die wij al of niet ter harte kunnen nemen.

Wij zouden er daarom beter aan doen ook mee te helpen om het beeld van God over heel de wereld te verspreiden en er voor te zorgen dat ons nageslacht kennis heeft van de Aller Hoogste en Allergrootste Maker van alle dingen, de Almachtige God aan wie alle eer en glorie toe behoort. Hiij is het die iedereen glorie geeft maar ook glorie terug verlangt. Kinderen, als deel van hun ouders, en de ouders zullen steeds moeten beseffen aan wie zij zich moeten onderwerpen en er getuigen.

 Ja, de stem van Jehovah doet de hinden ineenkrimpen van weeën+ En ontbloot de wouden.*+ En in zijn tempel zegt een ieder: „Glorie!”+ (Psalmen 29:9)

Daarom bestaat er een dwingende reden voor* dat GIJ in onderworpenheid zijt, niet alleen vanwege die gramschap, maar ook vanwege [UW] geweten.+ Want daarom betaalt GIJ ook belastingen; want zij zijn Gods openbare dienaren,*+ die juist dit doel voortdurend dienen.* Geeft* aan allen wat hun toekomt: aan hem die [vraagt om] de belasting, de belasting;+ aan hem die [vraagt om] de schatting, de schatting; aan hem die [vraagt om] vrees, die vrees;+ aan hem die [vraagt om] eer, die eer.+ (Romeinen13: 5-7)

20 Voorts sprak God al deze woorden* en zei:+

„Ik ben Jehovah, uw God,*+ die u uit het land Egy̱pte heb geleid, uit het slavenhuis.+ Gij moogt geen andere goden*+ tegen mijn persoon in* hebben.

Gij moogt u geen gesneden beeld maken, noch enige gedaante gelijkend op iets wat in de hemel boven of wat op de aarde beneden of wat in de wateren onder de aarde is.+ Gij moogt u voor die niet buigen, noch u ertoe laten bewegen ze te dienen,*+ want ik, Jehovah, uw God, ben een God die exclusieve toewijding eist,*+ die straf voor de dwaling van vaders brengt over zonen,* over het derde geslacht en over het vierde geslacht,* wanneer het hen betreft die mij haten,+ maar die liefderijke goedheid* betracht jegens het duizendste geslacht* wanneer het hen betreft die mij liefhebben en mijn geboden onderhouden.*+

Gij moogt de naam van Jehovah, uw God, niet op onwaardige wijze* opnemen,*+ want Jehovah zal niet ongestraft laten wie zijn naam op onwaardige wijze opneemt.+ (Exodus 20:1-7)

God hoort de Allerhoogste Vader en Koning te zijn van al de kinderen en al de ouders (Psalm 47:7) en Hij hoort de sterkste Vader te zijn voor allen (Jesaja 9:6)

In het beeld van God zijn wij geschapen en hebben wij de mogelijkheid gekregen om kinderen voort te brengen. Hiertoe heeft God ons het ‘Vaderschap’ gegeven. De Schepper heeft hiervoor voor begeleiding gezorgd door Zijn Woord ter beschikking te stellen van iedereen. Hij heeft ook kenbaar gemaakt dat wij zelf onze eigen verantwoordelijkheid moeten dragen en voor onze gezinnen moeten zorgen. Wij zelf moeten ook onze kinderen begeleiding en kennis doen vergaren. Wij moeten er op toe zien dat ook onze kinderen voldoende kansen krijgen om te slagen.

We kunnen niet kiezen voor onze kinderen, we kunnen het niet verbergen voor negatieve ervaringen of de pijn die dit tijdperk tot hen en anderen kan brengen. Wij kunnen er wel voor zorgen ervoor dat, wij net als onze hemelse Vader, we toegewijd zijn om hen te instrueren, te begeleiden en hen te beschermen.

De meeste mannen denken dat de rol van een vader of moeder gewoon is voor het creëren van een kind met een vrouw. Het maken van kinderen is eenvoudig. Vandaag doen er zelfs velen dat zonder zich een man of een vrouw in de echt genomen te hebben.  er zijn er zelfs bij die kinderen maken zonder uit te gaan van enig liefdes aspect, maar gewoon voor het genot van de seks. Vele mensen vandaag hebben zich verlaagd tot de zelfde voortplantingsfuncties van andere zoogdieren.

Wij moeten er op toe zien dat de mens zijn edele positie mag behouden en waardig is. een kind moet meer zijn dan het gevolg van een seksuele handeling. Ook moet dat wezen dat ter aarde komt ook zelf verhoogd worden. Juist het verhogen van een kind, is het lastige deel .

In feite, heeft vaderschap veel meer te maken met banden van het hart, dan met de biologische banden. Banden die zijn gemaakt van die onbreekbare verbinding gevormd door de liefde .

Vaderschap is liefdevol toezien op een kind, biologisch of niet, met een liefde die hen het gevoel geeft dat ze altijd worden gehoord en nooit genegeerd. De vader moet een toeverlaat en mentor zijn. Hij moet het kind het gevoel mee geven dat het belangrijk is. Ook moet hij er voor zorgen dat oren altijd klaar staan om te horen wat het kind te zeggen heeft. Maar ook moet hij er voor zorgen dat het kind zal leren luisteren naar de ouders maar ook naar hen die mede instaan voor de opvoeding, zoals leerkrachten en leermeesters. De ouder moet de belangrijkste schakel zijn in het leerproces van het kind.

Estafette loop

In het volgende hoofdstuk: “Vaderschap complex en uniek verschijnsel”  gaan wij verder kijken hoe veel mensen niet meer geïnteresseerd zijn in het hebben van kinderen en neer kijken op degenen die de tijd nemen om een ​​aantal kinderen te hebben. Hierbij willen wij op het belang wijzen van kinderen die de toekomstige generatie vertegenwoordigen maar ook mee zullen moeten helpen om de voorgaande te dragen. Als wij naar het snel industrieel en financieel opkomende China kijken, zien wij dat de vroegere één kind politiek ernstige gevolgen heeft op de last van de huidige populatie.  Zonder kinderen is er geen voortzetting van het volk. Met te weinig kinderen zullen er niet genoeg werkende mensen in staat zijn om te zorgen voor de mensen die niet meer kunnen werken.

Ook zullen wij kijken hoe belangrijk respect, eer, en ondersteuning wel zijn voor degenen die willen zorgen voor de volgende generatie. Vaderschap en moederschap mogen nu erg onder druk staan, maar wij moeten er voor zorgen dat deze spoedig een opwaardering zullen krijgen.

Deze generatie moet inzien dat indien ouderschap niet naar waarde wordt geschat er weldegelijk problemen kunnen rijzen. De convenanten moeten worden doorgegeven ! Het woord dat wordt gebruikt vandaag is erfenis. Het atletische woord voor dat covenant is het passeren van het stokje voor de estafette loop. wij moeten allemaal onze loop kunnen beëindigen op een goede wijze. Iedereen die ter wereld komt zal zijn of haar doel moeten bereiken.

In deze race die elke mens moet lopen, maakt het niet uit hoe snel je bent, maar hoe nauwkeurig je het stokje kan door geven! In het verbond, wordt het stokje doorgegeven naar beneden.

Het convenant kan een belofte van goede dingen inhouden of het kan een vloek van slechte dingen over brengen. Dit naargelang de keuze van de ouders. In het vaderschap is er geen grijs gebied. U zult iets doorgeven aan je kinderen of je wilt of niet .

Misschien moeten meer mensen eens denken over de waarschuwing die de eerste Vader heeft mee gegeven aan de mensheid. die maker waarschuwde om op te letten aan wie wij eer wensen te geven.  Wij moeten niet zo maar gaan buigen voor iedereen, ook niet onze kinderen. Ook moeten wij onze kinderen niet meer gaan dienen dan nodig. Wij moeten hen tot voorbeeld zijn en wij moeten er voor zorgen dat zij de juiste dingen leren. De verkeerde dingen die wij hen aanleren, zullen hun gevolgen ook bij hen hebben. De Allereerste Vader zal steeds blijven toekijken op Zijn Schepping en zal steeds een ijverige god zijn. Wij mogen er zelfs van overtuigd zijn dat de God der goden er op toe zal zien dat eenieder zijn portie zal krijgen.  daarbij hoort ook het straffen van de kinderen voor de zonden van de vaderen, de derde en vierde generatie van hen die Hem haten. Voor hen die God liefhebben en getrouw zijn heeft de Maker ook de belofte dat Hij hen zal naderen en helpen. Hen die Hem zoeken zal Hij tegemoet komen.En de getrouwen zal Hij ook trouw tonen tot in duizend geslachten van hen die Hem en Zijn geboden liefhebben.

Van bijzonder belang in onze tijd is uitleg van de term ” Vader “, dat is onder de loep genomen door feministische theologen als een schadelijke metafoor die het gevolg is van een patriarchale kerk structuur en cultuur Gregory’s .

De naam ” Vader ” , zei Gregory , leidt ons tot nadenken ( 1 ) een Wezen dat de bron en oorzaak van al en ( 2 ) het feit dat dit Wezen heeft een relatie met een ander -een kan alleen maar ” Vader ” als er is een kind betrokken . Zo is de menselijke term ” Vader ” leidt tot een natuurlijk te denken aan een ander lid van de Drie-eenheid , meer dan wordt gesuggereerd door een term als ” Schepper ” of ” Maker” overwegen . Door te bellen naar God ” Vader ” , Gregory notities , begrijpt men dat er bij God een kind van alle eeuwigheid , een tweede persoon die regeert met hem , gelijk en eeuwig met hem.

” Vader ” impliceert ook de initiatiefnemer van een generatie , degene die het leven verwekt in plaats van het bedenken het. en brengt het tot bloei in de geboorte . Dit is de wijze van bestaan ​​, de weg van de oorsprong en wezen , van de Eerste Persoon van de Drie-eenheid . Hij handelt in trinitarische leven in een modus van het bestaan ​​verwant aan dat van een vader in het aardse rijk. Voor de tijd , binnen het mysterie van de Heilige Drievuldigheid , God gegenereerd een andere persoon, de Zoon , als menselijke vaders genereren zaad.

Nergens Gregory , suggereren dat dit ” Vader ” is een mannelijk wezen : ” Het is duidelijk dat deze metafoor bevat een diepere betekenis dan voor de hand liggende ” , merkt hij op . De diepere betekenis , is te vinden in een passage van Paulus aan de Efeziërs :

We vaak voor lief nemen dat een persoon met een eigen identiteit heeft van nature een overeenkomstige specifieke rol en verantwoordelijkheid uit te voeren . Er is echter vaak weinig in beide rol of verantwoordelijkheid zijn natuurlijke … beiden iets meer dan sociale constructies .

In de negentiende eeuw , vaderschap aangetrokken tot het leveren van religieuze kader van het gezin , de leiding van de familie en toonaangevende gebeden. De vader was ook de familie kostwinner en eventueel beroepsonderwijs leraar van zijn zoon , alleen voor met zijn kinderen zichzelf nadat ze waren niet meer peuters . De moeder was de belangrijkste ouder vooral omdat de taak van de vader in de industriële revolutie bracht hem vaak te reizen .

Tijdens het begin van de twintigste eeuw , vaderschap werd nog meer betrokken bij kinderen met vaders verwacht steeds meer thuis te zijn en weg van de pub of cafe dat niet enige zoon zijn over- bemoederd in steeds gay! Vaders werden verwacht om hun kinderen te leren , neem ze uit en de band met hen van zelfs jonge leeftijd . Interessant is dat de ‘natuurlijke’ wens van vaders dicht bij hun kinderen te zijn maar eigenlijk ontstaan ​​in de twintigste eeuw . Voor die tijd was het ‘natuurlijk’ voor vaders op armlengte te blijven van hun jonge , pre – volwassen kinderen .

Tegen het einde van de twintigste eeuw , vaderschap gemuteerd nog maar eens. De ‘ verzorgende vader nu co – ouders zijn kinderen ongeacht het geslacht . Niet elke vader keurt deze betekenis van het vaderschap . Sommige vaders graag zien dat hun kinderen alleen in het weekend – als dat . Toch heeft vaderschap veranderd met vaders meestal besteedt veel meer tijd met hun kinderen dan ze deden in de negentiende eeuw . Vaderschap Vandaag leunt nog steeds op haar economische rol , maar omvat inmiddels traditionele moederschap verantwoordelijkheden met betrekking tot de kinderen . Dit is natuurlijk deels een reactie op de groei van het verkeer en de werkgelegenheid van vrouwen de vrouwen .

Kortom , de vroegmoderne vader was er nauwelijks .

Daarentegen moet de laatmoderne vader worden betrokken . Dat is nogal een dramatische ommekeer voor een belangrijke identiteit in een beperkt geografisch en historisch kader.


Aanvullende lectuur:

  1. Schepper en Blogger God 2 Beeld en gelijkenis
  2. Schepper en Blogger God 3 Les en oplossing
  3. Schepper en Blogger God 5 Te Vertellen zaken
  4. Geschapen om te leven in relatie met God
  5. Het begin van Jezus #2 Aller Begin
  6. Het begin van Jezus #3 Voorgaande Tijden
  7. Eva’s zeven dochters
  8. Broeders en Zusters in Christus door de eeuwen heen #1 Abraham de aartsvader
  9. Materialisme, “would be” leven en aspiraties #2
  10. Materialisme, “would be” leven en aspiraties #5
  11. Fragiliteit en actie #8 Eerste Wetsvoorziening
  12. God trekt ons voortdurend naar zichzelf
  13. Aanvoelen en kennis
  14. De fout is diegene van welke wij niets leren


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Seeing or not seeing and willingness to find God

Nearly 2 000 years ago

Nearly two thousand years ago a man preaching in the desert saw his cousin coming near. John the Baptist, perhaps not knowing so much about his cousin, understood how he came unto earth and what his position was.

English: John the Baptist baptizing Christ

John the Baptist baptizing Christ (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

John seeing Jesus coming toward him yelled out

“Here he is, God’s Passover Lamb! He forgives the sins of the world! This is the man I’ve been talking about, ‘the one who comes after me but is really ahead of me.’

(Jesus was born or came into existence after John the Baptist, but had his function already planned by God long before John the Baptist, Isaiah, Isaac and Abraham.) John the Baptist knew that his task was been to get Israel ready to recognize him as the God-Revealer.

” (29)  On the next day Yoḥanan saw יהושע {Jehsua} coming toward him, and said, “See, the Lamb of Elohim who takes away the sin of the world!{1} {Footnote: 1Mt. 1:21, Titus 2:14, 1 John 3:5 & 8.}  (30)  “This is He of whom I said, ‘After me comes a Man who has become before me, for He was before me.’ {1 Footnote: 1See v. 15.}  (31)  “And I did not know Him, but that He might be revealed to Yisra’ĕl, therefore I came immersing in water.” ” (John 1:29-31 The Scriptures 1998+)

Jesus was placed by God in the womb of Miriam (Mary/Maria) to come on earth as the fulfilment of the Word of God spoken in the garden of Eden, providing Adam and Eve a solution for what they had done.

Baptism with water and spirit

At that time in the river Jordan God Himself led His Voice be heard to all who stood around John the Baptist baptising Jesus. And the Voice made known that it was the son of God who stood there in the water. Still two thousand years later many do not want to accept that it was the “son of God” who stood there to start his official adult life of witnessing for God.

Jan Brueghel the Elder, John the Baptist preaching

Jan Brueghel the Elder, John the Baptist preaching (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

John had come to baptise with water, giving the people a good bath and scrubbing sins from their life so they could get a fresh start with God. John clinched his witness that he watched the Spirit, like a dove flying down out of the sky, making himself at home in him, and that The One who authorized him to baptise with water told him, ‘The One on whom you see the Spirit come down and stay, this One will baptise with the Holy Spirit.’ As many prophets before him, Jesus was a man who was willing to give himself in the hands of the Creator God, who had told mankind that he was His son.

” (16)  And having been immersed, יהושע {Jehsua} went up immediately from the water, and see, the heavens were opened, and He saw the Spirit of Elohim descending like a dove and coming upon Him,  (17)  and see, a voice out of the heavens, saying, “This is My Son, the Beloved, in whom I did delight.”” (Matthew 3:16-17 The Scriptures 1998+)

God’s Passover Lamb to be seen

The people could see the one who John the Baptist called “God’s Passover Lamb.” There were two disciples of John who heard him and went after Jesus. Jesus looked over his shoulder and said to them, “What are you after?” They said, “Rabbi” (which means “Teacher“), “where are you staying?” He replied, “Come along and see for yourself.” They came, saw where he was living, and ended up staying with him for the day but also got to see what Jesus could mean for them. They believed they had found the “Messiah” (that is, “Christ“). (John 1:29-42) From that day onwards they kept their eyes on Jesus, and got to know more on the relation of Jesus and his Father the Only One True. they also came to understand that this rabbi could be the send one of God by whom they, and we, can come closer to God, the author and finisher of our faith. In Jesus they could find and can we find peace, forgiveness, rest, grace. They where willing to see what had happened and were going to see more incomprehensible thing the three years afterwards.

Second Adam also of flesh and blood

There may be many gods in the world, but there is only One True God Divine Creator, and That God is not comparable to any human being except to His son. God is Spirit (John 4:24) but His sons are human beings. His first son and daughter where the first Adam and Eve. But those first creations turned against their Creator. At that time, in the beginning of Creation, the Creator took care that a solution for their sin was given to the world. God was prepared to make a second Adam, who would bring salvation and as such would be called the “Christ” or “Messiah“. In him people could once again see that all people are created in the image of God. Though all children which came after the first Adam received the deficiencies from their forefathers. Being created straight ahead from the Source of Life, Jehovah God, the second Adam, would receive the opportunity to prove human kind that a human being could follow the Will of the Most High, and could stay pure and un-blamed.

Not able to be seen

God can not be seen by man or he would die, but Jesus could be seen by many. Jesus like any other man could be tempted, though God can not be tempted nor sin. Jesus could sin but did not.

” (20)  But He said, “You are unable to see My face, for no man does see Me and live.”” (Exodus 33:20 The Scriptures 1998+)

” (18)  No one has ever seen Elohim.1 The only brought-forth Son, who is in the bosom of the Father, He did declare.2 Footnotes: 1See 5:37, 6:46, 1 John 4:12. 2The pre-existent Son declared, and was the One who appeared to men.” (John 1:18 The Scriptures 1998+)

” (24)  “Elohim is Spirit, and those who worship Him need to worship in spirit and truth.”” (John 4:24 The Scriptures 1998+)

Revelation to be seen

What we can see is what God reveals to the world and let us to be seen. Jesus declared his Father and made Him clear for all to understand what He want from us and How He thinks and works. Jesus was prepared to listen to the Voice of his Father, his God and the God of Abraham, making this voice know all over the world.

” (24)  and said, ‘See, יהוה {Jehovah} our Elohim has shown us His esteem and His greatness, and we have heard His voice from the midst of the fire. Today we have seen that Elohim speaks with man – and he lives!” (Deuteronomy 5:24 The Scriptures 1998+)

Flesh blood and bones, human and ghost or spirit

At the river Jordan people could see that God was in their midst and declared Jesus to be His son. Ghost has no flesh, blood nor bones, but Jesus had this all. That Jesus was no spirit, even not after he had died he proved to his disciples when he came under their midst and showed his wounds.

” (30)  And it came to be, when He sat at the table with them, having taken the bread, He blessed, and having broken, He was giving it to them.  (31)  And their eyes were opened and they recognised Him. And He disappeared from their sight.  (32)  And they said to each other, “Was not our heart burning within us as He was speaking to us on the way, and as He was opening the Scriptures to us?”  (33)  And rising up that same hour they returned to Yerushalayim, and found the eleven and those who were with them gathered together,  (34)  saying, “The Master was truly raised, and has appeared to Shim?on!”  (35)  And they related what took place on the way, and how He was recognised by them in the breaking of the bread.  (36)  And as they were saying this, יהושע {Jehsua} Himself stood in the midst of them, and said to them, “Peace to you.”  (37)  And being startled and frightened, they thought they had seen a spirit.  (38)  And He said to them, “Why are you troubled? And why do doubts arise in your hearts?  (39)  “See My hands and My feet, that it is I Myself. Handle Me and see, for a spirit does not have flesh and bones as you see I have.”  (40)  And saying this, He showed them His hands and His feet.  (41)  And while they were still not believing for joy, and marvelling, He said to them, “Have you any food here?”  (42)  And they gave Him a piece of a broiled fish and some honeycomb.  (43)  And taking it He ate in their presence.  (44)  And He said to them, “These are the words which I spoke to you while I was still with you, that all have to be filled that were written in the Torah of Mosheh and the Prophets and the Psalms concerning Me.”  (45)  Then He opened their minds to understand the Scriptures,  (46)  and said to them, “Thus it has been written, and so it was necessary for the Messiah to suffer and to rise again from the dead the third day,  (47)  and that repentance and forgiveness of sins should be proclaimed in His Name to all nations, beginning at Yerushalayim.  (48)  “And you are witnesses of these matters.  (49)  “And see, I am sending the Promise of My Father upon you, but you are to remain in the city of Yerushalayim until you are clothed with power from on high.”  (50)  And He led them out as far as Bĕyth Anyah, and lifting up His hands He blessed them.  (51)  And it came to be, while He was blessing them, that He was parted from them and was taken up into the heaven.  (52)  And they, having bowed down to Him, returned to Yerushalayim with great joy,  (53)  and were continually in the Set-apart Place praising and blessing Elohim. Amĕn.” (Luke 24:30-53 The Scriptures 1998+)

Those who have not seen the son of the Non-seen

After Jesus had died the apostles had seen him again. We never have seen him but we should believe those who have seen him and those who like us can not see God but did see the son of God, יהושע {Jehsua} Jesus, the one who is the Immanuel and Messiah. We also can get the Ghost God being part of us like it was being part of Christ. By letting Him enter ourselves we shall become transformed, but we shall never become God, like Jesus also was not God. We do have to become like Christ like Jesus was like God united one in spirit. Putting on the armour of Christ and the armour of God did not make the people in the old times God nor shall it make us  to become Christ nor God.

After and of the flesh and dwelling within

In the world we can see many people who are after the flesh, do mind the things of the flesh. We who believe in Christ Jesus, to be the Saviour should be after the Spirit, do mind the things of the Spirit. Jesus did also things of the Spirit like we should do. He also told us to become worthy children of God, having God enter our hearts and to put away our carnally mind because that is death. We are assured that to be spiritually minded is life and peace; because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, because it cannot be.  Jesus learned his followers that they who are in the flesh cannot please God. He also told many parables so people could easily understand what it mean to be in Christ or to be in God, to be with God, to be for God and to do the Will of God. Those who want to do like Christ, not his or their own will, but the Will of God, can receive the Holy Spirit and as such be not in the flesh, but in the spirit if the Spirit of God truly dwells within you. Jesus had the Spirit of God dwelling in him. We should have the Spirit of God dwelling in us likewise. This dwelling of the Spirit though shall not make us, like it did not with Christ, make us the God eternal. We shall stay man of flesh and blood like Jesus was a man of flesh and blood. We also shall not escape the penalty of the garden of Eden. Jesus also did not escape that death spoken out by His Father. Jesus really died whilst God can not die. It is only by accepting that Jesus was really a man of flesh and blood who really died,that we can give respectful notice to what Jesus really did; he gave his life for the sins of many, as a ransom. Those who take Jesus to God, who can not die, make a farce of his suffering and his death.

Having spirit of Christ

Now if any man does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to him.  And if Christ is within you, the body is dead because of sin: but the Spirit is life because of righteousness. And if the Spirit of Him who raised our Lord Jesus Christ from the dead dwells within you, so He Who raised Jesus Christ from the dead will also quicken our mortal bodies by His Spirit that dwells within us.  But therefore we do have to accept Jesus his anointment and offer as Lamb of God. We clearly have to see and understand the relationship between the Father and son, who now sits at the right hand of his Father to be a mediator between God and man.

Living in spirit

Those who have faith in the actions Jesus undertook and believe he was a messenger of the Most High are not indebted to the flesh to live after the flesh.  For if we live after the flesh, we will die in flesh and totality: but if we, through the Spirit, subdue the deeds of the body, we shall live this life in spirit. It does not mean we shall not feel any pain, or we shall not have to face difficulties and temptations. Like Jesus encountered many difficulties and temptations, we also shall have to face them and the natural death. But allowing the Spirit to enter in our hearts we may count on it that He shall enable us to endure whatever we need to endure. Those who are led by the Spirit of God, are the sons of God, for they have not received the spirit of bondage, to be in fear again; but they have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby they can cry onto God like Christ called on his Father: “Abba“, “Avon”, “Father“, “our Father“.  And this Spirit bears witness to our spirit, that we are the children of God:  and if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint heirs with Jesus Christ; so that if we suffer with him, we shall also be glorified with him.

” (5)  For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the matters of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the matters of the Spirit.  (6)  For the mind of the flesh is death, but the mind of the Spirit is life and peace.  (7)  Because the mind of the flesh is enmity towards Elohim, for it does not subject itself1 to the Torah of Elohim2, neither indeed is it able, Footnotes: 1Or does not obey. 2John 15:5, 1 John 4:4, 1 John 3:9, 1 John 5:18.  (8)  and those who are in the flesh are unable to please Elohim.  (9)  But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of Elohim dwells in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Messiah, this one is not His.  (10)  And if Messiah is in you, the body is truly dead on account of sin, but the Spirit is life on account of righteousness.  (11)  And if the Spirit of Him who raised יהושע {Jehsua} from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Messiah from the dead shall also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit dwelling in you.  (12)  So then, brothers, we are not debtors to the flesh, to live according to the flesh.  (13)  For if you live according to the flesh, you are going to die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you shall live.  (14)  For as many as are led by the Spirit of Elohim, these are sons of Elohim.  (15)  For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.”  (16)  The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of Elohim,  (17)  and if children, also heirs – truly heirs of Elohim, and co-heirs with Messiah, if indeed we suffer with Him, in order that we also be exalted together.” (Romans 8:5-17 The Scriptures 1998+)

Presenting our body to allow God to enter in us, doing His Will

By the mercies of God we should present our bodies a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, by means of reasonable service. Though we can not see Christ nor God, we should put faith in him who gave his soul (=his full being) to his Father who is also our Father to Whom we should pray.  Jesus lived in this world but was not of this world, so we also should not imitate the way of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of our minds, becoming as brothers and sisters in Christ, that you may discern what is that good and acceptable, and perfect will of God. As Christ also did not want to do his will, we also should only want to do God His Will.

” (10)  let Your reign come, let Your desire be done on earth as it is in heaven.” (Matthew 6:10 The Scriptures 1998+)

” (41)  And He withdrew from them about a stone’s throw, and falling on His knees He was praying,  (42)  saying, “Father, if it be Your counsel, remove this cup from Me. Yet not My desire, but let Yours be done.”” (Luke 22:41-42 The Scriptures 1998+)

” (34)  יהושע {Jehsua} said to them, “My food is to do the desire of Him who sent Me, and to accomplish His work.” (John 4:34 The Scriptures 1998+)

” (30)  “Of Myself I am unable to do any matter. As I hear, I judge, and My judgment is righteous, because I do not seek My own desire, but the desire of the Father who sent Me.” (John 5:30 The Scriptures 1998+)

” (38)  “Because I have come down out of the heaven, not to do My own desire, but the desire of Him who sent Me.” (John 6:38 The Scriptures 1998+)

” (7)  “Then I said, ‘See, I come – in the roll of the book it has been written concerning Me – to do Your desire, O Elohim.’ ”  (8)  Saying above, “Slaughter and meal offering, and burnt offerings, and offerings for sin You did not desire, nor delighted in,” which are offered according to the Torah,  (9)  then He said, “See, I come to do Your desire, O Elohim.” He takes away the first to establish the second.  (10)  By that desire we have been set apart through the offering of the body of יהושע {Jehsua} Messiah once for all.” (Heb 10:7-10 The Scriptures 1998+)

To see and understand the sending of the son of God

We should see and understand the sending of the son of God, Jesus Christ, because we can see what is written about him in the Book of books. We should see the desire this man had and we should see the desires of his Father the Divine Creator God Who does not like to have pleasure in, sacrifices, offerings, burnt offerings, and sacrifices for sin’ (offerings regularly made under the Law). That God, whom Jesus considered to be his Father and our Father was willing to take the offering of this Nazarene Jew as the token of reconciliation. Because Jesus wanted and succeeded into doing the will of his Father the former sacrifices were set aside to be replaced by the latter, the offer of the son Jeshua, Jesus the Christ or Messiah.  And it is in the fulfilment of the will of God that we have been purified by the sacrifice, once and for all, of the body of Jesus Christ.

See things and scrutinize everything

We should see all things and search them. We should come to see what is given to the apostles and followers of Jesus Christ, to all of us who are willing to follow the teachings of the rabbi Jesus, not to think of ourselves beyond what we ought to think; but to think soberly, every man according to the measure of faith which God has distributed to him.  For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same function,  So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.  Being in the body of Christ shall not make us Christ nor god or God. but being in the body of Christ we will be entrusted with many special gifts, differing according to the grace that is given to us; some have the gift of prophecy, according to the measure of faith,  some have the gift of ministration, in his ministry; and some of teaching, in his teaching.

” (1)  I call upon you, therefore, brothers, through the compassion of Elohim, to present your bodies a living offering – set-apart, well-pleasing to Elohim – your reasonable worship.  (2)  And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you prove what is that good and well-pleasing and perfect desire of Elohim.  (3)  For I say, through the favour which has been given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he should think, but to think soberly, as Elohim has given to each a measure of belief.  (4)  For as we have many members in one body, but all members do not have the same function,  (5)  so we, the many, are one body in Messiah, and members each one of one another.  (6)  Now having different gifts, according to the favour which was given to us, let us use them accordingly: if prophecy, according to the proportion of belief;  (7)  if serving, in the serving; or he who is teaching, in the teaching;  (8)  or he who encourages, in the encouragement; or he who is sharing, in sincerity; he who is leading, in diligence; he who shows compassion, joyously.” (Romans 12:1-8 The Scriptures 1998+)

A body with blood and a spirit without blood

We should come to learn to see that Body of Christ so that we can see the preparedness of others also willing to see the gift of God, His Grace and acceptance of the offer of His son Jesus Christ.

” (16)  to be a servant of יהושע {Jehsua} Messiah to the gentiles, with the priestly duty of bringing the Good News of Elohim, so that the offering of the gentiles becomes acceptable, set apart by the Set-apart Spirit.” (Romans 15:16 The Scriptures 1998+)

The world should get to see those who are willing to see the Most High in their minds, according to the Spirit or Force of God. By willing to open our mind to God’s Force, the Holy Spirit shall be willing to enter in our soul (=our being) and will strengthen us in our faith in Christ, the son of God, making us partakers of his offering, being cleansed by his blood (the Blood of Christ).

Knowing that a Spirit has no blood, we are aware that it was really a man of blood and flesh and bones, who did not have his bones broken, but had his blood flown out of his body.

” (28)  After this, יהושע {Jehsua}, knowing that all had been accomplished, in order that the Scripture might be accomplished, said, “I thirst!”  (29)  A bowl of sour wine stood there, and they filled a sponge with sour wine, put it on hyssop, and held it to His mouth.  (30)  So when יהושע {Jehsua} took the sour wine He said, “It has been accomplished!” And bowing His head, He gave up His spirit.  (31)  Therefore, since it was the Preparation Day, that the bodies should not remain on the stake on the Sabbath – for that Sabbath was a high one – the Yehuḏim asked Pilate to have their legs broken, and that they be taken away.  (32)  Therefore the soldiers came and broke the legs of the first, and of the other who was impaled with Him,  (33)  but when they came to יהושע {Jehsua} and saw that He was already dead, they did not break His legs.  (34)  But one of the soldiers pierced His side with a spear, and instantly blood and water came out.  (35)  And he who has seen has witnessed, and his witness is true. And he knows that he is speaking the truth, in order that you might believe.  (36)  For this took place in order for the Scripture to be filled: “Not one of His bones shall be broken.”  (37)  And again another Scripture says, “They shall look on Him whom they pierced.”” (John 19:28-37 The Scriptures 1998+)

Acceptance step in the good direction

Let us look on him whom they pierced and believe who he was and what he did. By accepting Christ we are one step in the good direction to find God. Once we want to accept Jesus as the son of God who offered himself for our sins, we can continue on that path he prepared for us. Listening to the parables he told we can come to understand the way his Father thinks and handles.

God had poured out on the house of David the fulfilment of His Word that His Word could become reality and could come into the flesh (figuratively and in the person of His son Jesus Christ), and on the inhabitants of Jerusalem, the spirit of grace and of supplication so that those who are willing to see and believe will look at him whom other humans have pierced; and they shall mourn for him, as one mourns for his only son, and will grieve bitterly for him, as one grieves for his firstborn. (Zechariah 12:10, John 1:1)

To be able to find God we first have to open our mind and to be prepared to allow God His Spirit to enter in us. It is God Who calls, but we should allow Him to call us and be prepared to hear His Voice.


Preceding article: Finding God amid all the religious externals

Next: People Seeking for God


Please also do find to read:

  1. Creator of heaven and earth and everything around יהוה
  2. Only One God
  3. God of gods
  4. How are we sure God exists?
  5. Apologetics (10) – The Hard Questions: Does God Really Exist? Introducing the Teleological Argument
  6. Bible and Science (22): Bible or Science
  7. Seeking for God
  8. The Faith of Abraham
  9. Having Truth Decay?
  10. Jehovah Yahweh Gods Name
  11. God’s promises
  12. God Helper and Deliverer
  13. Trusting, Faith, calling and Ascribing to Jehovah #3 Voice of God #1 Creator and His Prophets
  14. Trusting, Faith, Calling and Ascribing to Jehovah #11 Prayer #9 Making the Name Holy
  15. Let God’s promises shine on your problems
  16. God should be your hope
  17. Walk Humbly With God
  18. Finding Strength in God
  19. Devotional – The Way to the Father (18): The Lord’s Prayer
  20. He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.
  21. The one who makes us well and gives life
  22. Jesus begotten Son of God #17 Adam, Eve, Mary and Christianity’s central figure
  23. Jesus spitting image of his father
  24. Reasons that Jesus was not God
  25. Jesus and his God
  26. The high calling of God in Christ Jesus
  27. Jesus Messiah
  28. On the Nature of Christ
  29. Christ begotten through the power of the Holy Spirit
  30. How is it that Christ pleased God so perfectly?
  31. Wishing to do the will of God
  32. A Messiah to die
  33. Jesus memorial
  34. No person has greater love than this one who surrendered his soul in behalf of his friends
  35. The redemption of man by Christ Jesus
  36. The day Jesus died
  37. Impaled until death overtook him
  38. Jesus three days in hell
  39. Christ has indeed been raised from the dead
  40. Through Christ’s death you can be adopted as a child of God
  41. Jesus is risen
  42. In the death of Christ, the son of God, is glorification
  43. Jesus begotten Son of God #11 Existence and Genesis Raising up
  44. Seeing Jesus
  45. Faith a commitment to the promises of Christ and to to the demands of Christ
  46. Jesus begotten Son of God #6 Anointed Son of God, Adam and Abraham
  47. Jesus begotten Son of God #19 Compromising fact
  48. Wishing to do the will of God
  49. Ember and light the ransomed of Jehovah
  50. Ransom for all
  51. An unblemished and spotless lamb foreknown
  52. The Song of The Lamb #5 Revelation 5
  53. The Song of The Lamb #8 Revelation 15 Lessons for us today
  54. Christ having glory
  55. Sitting at the right hand of God
  56. One mediator
  57. One Mediator between God and man
  58. No Other Name (But Jesus)
  59. Why do we need a ransom?
  60. The wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ
  61. Two states of existence before God
  62. True Hope
  63. Epitome of the one faith
  64. Our relationship with God, Jesus and eachother
  65. The Word being a quality or aspect of God Himself
  66. Nazarene Commentary Luke 3:1, 2 – Factual Data
  67. Nazarene Commentary Mark 1:1-8 – The Beginning of the Good News
  68. Nazarene Commentary Matthew 3:1-6 – A Wilderness Baptist Prepares the Way
  69. Nazarene Commentary Matthew 3:7-12 – Opposition and Two Baptisms
  70. Nazarene Commentary Luke 3:3-6 – John Preaches Baptism of Repentance
  71. He has given us the Pneuma, the force, from Him
  72. The radiance of God’s glory and the counsellor
  73. Incomplete without the mind of God
  74. The Spirit of God brings love, hope and freedom
  75. The Spirit of God imparts love,inspires hope, and gives liberty
  76. Corruption in our translations !
  77. Book of books
  78. Let us become nothing, and Christ everything
  79. Parts of the body of Christ
  80. With God All Things Are Possible
  81. Wishing to do the will of God


Additional reading:

  1. God and gods
  2. “Disciple, disciple, what do you see?” “I see Jesus looking at me.”
  3. The underlying truth in John 1:1
  4. John 1:1c Primer
  5. Basic John 1:1c
  6. Seven Lessons for John 1:1c
  7. The “Definite” John 1:1
  8. The Divine Name of God: Spoken by Jesus and Early True Christians
  9. Hebrews 1:8 – “Thy Throne, O God”


  • Preparing the Way (
    God, he tells them, can raise up children of Abraham from the stones present around them. In other words, it is not enough – God is not so impressed with their pedigree.
    Although baptism in some form did exist before John the Baptist received his calling from God, it was not a baptism of repentance, nor was it for the forgiveness of sins. There was no real forgiveness of sins under the Law of Moses because, as Paul said, it is impossible for the blood of bulls and goats to take away sins” (Hebrews 10:1-4). There was washing for purification, as first implemented with Aaron and his sons (Exodus 29:4, Leviticus 16:23-24), and for remedy of defilement (Numbers 19). And at some point (though not Biblically required), baptism (immersion in water) was added to circumcision as a requirement for Gentile proselytes to be converted to Judaism.
  • He may be made known to Israel (
    Each of the prophets who came before Christ came to fulfill a particular mission, they pointed to the coming of the messiah. Isaiah’s prophecy of the restoration of israel and salvation reaching the end of the earth links his time and that of John the baptist’s by its fulfillment because it was John the baptist who showed this light of God which would reach the end of the earth to the world. First, with his disciples, whom he fashioned their waiting for the messiah. He did not know who the messiah was, but God revealed it to him by the outpouring of the Holy spirit by the baptism of our Lord which we celebrated last sunday; this he used to testify to the crowd of the sonship of Jesus.
  • Jesus and John the Baptist (
    In Matthew 13 and 14 Jesus is rejected by the people of Nazareth where he grew up as no one special. They said he was just one of them.
  • John 1:29-42 – 19th January 2014 (
    John the Baptist expected his listeners to recall pictures from the Old Testament; the lamb provided by God for Abraham to slaughter, the lamb of Isaiah 53, led to the slaughter for the sins of God’s people; the Passover Lamb from Exodus.  The word “lamb,” for John’s listeners connected strongly with words like “sin” or “atonement” – the way in which we can be reconciled with God despite our wrongdoing.
    Lamb of God, Baptiser with the Spirit, Son of God, Messiah – John, the Gospel writer’s names for Jesus. John wants us to carry these names with us as we read his Gospel. It is as though he says to us, “You will only understand my message fully if you realise that this is what I want to show you. Here is the one who by his life and death fulfils these roles and in doing so brings hope.” As we read the Gospels let’s use these names to inform our reading and to help us understand for ourselves just who Jesus is: Lamb of God, Baptiser with the Spirit, Son of God, Messiah.
  • Engaging the Gospel – John 1:29-34 (
    By proclaiming Jesus as “the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world,” St. John the Baptist identifies him as the fulfillment of Scripture.

    He “reveals that Jesus is at the same time the suffering Servant [prophesied by Isaiah] who silently allows himself to be led to the slaughter and who bears the sin of the multitudes, and also the Paschal Lamb, the symbol of Israel’s redemption at the first Passover” (Catechism paragraph 608).

    Moreover, the Spirit’s coming upon Jesus is an explicit mark of the Messiah.

  • God Demands a Response to Jesus (
    The fact of the matter is some of us are just  too cautious about changing when clearly the time for change has come.  We procrastinate just because procrastination is what we do.  But when you meet Jesus, Jesus calls for action, immediate, swift, decisive action.  Either you love him or you don’t but you can’t just sit around and think about it.  This morning Jesus is looking for radical disciples, those who will throw caution to the wind and follow him with their whole hearts.
  • The Passover Lamb (
    When it was time for God to deliver the Israelites from bondage in Egypt, He established a way for the people to always memorialize their deliverance by instituting the Lord’s Passover. Each household was to shed the blood of a lamb that was without blemish and paint the blood on the doorposts of the home. Then, the lamb was to be roasted and eaten with unleavened bread and bitter herbs by everyone in the home, as they stood, ready to evacuate Egypt. That night, God preserved the firstborn of every home who had observed the Passover and delivered the Israelites from bondage.

    Jesus is the fulfillment of the Passover. He became what the Passover represented, God’s salvation through the shed blood of an innocent Lamb.

  • The Truth Through John Part 2 (
    God is very detailed…everything has a purpose…more than we will ever know this side of heaven.

    Does studying God’s word bring you Joy?  I sure hope it does.

  • Sunday Devotional: John 1:6-8 (
    Here we see John (the disciple) talk about John the Baptist.  John the Baptist was a forerunner to Jesus.  He was one who was sent by God to prepare the way for Jesus’ earthly ministry.  That was his calling.  He was to be a witness.  He was to point others to the light (Jesus).
  • Pastor Karl’s Challenge (
    We must not think of Jesus, however, as the offspring of God the Father. Because according to Galatians 4:4, when the Father sent Jesus into the world, He already was the Son of God. The Father sent forth His Son! If He already was the Son of God, then He did not become the Son of God through conception and birth. Rather, the Son of God became a true human being in the conception.

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